Is Your Boyfriend Not Listening To You When You Vent?

Are Your Girls Tired Of Giving You Advice About The Same Guy Every Other Week? 

Do You Need Advice On Things That You Just Don’t Want To Share With Your Family & Friends?

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Answers So Far..

  • Someone asked:
    on April 15, 2024 4:03 pm
    How can i elevate?
    • SLC replied:
      on April 16, 2024 7:11 pm
      its all about how much you truly want it. You have to hold yourself accountable to your growth & goals. You can sit and say how much you wanna elevate all day long but if you aren’t taking those necessary actions.. guess what? Nothing will be elevating. You gotta make that vision board, you gotta do the research/work, you gotta wake up early, you gotta incorporate self care, you gotta do that extra set in the gym, you gotta constantly remind yourself how much you want this change. Discipline is the name of the game. No one has a gun to your head and no one is gonna force you to do what you need to do. So with that being said you gotta take charge of your own life. YOU have to make life happen for you. Sitting and waiting will do nothing for you but let another year pass where you’re in the same position. Get out that comfort zone, push yourself to be better everyday even if its 1%. Have that ambition, have that discipline, have that ‘glo’d up’ version of you in your head and do what needs to be done!!
  • Someone asked:
    on April 15, 2024 2:46 pm
    Hey What are some signs that you arent meant to be with someone
    • SLC replied:
      on April 16, 2024 7:00 pm
      whew the list could be endless but these are some telltale signs that you shouldn’t be with someoneone.. 1. lose sense of self or you’re a watered down version of yourself 2. you feel empty in the relationship while making sure they feel full 3. you’re anxious or unsettled around them 4.you keep having to convince yourself why you should be with them 5.consistent arguing/disagreements 6. constantly giving more than you’re receiving 7. you’re not happy around them 8.the red flags outdo the green flags 9.they drain you 10.you don’t see a positive (or any) future with them
  • Someone asked:
    on April 14, 2024 9:24 am
    Hey girl love your page so much i had a question .. Am i in the wrong if i dont want my friends friend to come on a group trip im planning? Tbh she rubs me the wrong way sometimes but my friend is so adamant on her coming idk what to do
    • SLC replied:
      on April 16, 2024 7:33 pm
      hi angel thank you, i appreciate you💞 in terms of your question, no i don’t think you’re in the wrong especially if its a trip you’re planning. At the end of the day no one wants to feel uncomfortable around someone who they gotta be around 24/7 on a trip. You just need to tell your friend straight up, sorry girl but you don’t want her friend coming and explain to her why. Since it is your trip she has to respect that. Not everyone meshes well together so if you think that this girl coming will negatively impact the trip for you, then don’t invite her. If your friend ever plans a next trip and that same girl is going, then that will be your choice on if you want to attend or not. However for now, being as this is a trip you’re planning, her friend does not need to come.
  • Someone asked:
    on April 11, 2024 2:38 pm
    what are some affirmation I can say as a young woman rebuilding my confidence and feeling sometimes i am unlovable?
    • SLC replied:
      on April 12, 2024 1:57 pm
      1.I exude confidence & poise 2. I respect and stand up for myself 3. The universe always works in my favour 4. Everything good and divine comes to me 5. I am a very blessed girl 6. I am my own muse 7. What’s meant for me will never pass me 8. I have a purpose in this world 9. I allow myself to live a life of luxury 10. I allow myself experience beautiful things 11. I am worthy of selfless love 12. I protect my time, because I know it’s nonrefundable 13. I do not feel guilty when I reject offers that do not benefit me 14. I am working towards becoming my highest self every day 15. I love every part of my life 16. I always get the best outcome 17. I am mentally, physically and emotionally healthy 18. My mind is always clear and at peace 19. I love how I look at feel everyday 20. I really am the full package. body, face, personality, I got it all.
  • Someone asked:
    on April 4, 2024 10:48 am
    I came to yall months ago about advice with a man having a baby on me and we had only been Together for about 3months and i ended uo staying w him while the baby was growing & i went through every obstacle it was w her and he decided before the baby turn one which was about a week ago and he got an DNA Test done jan.23 and it came back 0% that his was not the father. But im so happy i didnt take yall advice on leaving him. I’m here to say watch them craxy exes they will do and say anything to try get you to leave a man especially when he wont even leave you
    • SLC replied:
      on April 4, 2024 2:46 pm
      hey mammas, i definitely remember your situation. I do know though that i didn’t just say to leave him, i had said to weigh out your options. I stated that realistically it would’ve made sense for you to cut your losses now if you don’t wanna deal with the mess since you and him were early on in your relationship, but I ALSO said you have to decide whether or not he’s worth it. Clearly you decided he was and it worked out in your favour! Nonetheless that’s a crazy situation and I’m happy you guys got your answers. Some exes really do be trifling. He better but a ring on it now 😂 because you are loyal asf! Wishing y’all all the best xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on April 4, 2024 8:16 am
    How do I step more into my feminine energy?
    • SLC replied:
      on April 4, 2024 9:56 am
      to start ima tell you what femininity is not, femininity is not all about looking like a pin-up house wife that a lot of these ‘femininity gurus’ are teaching. There is no one stop look on femininity so don’t think that you have to wear ‘modest’ clothes or having your hair a specific style in order to be viewed as feminine. You don’t have to emulate any celebrity or influencer, your feminine energy is personal and should be catered to you. Now that thats all said and done here are some tips to tap into your feminine energy. 1. self care is a must – get your nails done, take care of your skin, learn to do your make up in ways that suit your face, dress the part; again this doesn’t mean wear pink long dresses 24/7 but still look presentable and stylish in your own way, get a signature smell (invest in perfumes girl) , pamper yourself 2. practice good posture/speak with confidence, stand up straight, keep your head up high, confidence is a key factor in looking/feeling more feminine. Speak as though every word you say is something of substance and importance. Slow it down, 3. Related to that last point is to smile more, a feminine woman is soft, graceful and approachable. Move with more love and compassion. Feminine energy is attractive energy! 4. Don’t be afraid to be more sensual, embrace your sexuality and appeal. Be the type of woman who can seduce anyone with just her eyes. Have a playful but alluring side about you. 5. remain teachable; intelligence is one of the most attractive traits. Whether its through reading, taking courses/classes, podcasts, youtube videos, stay educated on topics that interest you.
  • Someone asked:
    on April 4, 2024 5:45 am
    This guy Clearly Only wants to link with me to have sex, and im not the type of person to have sex with Someone i Don’t know. I Genuinely like Other Qualities he has Other than his looks, i Can’t make him like me or make him want a serious Relationship with me but i often find myself thinking of him. I dont know how to get over Someone i Haven’t even linked with…
    • SLC replied:
      on April 4, 2024 9:06 am
      baby you already know what his intentions are and you know that they don’t align with you, that’s all the evidence you need to get yourself to get over him. Do yourself a favour and don’t even waste your time. The qualities you ‘do’ like about him can probably be found in another man who’ll actually have the right intentions with you. The fact that you havent linked with him yet is even better, mute that man and keep it pushing👋🏾
  • Someone asked:
    on April 4, 2024 1:53 am
    How do i move on
    • SLC replied:
      on April 4, 2024 4:14 am
      i have more in depth answers on this topic on the page but there are some main key points that i can give you right now. Time + distance + prioritizing yourself= how you move on. First and formost you need to give yourself grace, allow yourself to grieve the relationship. You’re not just gonna get over it immediately so give yourself that need grieving time and more importantly be patient with yourself. However, don’t sit and ponder of what you or your ‘ex’ should’ve, could’ve or would’ve done, just accept it as it is and push forward. You need to also remove them from social media, the less you see of someone, the less you’re sitting up worry about what they got going on, ‘Out of sight = Out of mind’. Don’t look through their comments, their tweets, their likes; unfollow or if not MUTE them. With that being said, you shouldnt have any heavy communication with them either. If you can cut all communication off that’s even better but i know thats not always realistic so set boundaries (no hook ups chile pls). It’s time now to focus more on you, do things that you enjoy (and maybe even things you missed out on doing being in the relationship), just cater to you, your wants and needs. You are your biggest priority rn, make time for yourself, nurture yourself, look good/feel good. Lastly i would say just do some self reflecting, think about what that relationship has taught you and what you want moving forward in future relationships. All in all, moving on is not easy but its not impossible, i hope some of these tips help you xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on April 3, 2024 10:59 pm
    Ok, so basically my mom be doing this shit where she tells people how i lost weight unprovoked, and she be going deep into it like anybody asked. She always drags it and makes it seem like i look sick, and i feel like its not serious. Like last week were talking about what i should wear to a tea party. Out of no where she randomly inputed, you couldve wore that green dress but you lost weight so youre Not gonna look good. A second time she unprovokely told a family member that happened to be over, “you know gabby lost weight, like a lot of weight, like as soon as she gain it she loose it right back,” and then tries to change subJect. Like whats the point of that. I was trying to hear the rest but couldnt. Also there was another time i over heard her saying to a friend on the phone, “ you know gabby is a xtra Small, yeah, tiny”. Is it me or she gets a kick out of it. Like what is it giving. Like is she obsessed, jealous like what? It’s so weird. Like what do you think is the problem and why she keeps doing that.
    • SLC replied:
      on April 4, 2024 3:58 am
      hi boo, so one thing parents are gonna do is put in their two sense in when it’s not needed. I don’t wanna fully jump in and say she’s jealous of you because i dont know the dynamics of your relationship, but what i can say though is that you being upset about this is totally validated. No one wants to hear anybody talk about their body in a negative way whether its a friend, a partner, a parent, or whoever. I think what you need to do is just communicate with her that you don’t like how she’s constantly bringing up your weight and that you find it offensive honestly. You gotta set a boundary with her. Parents can cross boundaries because they feel entitled to you since they created you. They think they can do or say whatever because they’re your elder/they’re just being your ‘mom’; or ‘dad’, but you have to let them know that a boundary is being set human to human. Who knows, maybe she doesn’t even realize how much she brings it up, maybe that’s her way of showing that she’s just concerned for you. Whatever the case may be though, let her know how you feel. From there if she keeps going on or switches to something that she constantly wants to judge you on, then you’ll know that there might be something a little deeper and that’s something you two will have to deal with if it ever gets to that point (which i really hope won’t).
  • Someone asked:
    on April 1, 2024 1:17 am
    How do you stop thinking negatively? Like not letting the things people said to and about you in the past and present live rent free in your head?
    • SLC replied:
      on April 4, 2024 3:44 am
      baby you just gotta say f them. i know it sounds easier said than done, but you have to be able not let the validation of others, come between you and the validation you give yourself. People are always gonna talk shit, be mean, put you down etc, but you just can’t let that break you. You have to know your value and STAND ON IT. A good practice you could do is write all the things people have negatively said about you (go real far/deep into your memory if you have to), once it written out i want you to RIP UP THE PAGE. While ripping it up, affirm in yourself that you are better than all those statements, affirm to yourself that none of them are true, affirm to yourself that these negative words have no more power over you from now on. Make sure when you toss the paper out its out your crib so you can solidify that those words are no longer near you and will not hurt you again. I know it seems corny but writing things out truly gets them out your head and to another space, especially if its been just cluttered all over your mind. After that practice i want you to promise to yourself that you will be the one validating yourself from now on. Build up your self-esteem, practice more gratitude (its one of the quickest ways to feel positive) and stay away from people who aren’t good to you.
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