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  • Someone asked:
    on December 6, 2024 5:22 pm
    How can i detach from people? Romantically and platonically
    • SLC replied:
      on December 7, 2024 2:46 pm
      the key thing in detaching from people is remembering that some people are not meant to be in our lives forever, sometimes they’re just put in our lives as lessons needed for us to grow. You have to let people show you who you are instead of seeing them how YOU want them to be. Once you see peoples true colours, you are then the one who decides whether you want them in your life or not. Focus only on what you can control. If its not within your control, you gotta let it be. If someone is making your life harder, why are you holding onto them? you deserve healthy relationships in all areas of your life. Holding onto something that no longer serves you, will drain you in the long run. We’re no longer chasing people. Doing so lowers your self worth. Build stronger self-worth and know your value. You don’t need any one else to feel complete, you complete yourself and everyone else should just add to it. No more feeling guilty, no more ignoring your boundaries and no more pleasing people that do not deserve it. Moving forward, start letting people earn you. stop giving such quick access to yourself without knowing if a person is worthy of it. your energy is a privilege, let people rise up to meet you. No more giving it up for free.
  • Someone asked:
    on December 6, 2024 12:17 pm
    I need 💡💡 What are some interesting low intensity jobs (not that physically draining, I mean every job is but lesser, and not something i need to take home and do)? I got one where I will work 2-3 days (it’s flexible and part time which is what i want) a week through the christmas period and I don’t know if they will prolong it. All i see it retail, cleaning and administration and i can’t do that it’s generally painfully boring/draining and it makes me feel shit mentally. I just want time for myself for a while hopefully and some money on the side 🦥🐢
    • SLC replied:
      on December 7, 2024 1:44 pm
      you can definitely look into social media evaluating and/or Ai training, i did that for many years once i was over retail. Its work from home positions where you can also make your own hours. AI is on the rise whether we like it or not, so there are many companies that are paying people to train AI systems remotely. Beware though, just as there are many pros like working your own hours/working from home, there are also some cons like insufficient work at times, system errors, lack of communication from project managers, and multiple exams. Give it a shot though especially if you’re good with part time work. I was able to focus on myself x my brand while luckily being able to make enough money to cover everything i needed. Another thing you can look into is being an online assistant, you can find clients through fivver, upwork, etc. Trust me, we’re in 2024 boo, its less about working hard and more about working smart. There’s a bunch of options, you just gotta do your research. Hope you find something xx
  • Someone asked:
    on December 5, 2024 11:09 pm
    Hii sis i Really want to start my 2025 planning now. what are some things you’re leaving in 2024??
    • SLC replied:
      on December 6, 2024 8:36 pm
      Things we’re leaving behind in 2024! 1. neglecting self-care 2. Comparing ourselves to others 3. Social media overload 4. procrastination + excuses 5. being in drama 6. playing it small + self doubt 7. wasting energy on people who don’t deserve it / ignoring our boundaries / accepting the bare minimum 8. not celebrating ourselves 9. limiting beliefs 10. overthinking. 2025 is OUR year, we leaving all the negativity behind. its only up from here🍾💖
  • Someone asked:
    on December 3, 2024 6:41 am
    Hi Sis, i want to start a profitable business But have no idea of what to venture into can i please get some ideas from you. And also do you know of any medicine or supplement i can take to loose weight Alongside exercising
    • SLC replied:
      on December 4, 2024 11:26 pm
      hi boo, there’s a lot of different things you can venture into if you want to start a profitable business. The main thing in choosing something is making sure that it aligns with you, you cant sell anything that you don’t personally believe it because it will show through how you run the business. if i was you, i’d personally take time out to research potential ventures and look more into them. Don’t just take my examples and go with it, do your own research and figure out what aligns with you! Some examples are, social media management, video editor, UGC, freelance writing, freelance design services, coaching/consulting, online boutique, selling digital products (colouring books, templates, guides, journals etc), beauty/lifestyle/wellness blog, creating online courses, etc. The list literally goes on and on, there’s so many options. Again you have to do your own research and really diversify yourself with all the different options, seeing what resonates with you. Hopefully some of my examples gave you some inspo. In terms of the second question, you’re asking the wrong girl lol, unfortunately idk about any of that. Google and youtube will be your best friend though; along with speaking to your health provider xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on December 3, 2024 6:38 am
    Hey sis, how can i become that Girl
    • SLC replied:
      on December 4, 2024 11:45 pm
      hey sis, firstly, you’re ALREADY ‘that girl’, don’t forget it. What your question should be is how can you keep elevating who you already are. you need to start off with an overall vision of who you want to be as ‘that girl’, Write out why you want to change (what is the reason why you want to ‘HER’? what things do you have to change? does this current you align with who you want to be? what are things you’ve done that you never want to do again?,are there things that your current self needs to forgive yourself for? etc.) and write out who you want to be (how you look, how you dress, how you act, hobbies, new values/standards you want to implement, the type of people you want to be around, things you want to learn, career goals etc). After you have a pretty good outline of this ‘new you’, work on now implementing the things that this new you would do. whether its going to the gym, cutting off certain people, buying new clothes etc; you have to slowly but surely step into this new you. As i always preach, ‘ACT LIKE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BECOME’. You need to be constantly mindful of how this new you operates and act accordingly. You also have to give yourself grace because it’s not going to be something overnight. There will be times where you’ll fall back into old habits or do certain things that don’t align with who you want to be. Thats normal and its okay. The best thing you can do in those moments is give yourself grace and try again. Discipline is the name of the game when it comes to rebranding into a better person. You have to make sure your discipline is bigger than your motivation because you may not always be motivated but thats where discipline comes in to save you. Overall its about having a clear vision (written down) and taking the proper steps to making those visions turn into a reality (taking action) while also being kind/patient with yourself in the process (giving yourself grace). some key categories are 1. prioritizing self-care – you gotta put you first! journaling, reading, proper skincare routine, mindfulness, etc. 2. growing confidence– as that girl you gotta have confidence, you can do so by practicing self love, embracing yourself (flaws and all) and taking risks (fake it till you make it boo) 3. Prioritizing your looks – when you look good, you feel good, start adapting a beauty routine, exercising, eating nourishing food, wearing clothes that make you feel your best etc. 4. Stay disciplined– you gotta work to be your dream self every single day, even if its the smallest task. do it for her, do it for you. develop positive habits and stick with them 5. Gratitude – be grateful for everything, a grateful girl is a blessed girl and that girl knows she is always blessed. 6. Be authentic – You have to embrace your own aura & uniqueness. This ties back into building more confidence. You are 1 of 1. You can’t be ‘you’ if you’re too busy being ‘them.’ Remember that being ‘that girl’ isn’t about living up to a certain image, its about embracing your best self and consistently levelling up💖
  • Someone asked:
    on November 30, 2024 12:21 am
    I came to the realization that people act sexual towards Me in particular or show me there are interested in ways i find strange. I remember when I was a Pharmacy cashier last year in 2023 a young But older White Girl had came to pick up a prescription with her 2 kids and the whole time she was looking Into my eyes and face like she’s into Me the whole time. I was looking down after because it was awkward. Then I saw her some Months after i moved into a new department (the electronic department ) and she came in with a female friend that day and she had said she liked my Hairstyle as I was looking for something for her at my job and I said thanks keeping our interactions brief, a girl who was pregnant with her 1st Child was braiding my hair last year and she ramdomly asked me if I was into boys and men only and I said Yea . I haven’t been with a lady or girl before. I swear it looked like she was leaning over to try to kiss me, I’ve had a bunch of men flirt with me too even male customers. One man mentioning my lips look juicy and plump to him, one man telling me he loves me and to stay beautiful, a group of boys recorded me once at work and was trying to be slick like they were taking a group Snapchat video. I ended up walking into the video since they needed me to open a case for them. A male teacher when I was in 10th grade told me I’m his favorite Student despite me being confused as to why ( i did well in His class but still ). He also told me in front of my classmates that I can call him by his 1st name “Glenn “. I was paranoid and overwhelmed. Recently Before I left my former job I had went outside to get my food from a Uber delivery guy and an older white man came to talk to me across the street from his house. He was talking to me about a book and then randomly showed me a picture of his wife asking me if I find his wife beautiful. The lady looked pretty and had a nice smile so I said yes. Then some minutes later he said ” aren’t you just cute as can be 😍? ” i had told my mom and found that strange as if the man wants us to have a threesome together 😂. I don’t know like stuff like that is kinds scary and makes me feel Uncomfortable 😅.
    • SLC replied:
      on December 3, 2024 1:01 am
      whew catcalling or people randomly flirting with you can definitely be uncomfortable, especially if its not wanted. As much as it can be seen as a confidence booster, just remember that you’re allowed to have boundaries and if you feel like someone is crossing them, speak up! you’re clearly a beautiful girl but that doesn’t give people the right to be all up on you if you don’t want that. So always remember your boundaries and follow your intuition. If you don’t like their advances, don’t entertain it. other than that i’d say thats just kinda how life is being an attractive woman lol, you just gotta take the compliments sometimes and keep it pushing.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 29, 2024 8:59 pm
    I just got out of a 8 month relationship with my ex. I was 16 when i got with him and i am currently 17. Before i met him i was in this toxic Relationship for 3 years. We did some stuff and the boy left and i jumped into a relationship with my ex. We were good for the first couple of months. One day i was taking a test and i had many come to me saying he was chasing after his ex while i was away. I was hurt because he told me so much that she did to him. He called me another ex name and at that point i done. He put his hands on me and no one knows. I had kept it a secret for so long. I cheated on him back cause i wanted him to hurt like he did me. We recently just ended and hes going around telling everyone the reason we have broken up was because i cheated. I cheated a month ago and he stayed with me just like i did him. His friends has attacked me and no seems to understand my side of the story. I Honestly dont wanna go back to school. I’m losing myself and i dont know what to do. I dont even know the first thing about healing. I just want to be happy within me. I wanna learn how to live life with wanting to feel loved. I cant eat and sleep. I just sleep all day which doesnt really help anything. I wanna be gentle. I want peace in my life. I want to learn how to be a God’s child. Im losing myself.
    • SLC replied:
      on December 3, 2024 12:53 am
      hi lovely, im sorry you’re going through a hard time right now, but as cliche as it sounds, it’ll get better. I’m happy that you ended things with him because this relationship sounds super toxic and you don’t deserve that. I know you want people to hear your side of the story, but you’ll waste your breath trying to get people on your side who have already made their opinions on you. Who cares what his friends think? they’re obviously going to side with him because that’s their friend. you don’t have to prove anything to anybody. None of these people are entitled to your energy. As long as you and those you care about are on your side… fuck everybody else, respectfully. This may seem like the worst thing ever to you right now but i promise you with time, you’ll get through it. you don’t know how strong you are. you don’t know how much power you hold. don’t let this boy take away all your power. You need to hold your head up and know that God’s got you and thats all that matters. As i always say, you’re allowed to hurt. Grieve the relationship, but then you gotta put your big girl panties on and do better for yourself. Stop putting your energy towards him and start putting it towards yourself. There’s so much power in letting go, thats the first step to healing. I recommend journaling, to help release all your emotions, praying, just know that God sees you & hears you, saying self-love affirmations daily ( i am loveable, i will get through this, i am deserving of love, i forgive and release the past, i fully love and accept myself, i trust my journey and where its leading me etc.), practicing self-care (dressing up, pampering yourself, exercising, reading, having you-days etc), and giving yourself grace, (not judging yourself for not being okay, giving yourself time to grow, reclaiming your independence slowly but surely, etc). With time you will heal and you’ll notice you’re healing because you’ll begin to reclaim a sense of independence, you’ll feel emotionally stable, you’ll start enjoying yourself more and thinking about the break up less & less. You’ll be good baby. You’re not losing yourself, if anything this is life giving you the perfect chance to relearn yourself.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 29, 2024 3:47 pm
    🩷 I was the girl a while back that told you about my health and that i got normal test results while i was sick. I forgot to mention I was at the upper line for TSH (thyroid hormone). I did the tests recently to compare after a while and it has gone down to average normal range. And my iron levels were below the normal range (9-34) and now it’s on 12 (which is kinda still low but my iron levels have been outside of the normal range for years). I do feel less tired a year ago i had trouble physically moving from tiredness even before i got sick. I had another health issue but its much better, its a symptom sometimes here and there but not like before. i still havent fully recovered from burnout but it’s better. I don’t think i believed myself that i was burned out and not only sick but yesterday it hit me a bit bcs i pushed myself too much physically and I didnt feel good afterwards. I got excited a few weeks ago and wanted to share about the test results, now its worn off but putting it here still 🪸
    • SLC replied:
      on December 3, 2024 12:31 am
      aww boo i’m so happy, thats honestly great news. Our health is our wealth so i’m glad you got better confirmation that you’re okay. Like i said last time, still give yourself that grace and rest. its not lazy or selfish, its a necessity. Don’t let yourself get to that point of feeling burnt out again, especially knowing theres other illnesses you may be dealing with too. The other advice i gave still stands, but if you take anything away from it, let it be rest. Resting is so important for our overall health. If you need a break, take one! I pray your health continuously improves for the better xoxo💞
  • Someone asked:
    on November 27, 2024 5:19 pm
    I had deleted the app WhatsApp where my biological Father’s family that stays in Jamaica live. I just got tired of the uncertainty and weird behavior. So I got into my 1st car accident some months ago this year and my mother had told my grandmother ( my biological father’s mom ) and she heard that I got into a car accident and told her side of the family but never reached out to me for months, only my aunt and one of my female cousins , Chloe asked if I’m okay. My grandma, my dad, etc did not ask if I’m okay. My mom wanted me to call her though to tell her that im okay 🤨. I didn’t do it. Then last month on my 22nd birthday I had asked my grandma 3 times ( on my birthday and a few days after that) if she will send my baby pictures of her and I together so i can create an album and it was false promises Over and over again. She never sent the pictures and I know she wasn’t forgetful either because she told me shes aware of things back in 2022 and works from home on her computer and can clock out anytime she wants. She kept saying she’ll do it later, so I stopped asking after my 3rd time. Then recently before I deleted WhatsApp I saw her change her profile picture to her son and my half blood little sister yesterday for her sons birthday, so I’m like seeing the indirect message. Even before I broke up with my former boyfriend he thought something was strange with my grandma and I relationship when I told him about it. He Told he’d stop contacting her. I dont know if shes mad that i cant send money down to Jamaica to help out when im not where i need to be in life. My former female boss told me that i don’t owe them anything since they ” helped me come to America ” even if my mom said they were trying to stop her from taking me on the plane to the USA. Then also a month or two ago I reconnected with one of my female cousins who met me once or twice for the 1st time In 2022 and we only talked about our relationship trauma issues with our ex-boyfriends a few months ago and then i had asked her how college is going and for months she ignored my message and posted on her status so I’m saying well if I didn’t know her 15+ years before it wouldn’t matter if I never talk to her and some relatives again. I dont know if its possible since i am living in america with better opportunities , etc and whatnot some of my female cousins can act jealous. Im really wondering if she is Jealous deep down like to See a beautiful foreign cousin that was born in Jamaica as well but left years ago come from America to meet her family and then your male friend likes her a lot. Im going to miss my aunt Janet but I don’t need her updating anyone ( i don’t know if she does that but I just don’t want to be contacted. That’s just how im feeling :/ )
    • SLC replied:
      on November 28, 2024 3:54 pm
      I’m sorry that you’re going through this with your family but honestly girl, i think you’re doing whats best for you by going no contact. people love to say blah blah family over everything blah blah but honestly in most circumstances its our family members that are the most toxic. i don’t care who it is, if you are not benefiting my life for the better, you don’t need to be in my life. You’ve clearly given multiple chances and there just still seems to be a disconnect between you and certain family members. Like your former boss said, you don’t owe them anything by being where you are now. I’m Caribbean myself so i know a lot of times family back home think that coming up means that you’re suddenly rich and can take care of them but thats never really the case. you’re a 22 year old girl figuring out your own life, you shouldn’t be responsible for any one but yourself. By setting these boundaries, you’re doing whats best for you. The only thing i will say though is that you should keep contact with your aunt janet if she is someone who you’re close to. She shouldn’t catch strays for what other people have done. Just let her know that you would appreciate her not telling everyone else your business or better yet, just don’t share too much with her that you wouldn’t want them knowing. Again, your feelings are valid and i hope these boundaries you’ve set in place give you more peace
  • Someone asked:
    on November 26, 2024 8:13 pm
    Hey , so i want to rebrand myself into Becoming the better me Mentally , Physical and Involve God more . I need to glow up
    • SLC replied:
      on November 28, 2024 3:12 pm
      we love a good rebrand. Glowing up starts from your mind. Once you’ve decided that you want to be this better version of you, you have to make a commitment to putting in the work needed to get you there. Glowing up is inner first and then outwardly shown. All the steps and actions you take to being this better version of you, starts with you. The first thing i always recommend is writing out who ‘you’ are/who you’re meant to be. Create that version of yourself from how she looks, to what she does on a day to day basis, to who she has surrounding her in her life, to the morals/values she holds. Get very specific about this ideal version of you. Once this personal vision statement is completed, it’s all about committing to becoming her. You have to wake up everyday committed to being your best self. There will be times where you fall short, but don’t give up. This process is a journey, its your journey. if you ever feel unmotivated, go back to that personal vision statement you made. Know that you deserve this version of you. I’m going to include a guide you can use to being your best self. Everything is easier when we break them up into smaller goals. hope this helps and good luck on your journey xoxo The glow up project : BODY – Find a skin care routine, invest in great skin care products – Workout 3x a week – Sleep for 8 hours minimum for 21 days MIND -Set boundaries with school or work, prioritise your mental health – Try journaling in the morning for a week (morning pages!) – Everyday for two weeks, write down 3 things you are grateful for – Avoid social media in the morning – Make a vision board -implement a prayer routine/bible study POSITIVITY – Try not to gossip for a whole week -Give a compliment to everybody you talk to today -Talk to yourself with kindness FOOD – Drink three bottles of water every day for 21 days – Find new recipes and cook more – No eating out week – Caffeine free week FINANCIAL – Make a budget – Learn to say no when it comes to spending money – Find cheap date ideas (picnic, baking, movie night, etc.) – Take some of your paychecks and invest or save it -Don’t buy things you don’t need INTELLECTUAL – Read one book this month (self-help books are the best) – Learn a new skill (piano, painting, makeup, sport, etc.) – Listen to a podcast while getting ready in the morning SOCIAL – Distance yourself from a toxic person for one month, set boundaries – Spend one hour with a friend everyday for one week – Call a friend instead of texting them STYLE – Change your hair – Make a clothing vision board – Find your signature scent SPACE – Organize your room – Get rid of the clothes/objects you don’t use – Organize your work station, make it a pretty, fun and productive environment – Make your bed every morning for 21 days – Keep your room clean for 21 days
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