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  • Someone asked:
    on November 12, 2024 7:04 am
    I’m tired of everything
    • SLC replied:
      on November 14, 2024 11:25 pm
      “Sending love to everyone who is just… tired. Life is a lot, and sometimes the answer to it all is to just be still and silent for a while. Give yourself space and grace. Whether it’s decision fatigue, information fatigue, anxiety fatigue, routine fatigue, getting-your-life-back-together fatigue, career fatigue, social fatigue, financial fatigue, or physical fatigue, take a moment to breathe and recharge. You deserve it.” That quote is from one of my favorite pages @wetheurban. I’m sharing it because i want you to know that you’re not alone. I’m sorry you feel over everything and tbh lately i’ve been feeling like that too, but we can’t let these negative emotions control our lives. I know it might sound cliche, but it does get better. Good is coming, and if you cant see the good then you have to create it yourself. You are in control of your life. Your perspective is everything. Is your half glass empty or half full? the more you feed into the negativity, the more it surrounds you. you have to create goodness in yourself. do things that excite you, do things that you look forward to and give yourself grace through it all. We are responsible for our own happiness. The bad days do suck, but that doesn’t mean you have to have a bad LIFE. Somehow, someway, everything is going to work out.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 7, 2024 2:22 pm
    I crossed the line and started sleeping with my male best friend who is also my daughters god father. He’s a great person and he is a big help to me with my child. but the problem is he is a man whore!! i knew this before i got into this Situation but i never thought we would end up like this. we love each other so much. We have so much fun when we’re together. We just came back from tulum a few weeks ago and had a great time. the sex is sooooo good i cant get enough of him. I have fell in too deep i dont know what to do now. We are not exclusive but my feelings have gotten too involved. I’m usually smarter than this and i Wouldn’t get in a situation like this. Sometimes i want to fall back and go back to being friends but i dont want to let go either. What do i need to do?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 7, 2024 11:08 pm
      i think you and him need to have a conversation about where you both want this relationship to go. with your feelings deeply involved now, its only going to hurt you more if you two don’t figure out where this is headed. you may want exclusivity but he may not. he may just want a friends with benefits situation but you may not. maybe you both want a relationship. maybe you both think it’s better to just remain friends. whatever the outcome is, it takes communication from you both to figure it out. you don’t want your time being wasted and your feelings being hurt. especially seeing as he’s your best friend, the future of your relationship (platonic or romantic) can get tricky the longer you to string this out with no mutual understanding on what the situation is. start thinking about what you really want and once you decide on that, you need to see where his heads at too. it’s not only a romantic relationship on the line, but your friendship as a whole in general. At the end of the day, sex/love/fun aside, you know whats best for you. if he’s not it, then all the fun & games need to stop before your feelings get even more deeper than they already are. always trust your instincts girl xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on November 7, 2024 4:16 am
    Hey darling, how can i step in my femininity and romanticise my life. I don’t Feel confident and whenever I am with my friends i always look like the one that is not put together. I’m going to turn 23 next month and i really want to change. 💕💕💕
    • SLC replied:
      on November 7, 2024 11:26 pm
      hi my love, happy early birthday💖 to start ima tell you what femininity is not, femininity is not all about looking like a pin-up house wife that a lot of these ‘femininity gurus’ are teaching. There is no one stop look on femininity so don’t think that you have to wear ‘modest’ clothes or have your hair a specific style in order to be viewed as feminine. You don’t have to emulate any celebrity or influencer, your feminine energy is personal and should be catered to you. Now that thats all said and done here are some tips to tap into your feminine energy. 1. self care is a must – get your nails done, take care of your skin, learn to do your make up in ways that suits your face, dress the part; again this doesn’t mean wear pink long dresses 24/7 but still look presentable and stylish in your own way, get a signature smell (invest in perfumes girl) , pamper yourself 2. practice good posture/speak with confidence, stand up straight, keep your head up high, confidence is a key factor in looking/feeling more feminine. start speaking confidence in yourself with daily affirmations and positive self talk. Also, speak as though every word you say is something of substance and importance. Slow it down, 3. Related to that last point is to smile more, a feminine woman is soft, graceful and approachable. Move with more love and compassion. Feminine energy is attractive energy! 4. Don’t be afraid to be more sensual, embrace your sexuality and appeal. Be the type of woman who can seduce anyone with just her eyes. Have a playful but alluring side about you. 5. remain teachable; intelligence is one of the most attractive traits. Whether its through reading, taking courses/classes, podcasts, youtube videos, stay educated on topics that interest you. I’ll also leave you with some femininity affirmations you can repeat on the daily to further your femininity journey. 1. ‘ i am divine’ 2. I’m so lucky, i always get what i want’ 3. ‘I am connected to the divine feminine energy within me 4. ‘I exude beauty and grace’ 5. My softness is my strength 6. I am a divine woman 7. I am constantly growing into the best version of me. 8. I am a source of love, light and healing for myself and others. 9. I am aware of my worth and my power. 10. I am magnetic and always get what I desire. i hope this helps, there’s also this feminine tumblr page that i love that shares a lot of femininity tips : https://www.tumblr.com/feminineenergylife, there’s plenty more femininity-centred accounts you can find through that page as well. good luck on your femininity journey xoxo 🎀
  • Someone asked:
    on November 6, 2024 6:55 pm
    💙
    • SLC replied:
      on November 7, 2024 11:15 pm
      💖
  • Someone asked:
    on November 5, 2024 1:10 am
    How do you feel about making new friends ? I spent all of high school with my girls and few years after graduating i started to notice how i was being a better friend to them than they were to me. I stopped talking to them and every time i do they always say they thought something bad Happened to me, which i think is weird because i usually think well of them when we don’t talk. Idk i just dont think its worth holding on to. Or am i just buggin?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 6, 2024 3:38 am
      if people aren’t reciprocating your energy, then they don’t deserve to be in your life. you shouldn’t have to always be the giver in your friendships. there’s no point in holding on to any relationship where you’re being undervalued. i’m proud of you for deciding that you deserve more than half-assed friends. it doesn’t have to end with any animosity either, like you said, you still wish them well. don’t ever think that you’re bugging over holding a set of standards for yourself. there is always better. there are people out there that will value you, so embrace making new friends.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 4, 2024 4:09 am
    I’m having a hard time comforting the guy i like, he told me he needs space because im stressing him out more when im trying my best to comfort him but it seems like its not working. Btw its a car situation hes dealing with with his brakes and idk anything about cars, i just wanted to comfort him… hes a overthinker so its challenging for me to help him think positive.
    • SLC replied:
      on November 6, 2024 3:22 am
      honestly boo you may think you’re helping him but you might be making it worse. if he’s saying what he needs right now is space, then respect his wishes. i know you wanna be there to comfort him because you like him, but by not giving him the space he’s asking for, you could be pushing him away more. some people just need to deal with things on their own and the best thing you can do is show them support, but from a distance.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 3, 2024 10:51 pm
    Retail is not for the weak 😒. Why are some elderly women just so B*tchy and weird acting towards younger women especially the ones They feel bothered by for no reason? Please tell me why during my shift I told an elderly the Amout of money on her new receipt that will be going back to her card for a returned item and she asked me a question and I answered it, then I told her to have a nice evening handing her the receipt. She cut me off and handed me a plastic bag to throw away and ignoring my kind statement and talked to my elderly coworker that was literally right next to me on another register, telling the lady to call her and it was nice seeing her again ” before leaving. I honestly felt like that was Deliberate because when I told her the amount of money going back to her card she answered me with a question then I handed it to her saying have a nice evening then she cut me off handing me a trash bag to throw away and not saying anything back to me. The Elderly lady that was my coworker she helped me out but it seemed like if I did something wrong, it felt like as if she was tryna embarrass me sometimes as a new hire in front of customers because the register I work on its a lot to learn, it’s not a regular register and you have to do more than bag and ring up items. So there was a younger lady that needed to exchange and buy the same item in a bigger size and I asked my elderly female coworker for help , I asked her if I this id the way to do something and she said yes but later on i got into a jam with the ladies transaction and there was somewhat if a line and she asked me what did I do? But nothing would’ve happened if the lady had tried to physically show me what to do instead of leaving me because I’m still trying to grasp everything. And she was telling me how to call customers up when I’d say next or whoever. But after that disrespected older women that ignored me and gave me trash to throw away I may not end up telling most customers have a good day because I don’t want to waste energy and rather give people their items and let them go about their day. The same female coworker didn’t even tell that lady that knows her that I said have a nice day, so I hope she doesn’t expect me to always smile with every customer and tell have a great day etc. She must be friends with that old rude hag 🙄. I don’t really Trust a lot of Elderly Women and very few have been genuinely kidney and sweet to me despite me being kind and unproblematic. It sucks for them that in a couple years your going to be gone and this is how you want to treat younger people?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 6, 2024 3:20 am
      whew girl you do not need to tell me about the horrors of retail.. i worked retail from 15-21, im 26 now and i still have to remind myself that not all people are evil like the ones i came across while working😭 tbh, some of these old ladies just be bitter and jealous. point blank period. they think that they’re age holds power of you and use that as an excuse to be disrespectful. don’t let this one lady stop you from being nice to other customers because like you said there are some genuine ones. and don’t let that older coworker ruin your shifts either. at the end of the day it’s all about when that direct deposit hits. there were days that i just had to remind myself that i’m just here for the coins and im not gonna let no one get me out of character. I don’t know her position but a lot of the disrespect can come from her knowing that you’re much younger than her yet you’re both in the same position of work. its a shame that instead of being someone with experience that you can lean on, she chose to be a hater instead. you can’t let that energy phase you sis, clock in, do your work, get your bag, and clock tf out!
  • Someone asked:
    on November 3, 2024 9:11 am
    Hope everyone gets what they deserve in this life 🤍
    • SLC replied:
      on November 3, 2024 10:28 pm
      me and you both💞
  • Someone asked:
    on November 3, 2024 9:02 am
    Hi! I just want to know your thoughts on this matter. Me and my bestfriend have this small business but suddenly she just continue it on her own. Like for me its kinda disrespectful because we talk about it that we will continue the online business then Suddenly she continued it on her own. So yes i let her be. Bcoz its just a side hustle for me so its not that much. But i learned today that she’s using the instagram account business we both made years ago. Like she never asked for my permission to activate that account again to use for our business that she continue by herself🤣 so yea. Its a lesson learned for me to not mixed friendship and business. PS: we agreed that we will both continue the business when im already ok. But one day I just saw her continue it bt herself. I feel so disrespected. Like if u dont have any plan to include me then you should have not told me that we will continue the business…
    • SLC replied:
      on November 6, 2024 3:08 am
      yah see sometimes mixing business with friendships or mixing business with pleasure is a no go. i think if it bothers you this much you should have a conversation with her about it, especially if you are still interested in being in the business. maybe in her mind she thinks you were no longer interested and she wanted to move forward with it. does that give her the right to start it back without discussing it with you first? definitely not, but i do see where she might have though that it was okay for her to do. so yeah have a talk with her about it because at the end of the day if you guys went into this as partners so that business is technically 50% yours and you deserve your say. another reason to speak to her about it business aside is because you two are best friends and whether or not you want to continue with the business, you wouldn’t want this situation causing you to have you built up animosity towards her.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 3, 2024 6:58 am
    I’m tired of everything. I feel like I have to work through everything to get something not good but just decent bare minimum if even from life. Others just live & get everything. They do what they want and feel like bcs they can and they still have it good. Maybe their life isn’t perfect but not everything is a mess. some people really do have it all they always had a good life. And i’m supposed to feel grateful for it like i don’t deserve to take up space on earth. I don’t even know what normal feels like sometimes.
    • SLC replied:
      on November 6, 2024 2:59 am
      ima stop you right there, you definitely deserve to take up space. you deserve to take up all the space you need; simply because you exist. knowing that others have it easy while you don’t is justifiably frustrating. However, that doesn’t mean that good things won’t come to you or that one day you won’t have it easier. unfortunately we don’t get to pick the circumstances we are born into, but as we mature, we do have control over the choices we make to better our situation or not. we can’t sit in a place of self pity because we never got certain things handed to us. all we can do now is move forward. If we don’t, we’ll just stay in a negative cycle; and that’s where its harder to be grateful. i promise you there’s someone out there that would switch places with you in a heart beat. that fact in itself is what should keep you grateful. you may not have it all now but 1. you have it better than most 2. you have your whole life to get there. i don’t think you’d want everything handed to you on a silver platter anyways, it doesn’t build character. you are who you are through your trials and tribulations. why do you think so many people say the journey is far more important than the destination? i seen a tweet that resonated with me and i hope it resonates with you to so i’ll leave you with this, ‘Be thankful even for the little things, be thankful even when things aren’t easy, eventually everything will workout for you.’
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