Is Your Boyfriend Not Listening To You When You Vent?

Are Your Girls Tired Of Giving You Advice About The Same Guy Every Other Week? 

Do You Need Advice On Things That You Just Don’t Want To Share With Your Family & Friends?

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  • Someone asked:
    on October 28, 2024 9:53 pm
    Hi sister! I hope that you’re doing well! Just want to share with you that this year I realized that me and my friend/s are just meeting up or hanging out when i’m the only one that is initiating. Like if i don’t make a plan we will not meet. I know that we’re busy on our own lives but I just feel that im the one whose always initiating in my friends😅
    • SLC replied:
      on October 29, 2024 3:40 pm
      aw honestly thats the worst. i’ve felt like that a couple times too. The best two things you can do in this situation is communicate and fall back. Let your friends know how you feel. it shouldn’t be up to you to be making all the plans, when it’s not just you in the friendship. It could be a thing where they’re so use to you being the one to initiate it that they just wait on you. which comes into my second point. The second thing i’d do is fall back. don’t carry on that role anymore and see if any one else takes the initiative. As much as everyones busy and have their own lives going on, if either of them truly value the friendship, they’ll initiate plans to meet up. If not, then that might show you how much they actually respect this friendship.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 28, 2024 5:32 pm
    Manifesting 2025 to be good to me 🥂
    • SLC replied:
      on October 29, 2024 3:13 pm
      and it will be🧚🏾‍♀️🥂
  • Someone asked:
    on October 28, 2024 8:32 am
    Hi sis! Can i ask how not to take everything personally? Since I became serious about my setting my boundaries with other people then self love journey, I tend to always have this urge to answer back to those people that says stupid things to me or abt me. Like I dont let them walk all over me but it makes me not to choose my battles wisely. Like how to put people into their places and how to determine what the things that i can just let go
    • SLC replied:
      on October 29, 2024 3:30 pm
      hi my love, You have to stop letting everything work you up and start realizing what’s worth your energy. As long as what you’re doing is what you want to, as long as your thoughts are the ones that matter the most to you and as long as as what you feel is how you wanna feel, then who cares about what other people may say or do in reaction to that. Be less reactive and Learn to choose your battles wisely. When you give certain people a response, you let them take some of your precious energy away. whenever a situation arises pause and ask yourself, ‘is this really worth my energy? Am i really gonna care about this a year from now? Remember that life is for enjoyment, don’t let irrelevant people stress you out. be so focused on you that the opinions of irrelevant people aren’t even an after thought. I said this before to someone in a similar situation as you too, but i’d suggest getting the book ‘the simple art of not giving a fuck’, it’s really relevant to what you’re asking and i think you’ll get some good tips from it xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on October 28, 2024 8:18 am
    Hi! Can you please give some tips and advice on how not overshare a lot? Like im a very talkative person and i think thats why i overshare to my friends🥹
    • SLC replied:
      on October 29, 2024 3:00 pm
      1. learn to just talk to yourself lol, and i don’t mean in a crazy way but in a way where you can get everything off you chest that you wanna say but it doesn’t necessarily have to be to someone. this can be mostly be done through journalling and/or praying 2.set some boundaries on what you should share and what you think should be off limits for everyone to know 3. relevant to the last tip, decide who you really can trust when it comes to sharing certain things. not everyone needs to know your business. that includes certain friends as well 4. listen more, the more you’re listening to other people, the less the focus is always on you. this also allows you to actually engage in conversations with others rather than oversharing and potentially not listening to what they have to say as well 5. start reminding yourself that the less people know, the more alluring you’ll seem. this will make people want to engage with you even more because you’re no longer an open book. there’s this unwritten attraction that comes with mysterious people. start using it
  • Someone asked:
    on October 27, 2024 6:53 pm
    what do you do on days you lose faith
    • SLC replied:
      on October 29, 2024 2:00 pm
      i give myself grace. not everyday is gonna be a day where you feel motivated or even disciplined and so in those days i allow myself to just be. i give myself however long i may need to feel all the emotions, rest, mope if i have to, but with that, i also promise myself that once that self-pitying time is over (i usually make sure its no longer than 48 hours), i gotta get back to myself. praying helps a lot on days like those honestly. most times i end up feeling so much better after i just pray it out and allow myself that time to take a step back. i usually go back into the grind feeling more motivated, faithful and determined. we all have those days and its okay to embrace them. just make sure those days aren’t turning into those ‘weeks or those ‘months’ etc.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 27, 2024 5:58 am
    Hi! Just want to share with u and ask what u think about this. My ex lived in australia and I live in our homecountry which is in asia. So of course he promise to me that we will go to australia /he will bring me there for vacation and of course to live there. But when we broke up I become so jealous of other girlfriends of his friends that already go there like I grief for the life that he promised to me. and sometimes I still think of the life that he used to promise to me😞
    • SLC replied:
      on October 29, 2024 1:51 pm
      hi💖 i think you need to accept the loss of that ‘potential life’ he promised you and move on. i understand that the thought of a new life in Australia was something you were looking forward to, but you can’t keep grieving over a life you never knew. i really believe everything happens for a reason and maybe you just weren’t meant to be in Australia, at least not with him. Instead of mourning the promises he made for you, why don’t you start getting excited about the new promises you can make for yourself? A good life for you isn’t over just because you can’t be in Australia. you have all the power to make a even more beautiful life for yourself than what you thought you could’ve had with him
  • Someone asked:
    on October 26, 2024 10:41 am
    Any experience on how to tolerate boredomness? I’ve been trying to get off my phone and it goes good for a couple days I get a surge of Clearheadedness and Focus but then it becomes difficult even after I do something I still have to sit with it and I don’t know to do that. Sick of it.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 29, 2024 2:44 pm
      there’s so much more to life than scrolling on our phones and the fact that you already realized that is the first step. i think you should really get yourself into some hobbies. could be anything from working out to joining a course to cooking to sewing lol. the possibilities are endless. you should pick a few that you’re interested in and learn to really immerse yourself in whatever it is. i think a part from that, you might have to learn how to ‘just be’. You need to practice being able to just sit with yourself and it not bother you. I recommend either watching some videos on it or even researching some books that can help you as well. you spend 100% of your life with yourself, learn to enjoy each moment of it.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 26, 2024 6:39 am
    I’m torn between I don’t want to need Appearances to feel good It feels like fake confidence and I don’t want to do it for other people & the world is about looks partly no matter what everyone wishes and i want to invest in myself look good feel good but now i can’t enjoy it 💖 💄
    • SLC replied:
      on October 29, 2024 2:36 pm
      one of my mottos is ‘looking good+ feeling good’ and vice versa. i don’t think theres anything wrong with feeling good when you look good. The problem is when your confidence/worth is solely based on how you look or when you’re basing your worth on how other people percieve your appearance. that’s when it gets negative. if you’re looking good for yourself then theres nothing wrong with that. it doesnt have to be ‘fake confidence’, its a known fact that humans feel better when they look good. It’s in our nature. The only thing you have to do is be real and ask yourself if you’re looking good for yourself or if you’re only looking good for the sake of other people. if the answer is the second one, then you have to start building up your self worth in a way that doesn’t have to do with other people. That doesn’t mean you start no longer looking presentable, it just means that you’re switching your worth being based on how people see you, to how you see yourself instead.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 26, 2024 4:07 am
    Hi sisterrr! Can i ask about how did u overcome your anxiety phase? I read here in your answers in one of the questions. Im currently dealing with my own anxiety tbh. I have my doctors support and it is very hard for me to deal with intrusive thoughts and i know for a fact that this anxiety is my energy blocker. Like its pulling me downwards when I always do my best to rise up and boss up. Its tiring tbh i hope u can share ur anxiety journey and how u overcome it if your comfortable sharing it. Thank you!💗
    • SLC replied:
      on October 29, 2024 2:19 pm
      hi sis! honestly the anxiety i had went through at that time was very major and so although i learned different techniques such as, breathing techniques, reframing my thoughts, meditation, exposure therapy etc, i think the one thing that really helped me was going on medication. I was against it for soo long, it just seemed so taboo to me but then one day i was reading into it and i had to ask myself, if i had any physical pain i would take medication for it so why not let medication help me with my mental pain? i finally accepted the help and got prescribed with a low dosage. within a couple weeks to months of my brain getting used to it, i really started to feel the benefits. Listen baddies deal with mental health issues too lol. i think coming to terms that mental health has no specific ‘look’ really helped me into accepting the help i needed. So yeah to answer your question, with the daily commitment of reframing my thoughts (separating myself from the anxiety), exposure therapy, journaling/praying, breathing techniques PLUS anxiety medication helped me through that tough anxiety phase. ofc we’re all different and what worked for me might not work for you. make sure you’re letting your doctors know how you feel so they can help you figure out what you need that best works for you! xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on October 25, 2024 4:19 am
    Can you share some of your new learnings about life, self love anything you want to share with us❤️❤️
    • SLC replied:
      on October 25, 2024 5:05 pm
      ofc💖 1. always choose yourself. the more you choose yourself, the more everything around you starts choosing you as well 2. never ever settle, there is always better! 3. the journey is continuous and honestly more important than the destination. the journey transforms you while the destination is the reward for that transformation 4. if someone truly values you, they will make you feel valued. you’ll never have to question. 5. always work on things that people cannot take away from you ex. your knowledge, your body, your mindset, your aura etc. 6. you wont always be motivated so you have to learn to be disciplined 7. closed mouths don’t get fed! 8. if you want something in this lifetime, you have to have the audacity to go for it 9. if you want a healthy/happy relationship, it starts with the one you have with yourself first 10. let today be today and tomorrow be tomorrow. 11.invest, invest, investttttt into yourself. whether it be your skincare, body care, nail care/hair care, clothes, mental health, mindset etc, because when you look good, you feel good & when you feel good, you look good. no money or time spent on investing in yourself is a waste. 12. everything really does work out in the end.
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