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  • Someone asked:
    on November 23, 2024 4:33 am
    hi big sis! i hope you’re doing well! btw can i ask for some advice on how to slow downnn like I realized lately that I always wanted to finish the task even though i dont have many things to do after like in general i think im rushing for something like I said to myself “girl you dont have any deadline.” i just realized that im rushing everything in my life
    • SLC replied:
      on November 26, 2024 12:48 am
      Hi boo, thank you i am 🥰 in terms of slowing down, I recommend a few things. ‘Slow living- Embracing simplicity, savouring the present moment, and finding inner peace amidst the chaos. It’s a conscious journey of soulful connection, gratitude, and harmony with nature’s rhythms, leading to more meaningful and authentic existence.’ 1. start practicing more mindfulness (being in the present moment). When’s the last time you actually took in the day-to-day activities you do on a regular? Felt the water on your skin during a shower? Embraced the taste of the food you were eating? Watched the world move outside instead of being on your phone? The more we are aware/in the moment of the things we do, the more present we are. The more present we are, the more slower we are. Try to implement more mindfulness, even if it’s just 10 minutes a day focusing on something in the present instead of worrying about the future. The next thing i would recommend is making a schedule and sticking to it. For example, if you have a to-do list for the week, don’t rush to do Wednesday’s tasks on Monday. Allocate your time wisely. We may think that doing things faster means we’re more productive but half the time when we rush through things, we don’t have the chance to give it our full attention and it ends up being half assed. Take your time. Stick to your to-do’s on their dedicated days. If you end up finishing everything, instead of taking on something else, take a break instead. The last thing you want is burnout and that usually comes from taking on too many things at once. You’re not lazy if you rest. You’re not being unproductive when you take a mental health day. You have to take care of yourself and that includes giving your body the rest it needs and deserves. Life is forever going to be a journey, so enjoy it, don’t rush to get to the destination.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 22, 2024 5:38 pm
    Hey sista, how would you feel if a family member has befriended an old friend? I Know i Shouldn’t feel any type of way, Especially since the person and i are no longer cool. But, it just feels weird knowing that my ex best friend is now besties with my cousin. My cousin feels like it isn’t shady on her part and that i Shouldn’t feel any type of way. i came to my cousin for emotional support when the friendship ended and this was the same person who said f her but turned around and became besties with her. I’ve tried to talk/explain about how i felt betrayed by Her but she was very Narcissistic and argumentative about the situation so the conversation just felt pointless. She mainly focused on what she feels is right instead of being open minded and viewing things from another Perspective. Idk how to feel about this?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 26, 2024 12:29 am
      Hi love i can definitely see why you’d feel a way and see it as a betrayal especially if you confided in your cousin/used her as a support system. I feel like if you already spoke to your cousin about how you feel and she hasn’t seen your point of view, then you just have to let it be. At the end of the day we can’t control who other people have relationships with, even when it’s people we no longer like. I would recommend not speaking on your ex best friend to your cousin and not using your cousin as someone you need for moral support going further. The two relationships can be separate. If it does get to a point where you continuously feel a way, maybe distance yourself from your cousin for your own sake. The last thing you want is a relationship with her thats full of resentment or animosity. If you need to take a step back then do so. I hope it works out xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on November 21, 2024 5:30 am
    I know its not a good thing to think about but how common would you say it is that guys come back? I really miss this guy a lot, he walked away when it was getting more serious. and i shouldn’t but a piece of me wants him to realise his mistakes and come back. we haven’t spoken in almost two weeks now. Is silence the best way to make him reflect?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 21, 2024 6:29 pm
      “The idea of someone “coming back” to you should not give you satisfaction or stroke your ego. Especially someone who treated you poorly in the past. Them trying again is a test of your own morals, self-respect and self-esteem. It is NOT about you. It’s the universe testing you.” i don’t wanna burst your bubbles baby but someone walking out on you probably isn’t the type of person you need in your life. if he walked away once, he’ll do it again. what does that say about your worth if you let someone who hurt you just continue to walk in and out of your life as they please? most times when a guy comes back its not because he realized he made a mistake and wants to do better (some cases are but its low), instead he usually comes back because its convenient for him. Don’t chase anyone who would purposely walk out of your life. i know you miss him but you deserve more boo. you have to tell yourself that you deserve more. you have to remind yourself that you’re not the kind of girl thats just gonna sit around and wait for a man to decide ‘hm okay well i’m lonely and bored so i guess now i want to be with her’. You have to be okay with losing people who are okay with losing you.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 20, 2024 10:15 pm
    I’m not happy
    • SLC replied:
      on November 21, 2024 5:50 pm
      you need to figure out what’s not making you happy and then doing your best to lessen that thing or things everyday. are you not happy because you hate your job? start applying to new ones, start taking new courses/certificates that can help you get into higher positions/benefit you. are you not happy because of the people around you? learn to start implementing boundaries and cutting off people who don’t deserve to be in your life. are you not happy because life just seems dull/boring? start going out more with friends, go on solo dates, do an activity one a week that you can look forward to. do things that excite you. are you not happy because you aren’t properly taking care of yourself? create a beauty/self-care routine that will make you feel your best – change your hair, get your nails done, order some new clothes x make up, start exercising to feel more healthy/ active, start implementing a better sleep schedule etc. What i’m trying to say from all this is that there is always a solution to your problem, you just have to identify what the issue is first and then create a solution for it. i’ve said this before, but we are in charge of our own happiness. if you’re not happy then you gotta put on some big girl panties and do something to change that. sitting around moping about it won’t do anything and will probably make you more sad. we only have this one known life, we need to spend it enjoying ourselves as much as we can. i know that’s not always the case; some situations are dire, but if there’s anything we can do to better ourselves then we gotta do it. big or small. seek happiness, seek joy. wake up in the morning and claim that you will have a good day. put yourself in positions to experience happiness. Again, you are in charge.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 20, 2024 10:01 pm
    Will you do like a self care day for Day challenge before new year?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 21, 2024 5:35 pm
      hmm tbh i wasn’t thinking of it but maybe i will. i’ve read up on this 30 day challenge that i was gonna share with you all before december so maybe it’s something we can all commit to together💖
  • Someone asked:
    on November 18, 2024 11:10 pm
    I girl. I started my digital Marketing journey and i almost felt like giving up. I want to show my face then again i want to hide. I feel lost in what to post, but i want people to know how i can help them. Do you have any tips. Also how do you feel about sharing your story and how to go about it? I have gone through some heavy things and its What made me want to be better, but i have a hard time Articulating this. Thank you sister 🌹
    • SLC replied:
      on November 21, 2024 6:04 pm
      hi boo, listen if you want something, you gotta do what it takes to get it! you have to let go of the fear of being seen! you have a gift that needs to be brought to the world and you’re doing us and yourself an injustice by not fully committing to the journey. i’ll say this, you don’t necessarily have to show your face if you don’t want to. there are many ‘faceless’ accounts that blow up all the time. i’m literally one of them lmao. the difference is though, i don’t show my face on my account not because im hiding, but more-so because ‘dash’ has little to do with my personal life. If i had a need to show my face in order to grow my page, then that’s exactly what i’d do, fear or not. So to reiterate, you don’t need to show your face for your content to be good, but if you WANT to and you’re purposely hiding yourself out of fear, then you gotta learn to get over it. Make a deal with yourself, record one video and post it with fear and all. the more you expose yourself the easier it comes, i promise you. in terms of not knowing what to post, there are so many accounts out there that give monthly content ideas/pillars, you could use AI as well, or you can simply ask your followers what they want to see. Better yet, post for you! what do you think you can help people out with? what type of content do you like seeing/engaging with? I always say this, but my niche is myself. everything that i post is something that i personally want to see. I post for me and all the other glo girls out there. i think thats what makes people gravitate to my page because I’m just lucky enough to have a community of women who are just like me. Put your personality into, be creative and enjoy. People love authenticity. Sharing your story allows your followers to feel more connected to you. it goes from having followers to feeling like you have a real community behind you. Again, you have something that you should be sharing with the world. By opening up and sharing your story, you don’t know how many people you can help. You don’t gotta overthink it, just be real and honest, this is YOUR story after all. Stop hiding from the world and start embracing this journey head on. Be your best authentic self and help as many people as you can. your gifts are meant to be seen and appreciated xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on November 18, 2024 8:08 am
    Hi sister! Just want your advice on this matter. I feel so pressured about other woman’s Success/ own timeline. I felt that everyone is Achieving their goals. But here i am still studying my degree. I just feel so pressure.
    • SLC replied:
      on November 21, 2024 5:34 pm
      girl you gotta ignore that feeling. everyone’s timeline is different. we’re all on different journeys and different paths. what you might accomplish in 5 years, someone may accomplish in 10, what someone might achieve in 2 years, you may accomplish in 7, it’s never gonna be the same. Half the time when we’re feeling jealous over what someone else has, its not even something we necessarily want. why be upset when someone opened up their boutique when you want to be a nurse? we are all unique and so we’re all gonna do things differently. Another woman’s success shouldn’t equal the lack of your own. Like i’ve said in other q&a’s, instead of feeling pressured or envious, learn to feel inspired. be happy for that other woman. remind yourself that if she can do it, so can you. also remind yourself that you never know anyones journey. so what could look like glitz and glam to you, could actually be a whole lot of failure, sadness, time/energy, discipline, rejection etc, behind the scenes/along the way to get whoever this woman is to where she’s at. keep your eyes on your own journey, thats the only journey that matters. be proud of yourself for every little achievement that you make and remind yourself that you have what it takes to be just as good as any other successful woman out there.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 17, 2024 5:03 pm
    Should my boyfriend and best friend be friends? They met a few weeks ago for the first time and they seem to be cool with one another. Idk if im tripping for feeling a way. i was there when it happened but they even Followed each other on socials. I want them to be friends but not too friendly
    • SLC replied:
      on November 17, 2024 9:03 pm
      There obviously should be boundaries there but I don’t see anything wrong with it. At the end of the day these are two important people in your life so why not have them get along? I think if it’s something that’s bothering you, you may need to look into yourself and wonder what underlying insecurities you have and why. Whether it’s trust issues, jealousy, etc, that’s something that you’re going to need to overcome if you want to healthy relationships (platonically and romantically). Again a woman’s intuition never lies so if you feel like its something else trust it, but it sounds like a harmless interaction so i’d say let it be.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 17, 2024 1:33 pm
    Hi girl What do you follow more? Your heart or your head?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 17, 2024 8:51 pm
      i personally follow my head more. i’m such a logical person that i rely on my head for decision making. As important as it is to be in tune with our emotions (super important btw), following your heart over your head can get people into sticky situations. I think it also depends on what we’re following our heart vs head for too. When it comes to following your passions, one would say to follow your heart if you want true happiness. When it comes to business, you can’t let your emotions run things so thats where following your head is better. When it comes to relationships/love it is important to follow both as much as you can because your heart can get manipulated and your head can have you put up a wall to where you won’t let love in. its very situational at the end of the day. i do follow both but if i had to pick then yeah overall i rely on logic/reasoning which means following my head more.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 13, 2024 2:45 pm
    Hey girl, I need your advice! My boyfriend broke up with me three months ago, and while it hurts that he doesn’t want to be in my life anymore, what really bothers me is that he was feeling this way for nearly a year but led me on, making me believe we had a future together. I’m so angry that he let me think things were fine, kept being intimate with me, and even showed up to my graduation, meeting my family for the first time, just to break up with me four weeks later. Now, he’s on TikTok with another girl, supposedly for “promotional content” for restaurants. He’d mentioned this before, and I didn’t like it, but I didn’t want to stop him from getting the bag. But now they’re posting together even more, looking very much like a couple, and it’s humiliating because friends and even my family have seen it. I feel used, and part of me wonders if they’re actually together. I’m so tempted to crash out, but everyone is telling me to block the girl, let it go, and move on. That’s what I’m trying to do, but I feel stuck in anger and really just want to move forward. I don’t care about him anymore, but I don’t know how to forgive him and move on without resentment. I don’t want this to turn me bitter. I’m trying to build a relationship with God and break free from old, toxic patterns, but it’s hard when I still feel like seeking revenge. Any advice? 😭
    • SLC replied:
      on November 16, 2024 11:30 pm
      whew girl reading this had me angry for you i wont even lie. He is super wrong for doing that and this is why i always say that people need to seriously work on communication skills. i know you wanna crash out, but that would just be giving him all the power. One thing you’re not gonna give anyone is power over you. fuck the revenge. he’s not even worth it. The best payback is getting yourself together and never looking back. You’ll realize that when you’re so focused on yourself, the less you’ll start caring about him. Block him, block her, block his homies, idc, do what you gotta do to get him out of your sight. like i say all the time, out of sight=out of mind. This is your time to flourish. This is your time to be a better you for YOU. Thats the real revenge. Build that relationship with God like you want. God even says to not take revenge and leave it to Him (Romans 12:19). Break ups are not easy, but there’s lessons to be learned in them. i’m rooting for you boo xoxo
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