Is Your Boyfriend Not Listening To You When You Vent?

Are Your Girls Tired Of Giving You Advice About The Same Guy Every Other Week? 

Do You Need Advice On Things That You Just Don’t Want To Share With Your Family & Friends?

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  • Someone asked:
    on October 28, 2024 8:18 am
    Hi! Can you please give some tips and advice on how not overshare a lot? Like im a very talkative person and i think thats why i overshare to my friends🥹
    • SLC replied:
      on October 29, 2024 3:00 pm
      1. learn to just talk to yourself lol, and i don’t mean in a crazy way but in a way where you can get everything off you chest that you wanna say but it doesn’t necessarily have to be to someone. this can be mostly be done through journalling and/or praying 2.set some boundaries on what you should share and what you think should be off limits for everyone to know 3. relevant to the last tip, decide who you really can trust when it comes to sharing certain things. not everyone needs to know your business. that includes certain friends as well 4. listen more, the more you’re listening to other people, the less the focus is always on you. this also allows you to actually engage in conversations with others rather than oversharing and potentially not listening to what they have to say as well 5. start reminding yourself that the less people know, the more alluring you’ll seem. this will make people want to engage with you even more because you’re no longer an open book. there’s this unwritten attraction that comes with mysterious people. start using it
  • Someone asked:
    on October 27, 2024 6:53 pm
    what do you do on days you lose faith
    • SLC replied:
      on October 29, 2024 2:00 pm
      i give myself grace. not everyday is gonna be a day where you feel motivated or even disciplined and so in those days i allow myself to just be. i give myself however long i may need to feel all the emotions, rest, mope if i have to, but with that, i also promise myself that once that self-pitying time is over (i usually make sure its no longer than 48 hours), i gotta get back to myself. praying helps a lot on days like those honestly. most times i end up feeling so much better after i just pray it out and allow myself that time to take a step back. i usually go back into the grind feeling more motivated, faithful and determined. we all have those days and its okay to embrace them. just make sure those days aren’t turning into those ‘weeks or those ‘months’ etc.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 27, 2024 5:58 am
    Hi! Just want to share with u and ask what u think about this. My ex lived in australia and I live in our homecountry which is in asia. So of course he promise to me that we will go to australia /he will bring me there for vacation and of course to live there. But when we broke up I become so jealous of other girlfriends of his friends that already go there like I grief for the life that he promised to me. and sometimes I still think of the life that he used to promise to me😞
    • SLC replied:
      on October 29, 2024 1:51 pm
      hi💖 i think you need to accept the loss of that ‘potential life’ he promised you and move on. i understand that the thought of a new life in Australia was something you were looking forward to, but you can’t keep grieving over a life you never knew. i really believe everything happens for a reason and maybe you just weren’t meant to be in Australia, at least not with him. Instead of mourning the promises he made for you, why don’t you start getting excited about the new promises you can make for yourself? A good life for you isn’t over just because you can’t be in Australia. you have all the power to make a even more beautiful life for yourself than what you thought you could’ve had with him
  • Someone asked:
    on October 26, 2024 10:41 am
    Any experience on how to tolerate boredomness? I’ve been trying to get off my phone and it goes good for a couple days I get a surge of Clearheadedness and Focus but then it becomes difficult even after I do something I still have to sit with it and I don’t know to do that. Sick of it.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 29, 2024 2:44 pm
      there’s so much more to life than scrolling on our phones and the fact that you already realized that is the first step. i think you should really get yourself into some hobbies. could be anything from working out to joining a course to cooking to sewing lol. the possibilities are endless. you should pick a few that you’re interested in and learn to really immerse yourself in whatever it is. i think a part from that, you might have to learn how to ‘just be’. You need to practice being able to just sit with yourself and it not bother you. I recommend either watching some videos on it or even researching some books that can help you as well. you spend 100% of your life with yourself, learn to enjoy each moment of it.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 26, 2024 6:39 am
    I’m torn between I don’t want to need Appearances to feel good It feels like fake confidence and I don’t want to do it for other people & the world is about looks partly no matter what everyone wishes and i want to invest in myself look good feel good but now i can’t enjoy it 💖 💄
    • SLC replied:
      on October 29, 2024 2:36 pm
      one of my mottos is ‘looking good+ feeling good’ and vice versa. i don’t think theres anything wrong with feeling good when you look good. The problem is when your confidence/worth is solely based on how you look or when you’re basing your worth on how other people percieve your appearance. that’s when it gets negative. if you’re looking good for yourself then theres nothing wrong with that. it doesnt have to be ‘fake confidence’, its a known fact that humans feel better when they look good. It’s in our nature. The only thing you have to do is be real and ask yourself if you’re looking good for yourself or if you’re only looking good for the sake of other people. if the answer is the second one, then you have to start building up your self worth in a way that doesn’t have to do with other people. That doesn’t mean you start no longer looking presentable, it just means that you’re switching your worth being based on how people see you, to how you see yourself instead.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 26, 2024 4:07 am
    Hi sisterrr! Can i ask about how did u overcome your anxiety phase? I read here in your answers in one of the questions. Im currently dealing with my own anxiety tbh. I have my doctors support and it is very hard for me to deal with intrusive thoughts and i know for a fact that this anxiety is my energy blocker. Like its pulling me downwards when I always do my best to rise up and boss up. Its tiring tbh i hope u can share ur anxiety journey and how u overcome it if your comfortable sharing it. Thank you!💗
    • SLC replied:
      on October 29, 2024 2:19 pm
      hi sis! honestly the anxiety i had went through at that time was very major and so although i learned different techniques such as, breathing techniques, reframing my thoughts, meditation, exposure therapy etc, i think the one thing that really helped me was going on medication. I was against it for soo long, it just seemed so taboo to me but then one day i was reading into it and i had to ask myself, if i had any physical pain i would take medication for it so why not let medication help me with my mental pain? i finally accepted the help and got prescribed with a low dosage. within a couple weeks to months of my brain getting used to it, i really started to feel the benefits. Listen baddies deal with mental health issues too lol. i think coming to terms that mental health has no specific ‘look’ really helped me into accepting the help i needed. So yeah to answer your question, with the daily commitment of reframing my thoughts (separating myself from the anxiety), exposure therapy, journaling/praying, breathing techniques PLUS anxiety medication helped me through that tough anxiety phase. ofc we’re all different and what worked for me might not work for you. make sure you’re letting your doctors know how you feel so they can help you figure out what you need that best works for you! xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on October 25, 2024 4:19 am
    Can you share some of your new learnings about life, self love anything you want to share with us❤️❤️
    • SLC replied:
      on October 25, 2024 5:05 pm
      ofc💖 1. always choose yourself. the more you choose yourself, the more everything around you starts choosing you as well 2. never ever settle, there is always better! 3. the journey is continuous and honestly more important than the destination. the journey transforms you while the destination is the reward for that transformation 4. if someone truly values you, they will make you feel valued. you’ll never have to question. 5. always work on things that people cannot take away from you ex. your knowledge, your body, your mindset, your aura etc. 6. you wont always be motivated so you have to learn to be disciplined 7. closed mouths don’t get fed! 8. if you want something in this lifetime, you have to have the audacity to go for it 9. if you want a healthy/happy relationship, it starts with the one you have with yourself first 10. let today be today and tomorrow be tomorrow. 11.invest, invest, investttttt into yourself. whether it be your skincare, body care, nail care/hair care, clothes, mental health, mindset etc, because when you look good, you feel good & when you feel good, you look good. no money or time spent on investing in yourself is a waste. 12. everything really does work out in the end.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 25, 2024 4:12 am
    Hi girlyy! What’s your thoughts on “Let them theory”?❤️
    • SLC replied:
      on October 25, 2024 1:59 pm
      hi boo, i actually don’t know about this theory and i don’t wanna speak on any thing i don’t fully know about so let me go research and you can ask me this in like a month from now, adding the book to my list😂💞
  • Someone asked:
    on October 24, 2024 11:04 pm
    Theres an older women in her 40s that I really had looked up to that teaches Women and Girls Self-Mastery and Sovereignty ( Rich Red Witch Tings ) on tiktok. How to better themselves despite it sounding harsh, truths about men, etc and she’s very Wise even my guy friend said she has good points. So I had brought a 25 dollar downloadable Ebook from her and I sent my 1st email to her about My issues and i said ” Hi Ms. Lilith so I purchased your 25$ Hard Truth Ebook but I can’t seem to download anything at all. Do you happen to know what’s going on? ” and I sent a screenshot of what I saw on my end saying ” Sorry, you have reached your download Limit for this file ” so i even went to her tiktok to ask her if she could please check her email about an order issue ( she deleted my comment ). I woke up next morning and I didn’t see a response so I started to feel worried if I’ve been scammed so I kindly asked ” May i please get a refund back ? My problem hasn’t been resolved. ” so she did help me out and I was then able to download her 95 Word Ebook. So a couple days later she decided to try to Publicly Shame and use me as an example in one of her videos for 7 minutes telling people she checked her email and twisted and exaggerated how I kindly asked for my 25 dollars back ” I want my 25 dollars back lalallaa ” then said she already knew what type of female she was dealing with. She said on her end she saw that I download the file twice and told people that I Lied to her even though she also told people I had sent her a screenshot of what was going on and the word press error and I’ve reached my down load limit. ( on my phone cleared out my storage etc before trying to refresh the page and no luck ). She also was telling people I could’ve said i downloaded it but I’m having issues or could’ve worded it Differently. But In My head im like why does that matter i still couldn’t see the Ebook at all and there was an error. Then after she said she helped me buy sending the pdf in an email and I said thank you. Then she went on saying ” But this is how you have to deal with women because women are like children they just don’t know any better and nobody corrects them and when you do correct them they get in their feelings … “. A month ago a male follower of mines saw me posting the ladies content on my Instagram story and he dm me telling me to be careful and that she isn’t perfect and she human herself. Then I told my guy friend what happened to me and that the lady tried to publicly use me as an example in her tiktok video and he had said ” Yeah that’s a bit much over something so small. ( petty and I was never disrespect to her ) ” and he also said ” Yeah. She seems like a bitch, idek why you like her content, I mean she makes some good points but she also does too much as well. ” now I’m reevaluating the lady because that’s weird to try to shame your customer and twist what happened and their words to fit your benefit misleading people that I lied to yiu that I didnt download your Ebook ( maybe she saw my 2 attempts on her side but honestly I couldn’t see anything and there was a technical error saying I’ve reached my Download limit as well ) so if I didn’t receive and saw your Ebook how am I lying ? But its all good i honestly can’t view the lady the same anymore and won’t buy from her again 🤷‍♀️.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 25, 2024 4:39 pm
      smh that must be tough openly supporting someone you look up to and having them bash you like that. I honestly never heard of this lady before but from what you’re telling me, she doesn’t sound pleasant. 1. i’ve noticed that a lot of influencers and new aged business owners really don’t know simple business etiquette.she simply could’ve responded to you and dealt with the situation quickly. Publicly bashing a customer that supported your business is doing a lot.. and not in a good way 2. a lot of these influencers be forgetting the people who’ve got them to where they are. if you’re here purchasing her ebook and putting money in her account, she should be appreciative. social media has boosted a lot of egos. 3. hopefully this is just a lesson learned for you, as much as i love looking up to people, especially all the girlies within my niche, i make sure not to idolize them (not saying you idolized this lady btw) because at the end of the day you really don’t know someone. when they turn off that camera and go about their day to day life, they might not be the same person you look up to. So just be cautious of putting people on a higher pedestal. anyhow, i hope you still enjoyed the pdf and got something from it!
  • Someone asked:
    on October 24, 2024 2:49 pm
    I really want to reinvent myself, but I’m not sure where to begin.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 25, 2024 2:15 pm
      we love a good rebrand, lucky for you i’ve answered plenty of questions on this so i will copy x paste one of my answers for you because the formula has not changed. 1. I always say this whether it comes to rebranding or creating new goals from the jump, is to know your why, what are you doing? who are you doing it for? why are you doing it? that will always come back to be your motivating factor in keeping up with the habits it will take to be this ‘new’ or ‘improved you. 2. write out/create who your future self is, from her career/looks to how she likes her coffee lol be very specific. have fun with it too, this is your dream self, all limitations off, what does she do? how does she dress? how do people perceive her? how does she perceive herself? where does she live? What does she do on a day-to-day basis? This will help you envision ‘her’ and in turn guide you into stepping into being like this version of you daily. 3. Write out your goals. Whether its 1 year goals to goals you want to accomplish within a week, get clear on them. Make sure they are specific and attainable, the smaller you break them into, the more achievable they become on a daily basis. 4. Take action, duh!! you have to be disciplined enough to stick to these goals and form beneficial habits. It doesn’t have to be drastic right at day 1, baby steps are still steps. the most important thing is that you’re consistent with it. If you ever feel lazy go back to your ‘why’ and go back to your dream self envision, would she be the type of person that gives up so easily?? these should re-motivate you. 5. be patient & believe in yourself. at the end of the day, this rebrand is a journey, you’re not gonna be this new and improved person within a day. always give yourself grace through your best days and your worst. Keep your faith strong sis. As long as you believe in yourself, you have the power to change your life. trust yourself, be confident in yourself and have unwaivering faith that you will become the version of you that you wish to be. lastly, i have some video recommendations for you to watch, i hope they’ll help you in your journey as well. “How to ACTUALLY reinvent yourself for 2024| STEP BY STEP GUIDE TO CHANGING YOUR LIFE NOW!” – https://youtu.be/DKoz7IkrXM8?si=1szu2OVQpZdZFtJg “God Doesn’t Lead You To Failure | Changing How You Think Will Change Your Life” – https://youtu.be/nxXNPJufQuE?si=YVuUYMKTqM_mqx1i & “How to Exit Your “Lazy” Girl Era & Change Your Life | You’re Not Lazy or Unmotivated” – https://youtu.be/_1TDo5aBaLc?si=RGY3RpihiKx24TlX hope this helps💖
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