Is Your Boyfriend Not Listening To You When You Vent?

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  • Someone asked:
    on November 26, 2024 12:18 am
    Hi sis! Just want your advice on how to manage anger? Im a little girly with such anger on me🤣 people really push some buttons on me
    • SLC replied:
      on November 28, 2024 3:34 pm
      – remember that you hold the power, the second you let someone get you out of character, you give your power to them. Are you in control of you or are they? – learn to choose your battles wisely, stop and ask yourself ‘is this really worth it? will i even care about this 5 months or even 5 days from now?’ if the answer is no, then let it go. learn to replace your angry thoughts with more rational ones. – start journalling, journalling allows you to get all your feelings from your head to the paper. whether your feeling sad or pissed off, journalling allows you to release those emotions – exercise, its said that physical movement is a great way to release built up anger -practice mindfulness. whenever you feel yourself getting worked up, start taking some deep breaths. meditation can also help with that too, take a moment, sit down and allow yourself to let your thoughts flow without feeling the need to react to them/control them – vent, sometimes we just want to be heard, venting to someone you trust (or even to your journal) can help release the emotions you feel bottled up inside
  • Someone asked:
    on November 25, 2024 2:46 pm
    Is bad that i begged for my ex to take me back? Looking back i feel embarrassed that i did such a thing 😭
    • SLC replied:
      on November 28, 2024 2:49 pm
      yes girl. never ever beg for someone to be in your life. if your ex wanted to be with you, they would. grovelling lowers your self worth and takes you away from being the prize. and in case you didn’t know, YOU ARE THE PRIZE. Now i don’t know the backstory of how the relationship ended but regardless of how it did, its done and the best thing you can do for yourself is move forward. If someone doesn’t want you in their life, you gotta charge it to the game and keep it pushing. Never forget that you set the standards for yourself. Never lower your worth by letting people treat you like an option. its never worth it in the long run. Now, you already did the begging, so there’s no point in beating yourself up about it. Just take this as a lesson and never do it again. The second you feel yourself begging anyone for anything, stop yourself and remember that you are the prize.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 25, 2024 8:00 am
    hi sis! can i ask if you have business? if yes then can you please give some advice on how to start a business? how to know the right business to start and your most important lesson learned from having a business?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 28, 2024 2:34 pm
      hi boo, in terms of the questions specifically about me, i want you to ask me this question exactly one month from now and i promise i’ll answer it the best i can 😉 what i can say now though is that the right business for you will align with you and your purpose. if you have no interest in what you’re selling, your customers will feel that. make sure that you are passionate about what you’re doing because your ‘why’ will always keep you motivated, even when things aren’t where you want them to be. Bring something into the world that YOU believe in. Thats the first step and the most important one. All the researching x learning x implementing comes secondary to that.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 24, 2024 5:56 pm
    My recent breakup with my boyfriend has taken an emotional and mental toll on me. I lack the motivation to attend my classes, even though I’m pursuing a Master’s degree, which I know I need to take more seriously. I’ve been eating nothing but junk food, and when I’m not eating that, I don’t eat at all. I’ve been feeling very discouraged because I keep getting rejected from jobs, and I urgently need a part-time job to support myself while I’m studying. Overall, I just feel completely overwhelmed with life right now.
    • SLC replied:
      on November 28, 2024 2:26 pm
      aw my love, im so sorry you’re going through all this. heartbreak is a tough thing to deal with. Just know that the way you’re feeling is valid. However, you cannot lose yourself because of it. As i always say, its okay to grieve the relationship. Take the time you need to mourn . its okay to cry, it’s okay to be sad or depressed, its okay to miss your ex, but you can’t let it get to the point where it’s taking over your life. You need to begin healing. You were someone before the relationship and you’ll be someone after the relationship as well. Know that this is just a small chapter of your life and you wont be going through this forever. Time + distance + prioritizing yourself= how you move on. Use this time to start rebuilding your self-esteem and confidence. Thats how you begin to heal. Focus on being the best you. Prove to yourself that you’re more than just your relationship. Be the woman you know you’re meant to be. Do things that not only will make you feel better but will also prompt you into bettering your future. Start going to your classes even if you have to drag yourself out of bed, start eating better (you are what you eat, constantly eating junk food will make you feel like junk), start applying for jobs, fake it till you make it if you have to. As time goes on, you’ll begin to feel better. Be patient with yourself and trust that you won’t feel this way forever. There is always better to come. Think of this chapter that you’re in right now as one that is teaching you how to love yourself more, be stronger, and as the stepping stone to being a better you💖
  • Someone asked:
    on November 23, 2024 11:35 pm
    How do you feel about the belief that ” You are everyone and everyone is you” ? I think it’s kinda crazy and I came to the realization that there are people in this world that sound strange but its their belief. This boy had told me he is me… but then at first he told me he was god 1st then an angel some days ago. I even told him well with that logic you can say your also a rapist, then he asked why I said that and I said well you just said everyone is you. I told him I disagree that everyone is connected im some way but we are different individuals sharing life and our experiences. When someone dies you aren’t going with them nor do you guys have the same soul and mindset so how are they “You” ? I really disagree and it doesn’t make sense to me. I also told him that I agree that people can have different versions of Themselves Positive and negative versions of Themselves and everyone has to deal with their negative Problems with life on their own as well. Some shared experiences doesn’t mean you and everyone are each other. Hes one of those “Spiritual ” boys. I had told him that I’m currently Unemployed , lost my 1st car completely in an accident some months ago this year, lost a job that I really liked because my former boyfriend kicked me out him and his parents house so I had to move back in with my parents and now currently unemployed. The guy had told me it’s good that I’m unemployed when I told him I wish I was working because I have and had motion and ambition. He said jobs are bad for the planet and in a sense I agree that people shouldn’t be working so much but I told him everyone has to work to survive unless your going to live off grid or on some piece of land being self sufficient. He had asked me for 20 dollars if I can help pay his phone bill and I told him im unemployed. I don’t know how to feel about the guy…
    • SLC replied:
      on November 26, 2024 1:24 am
      Tbh i don’t agree with that saying at all. I can agree that yes we all are connected just by being human, but to say we are all the same is a stretch. If you wanna get scientific with it, the DNA each of us individually have, shows that we are not all the same. Like you said, you’re not the same as a rapist or murderer and vice versa. God gave us all free will and what we choose to do with that free will is based on our own individuality. I’m so sorry to say it, but a lot of these ‘spiritual’ people don’t know what they’re talking about. But again thats what all makes us different. We’re allowed to have different opinions. The same way i may view his view of thinking weird, he may think mine is🤷🏾‍♀️ I’m also sorry that you’re currently going through all that, but his outlook on it just doesn’t make sense. Yes, i agree working to live shouldn’t be the main goal in life but we can’t be unrealistic. He’s definitely a strange guy but like you said it’s his own beliefs and he’s entitled to it. Just don’t take what he says too seriously before you end up living like you’re Tarzan lol.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 23, 2024 4:39 am
    hi sis! I just want to share with you that i Don’t find joy in posting on my ig account, even though i have 1k plus followers. like numbers of likes, followers comments and views Don’t excite me anymore I’m 21 years old but i know sooner or later I’m gonna quit scrolling or even posting on my ig account hahaha like is this adulting? i want to focus more on my offline life more than online. i want to make my offline life more beautiful more than what i am posting..
    • SLC replied:
      on November 26, 2024 1:10 am
      I think that’s such a good thing sis! I feel the exact same way, if it wasn’t for my business page(s), i would barely ever be on instagram. I don’t even think i interact on my personal pages anymore 😂 i guess that is adulting. At the end of the day when you log off all these apps, real life is there and real life is more beautiful than any curated insta feed you could make. One of my fave quotes is ‘I don’t wanna be instagram picture goals. I wanna be my real life goals.’ All this social media stuff doesn’t matter if your real life is dreadful. You can’t fake real life. So I’m very happy for you and i hope that this creates an even more healthy relationship you have with social media/yourself.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 23, 2024 4:35 am
    do you already Figure it out what’s your purpose in life? and if yes how? <33
    • SLC replied:
      on November 26, 2024 1:00 am
      Honestly i don’t know. I think we can have multiple purposes in life. I think my main purpose in life will always be to help people in some way or another. I’ve always been in love with the thought of self-development and as i got older I knew i felt a connection with making people feel good. I guess i just put the two together lol. I do think though that how i achieve that purpose can change or elevate as a learn myself more/come into different opportunities. Don’t ever feel behind if you don’t know your purpose yet. Most of us don’t know wtf we’re doing and those of us who do just go day by day. We’re allowed to be multifaceted. We’re allowed to have multiple interests which means we’re allowed to have multiple purposes. Embrace them all.💕
  • Someone asked:
    on November 23, 2024 4:33 am
    hi big sis! i hope you’re doing well! btw can i ask for some advice on how to slow downnn like I realized lately that I always wanted to finish the task even though i dont have many things to do after like in general i think im rushing for something like I said to myself “girl you dont have any deadline.” i just realized that im rushing everything in my life
    • SLC replied:
      on November 26, 2024 12:48 am
      Hi boo, thank you i am 🥰 in terms of slowing down, I recommend a few things. ‘Slow living- Embracing simplicity, savouring the present moment, and finding inner peace amidst the chaos. It’s a conscious journey of soulful connection, gratitude, and harmony with nature’s rhythms, leading to more meaningful and authentic existence.’ 1. start practicing more mindfulness (being in the present moment). When’s the last time you actually took in the day-to-day activities you do on a regular? Felt the water on your skin during a shower? Embraced the taste of the food you were eating? Watched the world move outside instead of being on your phone? The more we are aware/in the moment of the things we do, the more present we are. The more present we are, the more slower we are. Try to implement more mindfulness, even if it’s just 10 minutes a day focusing on something in the present instead of worrying about the future. The next thing i would recommend is making a schedule and sticking to it. For example, if you have a to-do list for the week, don’t rush to do Wednesday’s tasks on Monday. Allocate your time wisely. We may think that doing things faster means we’re more productive but half the time when we rush through things, we don’t have the chance to give it our full attention and it ends up being half assed. Take your time. Stick to your to-do’s on their dedicated days. If you end up finishing everything, instead of taking on something else, take a break instead. The last thing you want is burnout and that usually comes from taking on too many things at once. You’re not lazy if you rest. You’re not being unproductive when you take a mental health day. You have to take care of yourself and that includes giving your body the rest it needs and deserves. Life is forever going to be a journey, so enjoy it, don’t rush to get to the destination.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 22, 2024 5:38 pm
    Hey sista, how would you feel if a family member has befriended an old friend? I Know i Shouldn’t feel any type of way, Especially since the person and i are no longer cool. But, it just feels weird knowing that my ex best friend is now besties with my cousin. My cousin feels like it isn’t shady on her part and that i Shouldn’t feel any type of way. i came to my cousin for emotional support when the friendship ended and this was the same person who said f her but turned around and became besties with her. I’ve tried to talk/explain about how i felt betrayed by Her but she was very Narcissistic and argumentative about the situation so the conversation just felt pointless. She mainly focused on what she feels is right instead of being open minded and viewing things from another Perspective. Idk how to feel about this?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 26, 2024 12:29 am
      Hi love i can definitely see why you’d feel a way and see it as a betrayal especially if you confided in your cousin/used her as a support system. I feel like if you already spoke to your cousin about how you feel and she hasn’t seen your point of view, then you just have to let it be. At the end of the day we can’t control who other people have relationships with, even when it’s people we no longer like. I would recommend not speaking on your ex best friend to your cousin and not using your cousin as someone you need for moral support going further. The two relationships can be separate. If it does get to a point where you continuously feel a way, maybe distance yourself from your cousin for your own sake. The last thing you want is a relationship with her thats full of resentment or animosity. If you need to take a step back then do so. I hope it works out xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on November 21, 2024 5:30 am
    I know its not a good thing to think about but how common would you say it is that guys come back? I really miss this guy a lot, he walked away when it was getting more serious. and i shouldn’t but a piece of me wants him to realise his mistakes and come back. we haven’t spoken in almost two weeks now. Is silence the best way to make him reflect?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 21, 2024 6:29 pm
      “The idea of someone “coming back” to you should not give you satisfaction or stroke your ego. Especially someone who treated you poorly in the past. Them trying again is a test of your own morals, self-respect and self-esteem. It is NOT about you. It’s the universe testing you.” i don’t wanna burst your bubbles baby but someone walking out on you probably isn’t the type of person you need in your life. if he walked away once, he’ll do it again. what does that say about your worth if you let someone who hurt you just continue to walk in and out of your life as they please? most times when a guy comes back its not because he realized he made a mistake and wants to do better (some cases are but its low), instead he usually comes back because its convenient for him. Don’t chase anyone who would purposely walk out of your life. i know you miss him but you deserve more boo. you have to tell yourself that you deserve more. you have to remind yourself that you’re not the kind of girl thats just gonna sit around and wait for a man to decide ‘hm okay well i’m lonely and bored so i guess now i want to be with her’. You have to be okay with losing people who are okay with losing you.
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