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  • Someone asked:
    on October 25, 2024 4:12 am
    Hi girlyy! What’s your thoughts on “Let them theory”?❤️
    • SLC replied:
      on October 25, 2024 1:59 pm
      hi boo, i actually don’t know about this theory and i don’t wanna speak on any thing i don’t fully know about so let me go research and you can ask me this in like a month from now, adding the book to my list😂💞
  • Someone asked:
    on October 24, 2024 11:04 pm
    Theres an older women in her 40s that I really had looked up to that teaches Women and Girls Self-Mastery and Sovereignty ( Rich Red Witch Tings ) on tiktok. How to better themselves despite it sounding harsh, truths about men, etc and she’s very Wise even my guy friend said she has good points. So I had brought a 25 dollar downloadable Ebook from her and I sent my 1st email to her about My issues and i said ” Hi Ms. Lilith so I purchased your 25$ Hard Truth Ebook but I can’t seem to download anything at all. Do you happen to know what’s going on? ” and I sent a screenshot of what I saw on my end saying ” Sorry, you have reached your download Limit for this file ” so i even went to her tiktok to ask her if she could please check her email about an order issue ( she deleted my comment ). I woke up next morning and I didn’t see a response so I started to feel worried if I’ve been scammed so I kindly asked ” May i please get a refund back ? My problem hasn’t been resolved. ” so she did help me out and I was then able to download her 95 Word Ebook. So a couple days later she decided to try to Publicly Shame and use me as an example in one of her videos for 7 minutes telling people she checked her email and twisted and exaggerated how I kindly asked for my 25 dollars back ” I want my 25 dollars back lalallaa ” then said she already knew what type of female she was dealing with. She said on her end she saw that I download the file twice and told people that I Lied to her even though she also told people I had sent her a screenshot of what was going on and the word press error and I’ve reached my down load limit. ( on my phone cleared out my storage etc before trying to refresh the page and no luck ). She also was telling people I could’ve said i downloaded it but I’m having issues or could’ve worded it Differently. But In My head im like why does that matter i still couldn’t see the Ebook at all and there was an error. Then after she said she helped me buy sending the pdf in an email and I said thank you. Then she went on saying ” But this is how you have to deal with women because women are like children they just don’t know any better and nobody corrects them and when you do correct them they get in their feelings … “. A month ago a male follower of mines saw me posting the ladies content on my Instagram story and he dm me telling me to be careful and that she isn’t perfect and she human herself. Then I told my guy friend what happened to me and that the lady tried to publicly use me as an example in her tiktok video and he had said ” Yeah that’s a bit much over something so small. ( petty and I was never disrespect to her ) ” and he also said ” Yeah. She seems like a bitch, idek why you like her content, I mean she makes some good points but she also does too much as well. ” now I’m reevaluating the lady because that’s weird to try to shame your customer and twist what happened and their words to fit your benefit misleading people that I lied to yiu that I didnt download your Ebook ( maybe she saw my 2 attempts on her side but honestly I couldn’t see anything and there was a technical error saying I’ve reached my Download limit as well ) so if I didn’t receive and saw your Ebook how am I lying ? But its all good i honestly can’t view the lady the same anymore and won’t buy from her again 🤷‍♀️.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 25, 2024 4:39 pm
      smh that must be tough openly supporting someone you look up to and having them bash you like that. I honestly never heard of this lady before but from what you’re telling me, she doesn’t sound pleasant. 1. i’ve noticed that a lot of influencers and new aged business owners really don’t know simple business etiquette.she simply could’ve responded to you and dealt with the situation quickly. Publicly bashing a customer that supported your business is doing a lot.. and not in a good way 2. a lot of these influencers be forgetting the people who’ve got them to where they are. if you’re here purchasing her ebook and putting money in her account, she should be appreciative. social media has boosted a lot of egos. 3. hopefully this is just a lesson learned for you, as much as i love looking up to people, especially all the girlies within my niche, i make sure not to idolize them (not saying you idolized this lady btw) because at the end of the day you really don’t know someone. when they turn off that camera and go about their day to day life, they might not be the same person you look up to. So just be cautious of putting people on a higher pedestal. anyhow, i hope you still enjoyed the pdf and got something from it!
  • Someone asked:
    on October 24, 2024 2:49 pm
    I really want to reinvent myself, but I’m not sure where to begin.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 25, 2024 2:15 pm
      we love a good rebrand, lucky for you i’ve answered plenty of questions on this so i will copy x paste one of my answers for you because the formula has not changed. 1. I always say this whether it comes to rebranding or creating new goals from the jump, is to know your why, what are you doing? who are you doing it for? why are you doing it? that will always come back to be your motivating factor in keeping up with the habits it will take to be this ‘new’ or ‘improved you. 2. write out/create who your future self is, from her career/looks to how she likes her coffee lol be very specific. have fun with it too, this is your dream self, all limitations off, what does she do? how does she dress? how do people perceive her? how does she perceive herself? where does she live? What does she do on a day-to-day basis? This will help you envision ‘her’ and in turn guide you into stepping into being like this version of you daily. 3. Write out your goals. Whether its 1 year goals to goals you want to accomplish within a week, get clear on them. Make sure they are specific and attainable, the smaller you break them into, the more achievable they become on a daily basis. 4. Take action, duh!! you have to be disciplined enough to stick to these goals and form beneficial habits. It doesn’t have to be drastic right at day 1, baby steps are still steps. the most important thing is that you’re consistent with it. If you ever feel lazy go back to your ‘why’ and go back to your dream self envision, would she be the type of person that gives up so easily?? these should re-motivate you. 5. be patient & believe in yourself. at the end of the day, this rebrand is a journey, you’re not gonna be this new and improved person within a day. always give yourself grace through your best days and your worst. Keep your faith strong sis. As long as you believe in yourself, you have the power to change your life. trust yourself, be confident in yourself and have unwaivering faith that you will become the version of you that you wish to be. lastly, i have some video recommendations for you to watch, i hope they’ll help you in your journey as well. “How to ACTUALLY reinvent yourself for 2024| STEP BY STEP GUIDE TO CHANGING YOUR LIFE NOW!” – https://youtu.be/DKoz7IkrXM8?si=1szu2OVQpZdZFtJg “God Doesn’t Lead You To Failure | Changing How You Think Will Change Your Life” – https://youtu.be/nxXNPJufQuE?si=YVuUYMKTqM_mqx1i & “How to Exit Your “Lazy” Girl Era & Change Your Life | You’re Not Lazy or Unmotivated” – https://youtu.be/_1TDo5aBaLc?si=RGY3RpihiKx24TlX hope this helps💖
  • Someone asked:
    on October 24, 2024 8:46 am
    I’ve given up on love I’ve realized that it doesn’t exist. When I get into a relationship I’m going to look for what is good for me how he treats me from the start my own interest and what they can offer me just how men do. Looks/Attractiveness, being loved, being respected, treated as an equal, money, secure and good lifestyle, personality etc and i’ll just exist and have my own life. If i can’t get what I want then I’ll move on. Just like men do. Maybe that’s normal for both men and women and i didn’t know. Men know and they play to their own interest or lie gaslight and use you If you ever let your guard down. I don’t know how to feel about this it’s a change of mindset entirely that’s going to take some time to get used to. And it feels hard to implement? If I meet a real man someday That’s great but at this point i feel like i can’t count on it. Which makes me feel some type of way because love and all that was one of the things i really cherished or wanted to have one day. Maybe it’s my pain talking but I don’t really think so I’m an observant person and chances are low. Some days I feel more positive but i feel like that’s living in a bubble and the women who know the game, and actually follow it, get much more in life. It’s literally play or get played relationship edition. Your take on this?
    • SLC replied:
      on October 25, 2024 2:30 am
      i do think you’re coming from a place of pain. it clearly sounds like you’ve been hurt by a man on one or even multiple occasions. I think your pain mixed with how toxic this generation is when it comes to love, has you feeling this way. I can honestly tell you from even my personal experience that you shouldn’t give up on love. I was never a lover girl, like i literally used to have men fall for me and then id be like .. nah. that would happen time and time again. i never thought i would be able to actually commit to someone and i honestly thought that maybe i was just cold hearted when it came to men like everyone said and this love thing wasn’t for me. I swear to you my friends all lost hope in me because i never really took a guy seriously and they were all waiting on me to finally experience it. i didn’t care though, i had my guard up because my biggest fear was having a man think he could play me. So if i’m the one thats not putting my actual feelings into it then i’m the one who ends up not being played. Its obviously lonely in a sense but.. it’s better than getting hurt right? Especially in a generation where people don’t take relationships seriously anymore anyways. Well…. I can tell you now that i am 100% in my lover girl era now. I promise you, i never expected it. its just one of those ones where when you know, you know. this man has allowed me to let that fear of commitment, that fear of being played and to let go the negative feelings i had towards how all men in this generation operate when it comes down to relationships. I say all this to show you that you just haven’t found that one yet. Are a lot of these guys shit out here? umm yeah, but that doesn’t mean that all of them are. I do agree that you should go into future relationships with a set of standards/boundaries you’ve set. I just don’t think you should go into them with a negative mindset right from the beginning. be cautious ofc, listen to your intuition ofc but also be open, because there is someone out there for you. love is such a beautiful thing. i feel like you’ll really luck out if you purposely choose to avoid it. You can be a woman who stands on her boundaries/doesn’t let people play with her emotions and also be a lover girl at the same time. The two can coexist.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 24, 2024 2:05 am
    last Night i went out with the guy im seeing and on the drive home, he got 3 phone calls (which he ignored) from a female caller. the Third time i told him he could pick it up if he needed to and he said it was fine he didn’t need to and we changed the subject. How can i bring it up without sounding accusatory? I want to trust him but men have done me so dirty in the past, its hard not to assume the worst 🙁 Thank you!!!!
    • SLC replied:
      on October 25, 2024 1:46 pm
      the only way to ask him about it, is to literally just ask. when you do it of course don’t come with an accusatory attitude but just moreso from a place of general interested. i think his answer to that question isn’t even the most important thing though. i think the conversation that has to be had after he answerers the question is. because whether he answers ‘yeah it was a girl who called me’ or ‘no it wasn’t a girl who called/ it isn’t like that’, you still have to follow up with whether he’s talking to other girls or not while also seeing you. since thats the bottom line concern you have. i don’t know if y’all have talked about that yet or set some boundaries around it, but if you haven’t then now is the best time to do so. If you don’t want your time wasted you have to be up front about it. Again it doesn’t have to be some ‘is it just me or not?!’ interrogation but something more along the lines of ‘hey i just wanna know where your heads at, are you still talking to other people… because this is how i feel about that … and so on’. Again you’ll never reallllly know the truth but that’s where your trust in him will either kick in or not. All i can leave you with is to just always believe in your intuition, if something don’t feel right, then it ain’t. hope this helps xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on October 23, 2024 11:24 pm
    How do you handle some uncomfortable thoughts that just automatically pops in our mind?
    • SLC replied:
      on October 25, 2024 1:30 am
      whenever that happens to me, the best thing i do personally is just observe them, separate them from myself/assess and ignore them. I know it sounds harder than it is, but i’ve learned to see uncomfortable thoughts which usually stem from anxiety, as just an annoying thing that wants my attention, but the less i give to it, the more it seems to go away. this was very imperative for me to learn when i went through a very anxiety-ridden time where all i had was uncomfortable thoughts that i needed to learn to control. the more i separated myself from the thought, for example if it was ‘omg i’m so nervous i feel like im going to have a panic attack’, i would observe the thought, look at my current situation and analyze it like ‘okay girl i’m actually not in danger, im safe where i am and even if i did have a panic attack right now i would cope with it and move forward’, after that i would simply start to ignore/distract myself from the thought until it would just go away. We are in control of our minds, our minds are not in control of us, so i think the more we remind ourselves of that, the more it’ll start to stick. of course every situation is different, if these are thoughts that are unbearable and/or are affecting your everyday life then you should seek professional help.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 23, 2024 3:56 pm
    I started talking to this guy a few months ago. We met randomly through Instagram, and I rarely ever give my WhatsApp to people unless it’s my family or friends that I know in person but i felt he earned that maybe a bit too quick in my eye. He trusted me to talk about his last relationship which happened to be extremely toxic and I also talked about my narcissistic one, and we little by little got very comfortable with each other and we talk about everything (I mean everything). The problem I have is that there’s a 4 hour difference and a whole ocean between us, and the way he talks to me sometimes makes me feel some type of way. My question/advice is am I falling in love with him, am I just needy due to being single for a year, should I give up on trying o get anything oter than friendship? I’m confused and I have been losing slep thinking about it. I genuinely like this guy but I don’t know I it’s more than friendship and if it is, should I pursue it.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 25, 2024 1:14 pm
      honestly sis these are questions that only you can answer for yourself. you have to be the one that knows whether or not this is a relationship that you actually want to invest your energy, especially given the fact that its going to be a long distance relationship. you have to be the one to admit to yourself whether or not this is something you’re interested in only because you’ve been single for a while. you gotta be the one to decide whether or not the way he talks to you that makes you feel ‘some type of way’ , is something that you can look past or potentially have to put up with. I don’t know your heart so i cant personally answer if you’re falling for him, you would have to look for that answer for yourself. When you do though, make sure you’re taking in ALL aspects, not just the good ones. As an outsider looking in, i would say maybe just keep building on the friendship until you can really come to terms with how you feel about him. I also think knowing what he really wants out of this is beneficial as well and thats a conversation you two should have. Whatever your decision is though, i hope its one that is the best for you.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 23, 2024 1:02 pm
    Hey thanks for your advice on the childhood friend I grew apart from. I honestly did have a vibe she was competing and possibly a hater towards me and wanted to just keep up with me hence why she usually just watch my story and rarely ever engage at all even though i tried to give her the benefit of the doubt. I just decided to block her and remove her completely off my Instagram today. I just feel like she likes to watch but never really support anyways.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 25, 2024 1:17 pm
      no worries and good for you girl! there’s no need to have people lingering in our lives who aren’t there to actually support us. I’m glad you made that decision for yourself. i hope those around you are nothing but supportive and loyal people because thats what you deserve xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on October 22, 2024 3:26 pm
    Hey girlie How do you deal with the lost of your best friends? We had an argument 2 years ago and instead of me forgiving them in 2022, we broke apart, now they are still best friends so it’s a trio now. I miss them so much but it can’t be the same now cause of the fight and the tension I should have forgiven them in the past, cus now i still have to forgive them cause i am a child of god. We have mutual friends and so i would always see them on the mutual friends’ story etc. I feel like it’s my fault and it keeps on replaying in my head I am at fault and it’s my mistake. I miss my girls. God called us to forgive. I should have forgiven them and still be friends with them the moment the argument began. My mind was young then, i am matured now and i am seeing how i could have just moved on and still be best friends with the 3 of them How do i let go? How do i forgive myself from letting my best friends go by not forgiving and moving on? I was behaving childish. But i was truly hurt by them. But true friendships have arguments. That was our first argument so i didn’t understand that all friendships have arguments but we should forgive, make up and move on. I miss them so much. The damage is done and i can’t be best friends with them again. Sigh. I don’t think there is a chance of rekindiling.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 23, 2024 2:44 am
      hi my love, i think the good thing about this is that you have come to terms with and accepted your faults in this situation. I think that shows a lot of maturity. I’m all for rekindling friendships as long as every party is open to it. you should reach out to them and see whether or not they’re open to having a discussion on mending the friendship. If they are open to it, then i want you to be as accountable as you’re being now and have that tough conversation. hopefully it goes well enough to where you all can put the past behind and move forward in this new chapter of your friendship. if they can’t come to terms with forgiving you, then you have to accept that and move forward as you’ve been doing the last two years. At least you’ll know that you did what you could to potentially rebuild those friendships. Remember that it’s okay to grieve. Just like in a relationship break up, you have to grieve the relationship and accept that this chapter is closed. Learn from this so that you make better choices in future friendships.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 22, 2024 1:26 pm
    that was to a guy that’s reading your posts not you, ignore it 🤍 i regret putting my energy there again but there’s heavy emotions & boundaries there that he constantly disrespects and Humiliates and it’s heavy on me. He never leaves me alone i can’t even relax when i’m alone it’s taking a toll on my health
    • SLC replied:
      on October 23, 2024 2:28 am
      ohhh omg not y’all are playing broken telephone on my page😩 but like i said before sis, you need to cut off all communication. you cannot allow someone to play with your mental health like this. Again if the police need to get involved then so be it. No more games and no more gimmicks. This is not something to be playing with at all. i pray you get the peace you deserve from this man.
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