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  • Someone asked:
    on November 20, 2024 10:15 pm
    I’m not happy
    • SLC replied:
      on November 21, 2024 5:50 pm
      you need to figure out what’s not making you happy and then doing your best to lessen that thing or things everyday. are you not happy because you hate your job? start applying to new ones, start taking new courses/certificates that can help you get into higher positions/benefit you. are you not happy because of the people around you? learn to start implementing boundaries and cutting off people who don’t deserve to be in your life. are you not happy because life just seems dull/boring? start going out more with friends, go on solo dates, do an activity one a week that you can look forward to. do things that excite you. are you not happy because you aren’t properly taking care of yourself? create a beauty/self-care routine that will make you feel your best – change your hair, get your nails done, order some new clothes x make up, start exercising to feel more healthy/ active, start implementing a better sleep schedule etc. What i’m trying to say from all this is that there is always a solution to your problem, you just have to identify what the issue is first and then create a solution for it. i’ve said this before, but we are in charge of our own happiness. if you’re not happy then you gotta put on some big girl panties and do something to change that. sitting around moping about it won’t do anything and will probably make you more sad. we only have this one known life, we need to spend it enjoying ourselves as much as we can. i know that’s not always the case; some situations are dire, but if there’s anything we can do to better ourselves then we gotta do it. big or small. seek happiness, seek joy. wake up in the morning and claim that you will have a good day. put yourself in positions to experience happiness. Again, you are in charge.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 20, 2024 10:01 pm
    Will you do like a self care day for Day challenge before new year?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 21, 2024 5:35 pm
      hmm tbh i wasn’t thinking of it but maybe i will. i’ve read up on this 30 day challenge that i was gonna share with you all before december so maybe it’s something we can all commit to together💖
  • Someone asked:
    on November 18, 2024 11:10 pm
    I girl. I started my digital Marketing journey and i almost felt like giving up. I want to show my face then again i want to hide. I feel lost in what to post, but i want people to know how i can help them. Do you have any tips. Also how do you feel about sharing your story and how to go about it? I have gone through some heavy things and its What made me want to be better, but i have a hard time Articulating this. Thank you sister 🌹
    • SLC replied:
      on November 21, 2024 6:04 pm
      hi boo, listen if you want something, you gotta do what it takes to get it! you have to let go of the fear of being seen! you have a gift that needs to be brought to the world and you’re doing us and yourself an injustice by not fully committing to the journey. i’ll say this, you don’t necessarily have to show your face if you don’t want to. there are many ‘faceless’ accounts that blow up all the time. i’m literally one of them lmao. the difference is though, i don’t show my face on my account not because im hiding, but more-so because ‘dash’ has little to do with my personal life. If i had a need to show my face in order to grow my page, then that’s exactly what i’d do, fear or not. So to reiterate, you don’t need to show your face for your content to be good, but if you WANT to and you’re purposely hiding yourself out of fear, then you gotta learn to get over it. Make a deal with yourself, record one video and post it with fear and all. the more you expose yourself the easier it comes, i promise you. in terms of not knowing what to post, there are so many accounts out there that give monthly content ideas/pillars, you could use AI as well, or you can simply ask your followers what they want to see. Better yet, post for you! what do you think you can help people out with? what type of content do you like seeing/engaging with? I always say this, but my niche is myself. everything that i post is something that i personally want to see. I post for me and all the other glo girls out there. i think thats what makes people gravitate to my page because I’m just lucky enough to have a community of women who are just like me. Put your personality into, be creative and enjoy. People love authenticity. Sharing your story allows your followers to feel more connected to you. it goes from having followers to feeling like you have a real community behind you. Again, you have something that you should be sharing with the world. By opening up and sharing your story, you don’t know how many people you can help. You don’t gotta overthink it, just be real and honest, this is YOUR story after all. Stop hiding from the world and start embracing this journey head on. Be your best authentic self and help as many people as you can. your gifts are meant to be seen and appreciated xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on November 18, 2024 8:08 am
    Hi sister! Just want your advice on this matter. I feel so pressured about other woman’s Success/ own timeline. I felt that everyone is Achieving their goals. But here i am still studying my degree. I just feel so pressure.
    • SLC replied:
      on November 21, 2024 5:34 pm
      girl you gotta ignore that feeling. everyone’s timeline is different. we’re all on different journeys and different paths. what you might accomplish in 5 years, someone may accomplish in 10, what someone might achieve in 2 years, you may accomplish in 7, it’s never gonna be the same. Half the time when we’re feeling jealous over what someone else has, its not even something we necessarily want. why be upset when someone opened up their boutique when you want to be a nurse? we are all unique and so we’re all gonna do things differently. Another woman’s success shouldn’t equal the lack of your own. Like i’ve said in other q&a’s, instead of feeling pressured or envious, learn to feel inspired. be happy for that other woman. remind yourself that if she can do it, so can you. also remind yourself that you never know anyones journey. so what could look like glitz and glam to you, could actually be a whole lot of failure, sadness, time/energy, discipline, rejection etc, behind the scenes/along the way to get whoever this woman is to where she’s at. keep your eyes on your own journey, thats the only journey that matters. be proud of yourself for every little achievement that you make and remind yourself that you have what it takes to be just as good as any other successful woman out there.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 17, 2024 5:03 pm
    Should my boyfriend and best friend be friends? They met a few weeks ago for the first time and they seem to be cool with one another. Idk if im tripping for feeling a way. i was there when it happened but they even Followed each other on socials. I want them to be friends but not too friendly
    • SLC replied:
      on November 17, 2024 9:03 pm
      There obviously should be boundaries there but I don’t see anything wrong with it. At the end of the day these are two important people in your life so why not have them get along? I think if it’s something that’s bothering you, you may need to look into yourself and wonder what underlying insecurities you have and why. Whether it’s trust issues, jealousy, etc, that’s something that you’re going to need to overcome if you want to healthy relationships (platonically and romantically). Again a woman’s intuition never lies so if you feel like its something else trust it, but it sounds like a harmless interaction so i’d say let it be.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 17, 2024 1:33 pm
    Hi girl What do you follow more? Your heart or your head?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 17, 2024 8:51 pm
      i personally follow my head more. i’m such a logical person that i rely on my head for decision making. As important as it is to be in tune with our emotions (super important btw), following your heart over your head can get people into sticky situations. I think it also depends on what we’re following our heart vs head for too. When it comes to following your passions, one would say to follow your heart if you want true happiness. When it comes to business, you can’t let your emotions run things so thats where following your head is better. When it comes to relationships/love it is important to follow both as much as you can because your heart can get manipulated and your head can have you put up a wall to where you won’t let love in. its very situational at the end of the day. i do follow both but if i had to pick then yeah overall i rely on logic/reasoning which means following my head more.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 13, 2024 2:45 pm
    Hey girl, I need your advice! My boyfriend broke up with me three months ago, and while it hurts that he doesn’t want to be in my life anymore, what really bothers me is that he was feeling this way for nearly a year but led me on, making me believe we had a future together. I’m so angry that he let me think things were fine, kept being intimate with me, and even showed up to my graduation, meeting my family for the first time, just to break up with me four weeks later. Now, he’s on TikTok with another girl, supposedly for “promotional content” for restaurants. He’d mentioned this before, and I didn’t like it, but I didn’t want to stop him from getting the bag. But now they’re posting together even more, looking very much like a couple, and it’s humiliating because friends and even my family have seen it. I feel used, and part of me wonders if they’re actually together. I’m so tempted to crash out, but everyone is telling me to block the girl, let it go, and move on. That’s what I’m trying to do, but I feel stuck in anger and really just want to move forward. I don’t care about him anymore, but I don’t know how to forgive him and move on without resentment. I don’t want this to turn me bitter. I’m trying to build a relationship with God and break free from old, toxic patterns, but it’s hard when I still feel like seeking revenge. Any advice? 😭
    • SLC replied:
      on November 16, 2024 11:30 pm
      whew girl reading this had me angry for you i wont even lie. He is super wrong for doing that and this is why i always say that people need to seriously work on communication skills. i know you wanna crash out, but that would just be giving him all the power. One thing you’re not gonna give anyone is power over you. fuck the revenge. he’s not even worth it. The best payback is getting yourself together and never looking back. You’ll realize that when you’re so focused on yourself, the less you’ll start caring about him. Block him, block her, block his homies, idc, do what you gotta do to get him out of your sight. like i say all the time, out of sight=out of mind. This is your time to flourish. This is your time to be a better you for YOU. Thats the real revenge. Build that relationship with God like you want. God even says to not take revenge and leave it to Him (Romans 12:19). Break ups are not easy, but there’s lessons to be learned in them. i’m rooting for you boo xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on November 13, 2024 4:11 am
    Hi big sis! How are you? Can you please share some advice on how to not rush into jumping from season to season? Like i realized that I don’t live in the moment. Like i always think about my future self, future life etc that I forgot that I have now. 😅 im currently in the season of studying my undergrad degree.
    • SLC replied:
      on November 16, 2024 11:15 pm
      hi my love, i’m good🥰 I think the best thing you can do is learn to embrace each moment your in instead of focusing on the future. you have to remind yourself that you’re only ever going to live in the present moment, so start really enjoying it. Once you have faith that your future is going to be good no matter what, it allows you to start living more in this moment. why would you sit and worry about something that you know is going to be blessed anyways? Im not saying to full on ignore your future, of course the things we do now set up our future, but you never wanna miss out on life now only having your future in mind. Right now is all we ever have. I would recommend practicing mindfulness, that includes meditating, breathing techniques, journaling, reducing distractions (yes that means that phone girl), doing activities that keep you focused on the present moment (like exercising, socializing, colouring, reading, cooking etc.) I also recommend reading ‘The power of now’, such a great book for reminding ourselves to stay in the present moment. Whenever you get caught up in your thoughts of the future, snap out of it and remind yourself to slowwwww down. All we have is right now and right now is what we should be cherishing the most. “The best way to take care of the future, is to take care of the present moment.”
  • Someone asked:
    on November 12, 2024 2:57 pm
    Hi SLC, hope all is well. I’m having a bit of a dilemma. So i’ve recently ended a 4 year long toxic relationship/situationship with my ex. I Decided to get on hinge and matched with someone. We’ve been talking for about a month and have gone on a few dates and things were going great. He would text back quickly, and if he was ever busy he Would let me know. He was very attentive, and had great conversation. After our 2nd to last date he texted me asking if i liked him and still wanted to continue talking. I replied Saying that i do and that i Enjoyed spending time with him. We werent able to see each other for about 2 weeks After that due to conflicting schedules. We finally decided on a Date and this was going to be an inside gathering at either his or my house. We decided upon his. He got us food, and i brought the drinks. The night was seemingly good to me. We watched a few movies, cuddled and talked. He initiated the cuddling and i was happy with it. It got to the end of the date and he mentioned he was getting tired and he thinks hes gonna head to bed soon. He asked me what i wanted to do, if i wanted to call an uber, have him drive me home or stay the night. I’m not one who likes to infringe on peoples personal space so i asked him What he wanted me to do. He replied that it didnt matter, it was up to me. Being that i like Direct confirmation that you want me around i decided to call my uber. While calling it, he was getting ready for bed and came out the bathroom and said okay c’mon lets go to bed. I said oh i didnt know you wanted me to stay, you didnt say that and informed him that i called my uber. Since then the energy has done a complete 180. hes not as responsive as he used to be and it seems like he doesnt want to talk anymore. I really did like him, and looked forward to speaking to him daily and spending time with him. What do you suggest i do in this situation?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 16, 2024 10:52 pm
      hmm to me this sounds like a blessing in disguise. i say this because there are two red flags, 1. it seems like he wanted something else to happen and may be upset now that it didn’t and 2. his communication skills are lacking. im sorry but as a man, why are you not being direct? okay its one thing for him to make you have the choice in if you stay over or not, but why after the fact now can he not let you know if there’s an issue? the complete 180 just seems so odd given the situation, all you did was go home lol. which is why i believe it ties into my number 1 point that he wanted something to happen and was upset that you decided to go home instead. again i could be wrong but thats what its giving. Regardles, a man not being able to communicate is a turn off. just say what it is or what it ain’t. I personally wouldn’t, but if you really do like him then maybe reach out to him and directly ask him if the date has something to do with this switch up. Maybe after that, you’ll get some clarity on the situation and you two can either continue or just leave it where its at.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 12, 2024 11:39 am
    I’d been speaking to this guy for almost 6 months, we were semi long distance but we made it work. everything was so good i have zero complaints, we spoke about the future together, family, travelling together. we would speak every single day. the most intense i’ve been with a guy, usually they can barely get a response out of me. but things were different with him. then All of a sudden he disappeared for a few days and then came back and said he wants to take a step back from the situation and the direction it was heading in. Essentially pulling back before it became a relationship. He said it wasn’t me and he had things to deal with etc. but he has literally abandoned me and left me for dead. from an extreme high to absolutely nothing and he said he can’t say when he’ll be ready again, could be a few weeks, could be months. i’m literally tore up honestly, i thought he was the one, everything was so good. i don’t know what to do. i’m hurting so bad and he’s just living as normal, not speaking to me, i don’t get it. this was all so cold. any advice would be appreciated I miss him
    • SLC replied:
      on November 16, 2024 10:40 pm
      i’m so sorry that happened to you sis. it definitely sounded like he love bombed you. it also sounded like he might of got cold feet as well. He never wanted commitment no matter what sweet dreams he was trying to sell you. you might not see it as such but it might have been a good thing he ended it before it got any further. i know you already had strong feelings for him but imagine you two prolonged it or actually committed and then he dropped this bomb. As much as it hurts now just know that its for the best. you don’t wanna be with someone whose wishy-washy anyways girl. The best advice i can give to you is what i give to all my girlies going through breakups; grieve the relationship (its okay to feel hurt and betrayed, your feelings are valid), focus more on you and doing the things you love (the best revenge is no revenge and just upgrading your life without them) and finally i would say don’t let this make you cold. As you said you normally don’t even respond to guys so i know probably feel extra hurt because the one person you actually gave a chance to did this, but don’t let this situation turn you cold or heartless. Should you be more mindful going forward ofc, but don’t let this situation stop you from meeting your person. There is someone out there who is going to treat you the way you deserve. this guy just wasn’t it. Every situation we go through we can either become a victim to it or take it as a lesson and move forward. don’t give him that power of making you a victim, move forward sis.
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