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  • Someone asked:
    on November 29, 2024 3:47 pm
    🩷 I was the girl a while back that told you about my health and that i got normal test results while i was sick. I forgot to mention I was at the upper line for TSH (thyroid hormone). I did the tests recently to compare after a while and it has gone down to average normal range. And my iron levels were below the normal range (9-34) and now it’s on 12 (which is kinda still low but my iron levels have been outside of the normal range for years). I do feel less tired a year ago i had trouble physically moving from tiredness even before i got sick. I had another health issue but its much better, its a symptom sometimes here and there but not like before. i still havent fully recovered from burnout but it’s better. I don’t think i believed myself that i was burned out and not only sick but yesterday it hit me a bit bcs i pushed myself too much physically and I didnt feel good afterwards. I got excited a few weeks ago and wanted to share about the test results, now its worn off but putting it here still 🪸
    • SLC replied:
      on December 3, 2024 12:31 am
      aww boo i’m so happy, thats honestly great news. Our health is our wealth so i’m glad you got better confirmation that you’re okay. Like i said last time, still give yourself that grace and rest. its not lazy or selfish, its a necessity. Don’t let yourself get to that point of feeling burnt out again, especially knowing theres other illnesses you may be dealing with too. The other advice i gave still stands, but if you take anything away from it, let it be rest. Resting is so important for our overall health. If you need a break, take one! I pray your health continuously improves for the better xoxo💞
  • Someone asked:
    on November 27, 2024 5:19 pm
    I had deleted the app WhatsApp where my biological Father’s family that stays in Jamaica live. I just got tired of the uncertainty and weird behavior. So I got into my 1st car accident some months ago this year and my mother had told my grandmother ( my biological father’s mom ) and she heard that I got into a car accident and told her side of the family but never reached out to me for months, only my aunt and one of my female cousins , Chloe asked if I’m okay. My grandma, my dad, etc did not ask if I’m okay. My mom wanted me to call her though to tell her that im okay 🤨. I didn’t do it. Then last month on my 22nd birthday I had asked my grandma 3 times ( on my birthday and a few days after that) if she will send my baby pictures of her and I together so i can create an album and it was false promises Over and over again. She never sent the pictures and I know she wasn’t forgetful either because she told me shes aware of things back in 2022 and works from home on her computer and can clock out anytime she wants. She kept saying she’ll do it later, so I stopped asking after my 3rd time. Then recently before I deleted WhatsApp I saw her change her profile picture to her son and my half blood little sister yesterday for her sons birthday, so I’m like seeing the indirect message. Even before I broke up with my former boyfriend he thought something was strange with my grandma and I relationship when I told him about it. He Told he’d stop contacting her. I dont know if shes mad that i cant send money down to Jamaica to help out when im not where i need to be in life. My former female boss told me that i don’t owe them anything since they ” helped me come to America ” even if my mom said they were trying to stop her from taking me on the plane to the USA. Then also a month or two ago I reconnected with one of my female cousins who met me once or twice for the 1st time In 2022 and we only talked about our relationship trauma issues with our ex-boyfriends a few months ago and then i had asked her how college is going and for months she ignored my message and posted on her status so I’m saying well if I didn’t know her 15+ years before it wouldn’t matter if I never talk to her and some relatives again. I dont know if its possible since i am living in america with better opportunities , etc and whatnot some of my female cousins can act jealous. Im really wondering if she is Jealous deep down like to See a beautiful foreign cousin that was born in Jamaica as well but left years ago come from America to meet her family and then your male friend likes her a lot. Im going to miss my aunt Janet but I don’t need her updating anyone ( i don’t know if she does that but I just don’t want to be contacted. That’s just how im feeling :/ )
    • SLC replied:
      on November 28, 2024 3:54 pm
      I’m sorry that you’re going through this with your family but honestly girl, i think you’re doing whats best for you by going no contact. people love to say blah blah family over everything blah blah but honestly in most circumstances its our family members that are the most toxic. i don’t care who it is, if you are not benefiting my life for the better, you don’t need to be in my life. You’ve clearly given multiple chances and there just still seems to be a disconnect between you and certain family members. Like your former boss said, you don’t owe them anything by being where you are now. I’m Caribbean myself so i know a lot of times family back home think that coming up means that you’re suddenly rich and can take care of them but thats never really the case. you’re a 22 year old girl figuring out your own life, you shouldn’t be responsible for any one but yourself. By setting these boundaries, you’re doing whats best for you. The only thing i will say though is that you should keep contact with your aunt janet if she is someone who you’re close to. She shouldn’t catch strays for what other people have done. Just let her know that you would appreciate her not telling everyone else your business or better yet, just don’t share too much with her that you wouldn’t want them knowing. Again, your feelings are valid and i hope these boundaries you’ve set in place give you more peace
  • Someone asked:
    on November 26, 2024 8:13 pm
    Hey , so i want to rebrand myself into Becoming the better me Mentally , Physical and Involve God more . I need to glow up
    • SLC replied:
      on November 28, 2024 3:12 pm
      we love a good rebrand. Glowing up starts from your mind. Once you’ve decided that you want to be this better version of you, you have to make a commitment to putting in the work needed to get you there. Glowing up is inner first and then outwardly shown. All the steps and actions you take to being this better version of you, starts with you. The first thing i always recommend is writing out who ‘you’ are/who you’re meant to be. Create that version of yourself from how she looks, to what she does on a day to day basis, to who she has surrounding her in her life, to the morals/values she holds. Get very specific about this ideal version of you. Once this personal vision statement is completed, it’s all about committing to becoming her. You have to wake up everyday committed to being your best self. There will be times where you fall short, but don’t give up. This process is a journey, its your journey. if you ever feel unmotivated, go back to that personal vision statement you made. Know that you deserve this version of you. I’m going to include a guide you can use to being your best self. Everything is easier when we break them up into smaller goals. hope this helps and good luck on your journey xoxo The glow up project : BODY – Find a skin care routine, invest in great skin care products – Workout 3x a week – Sleep for 8 hours minimum for 21 days MIND -Set boundaries with school or work, prioritise your mental health – Try journaling in the morning for a week (morning pages!) – Everyday for two weeks, write down 3 things you are grateful for – Avoid social media in the morning – Make a vision board -implement a prayer routine/bible study POSITIVITY – Try not to gossip for a whole week -Give a compliment to everybody you talk to today -Talk to yourself with kindness FOOD – Drink three bottles of water every day for 21 days – Find new recipes and cook more – No eating out week – Caffeine free week FINANCIAL – Make a budget – Learn to say no when it comes to spending money – Find cheap date ideas (picnic, baking, movie night, etc.) – Take some of your paychecks and invest or save it -Don’t buy things you don’t need INTELLECTUAL – Read one book this month (self-help books are the best) – Learn a new skill (piano, painting, makeup, sport, etc.) – Listen to a podcast while getting ready in the morning SOCIAL – Distance yourself from a toxic person for one month, set boundaries – Spend one hour with a friend everyday for one week – Call a friend instead of texting them STYLE – Change your hair – Make a clothing vision board – Find your signature scent SPACE – Organize your room – Get rid of the clothes/objects you don’t use – Organize your work station, make it a pretty, fun and productive environment – Make your bed every morning for 21 days – Keep your room clean for 21 days
  • Someone asked:
    on November 26, 2024 12:18 am
    Hi sis! Just want your advice on how to manage anger? Im a little girly with such anger on me🤣 people really push some buttons on me
    • SLC replied:
      on November 28, 2024 3:34 pm
      – remember that you hold the power, the second you let someone get you out of character, you give your power to them. Are you in control of you or are they? – learn to choose your battles wisely, stop and ask yourself ‘is this really worth it? will i even care about this 5 months or even 5 days from now?’ if the answer is no, then let it go. learn to replace your angry thoughts with more rational ones. – start journalling, journalling allows you to get all your feelings from your head to the paper. whether your feeling sad or pissed off, journalling allows you to release those emotions – exercise, its said that physical movement is a great way to release built up anger -practice mindfulness. whenever you feel yourself getting worked up, start taking some deep breaths. meditation can also help with that too, take a moment, sit down and allow yourself to let your thoughts flow without feeling the need to react to them/control them – vent, sometimes we just want to be heard, venting to someone you trust (or even to your journal) can help release the emotions you feel bottled up inside
  • Someone asked:
    on November 25, 2024 2:46 pm
    Is bad that i begged for my ex to take me back? Looking back i feel embarrassed that i did such a thing 😭
    • SLC replied:
      on November 28, 2024 2:49 pm
      yes girl. never ever beg for someone to be in your life. if your ex wanted to be with you, they would. grovelling lowers your self worth and takes you away from being the prize. and in case you didn’t know, YOU ARE THE PRIZE. Now i don’t know the backstory of how the relationship ended but regardless of how it did, its done and the best thing you can do for yourself is move forward. If someone doesn’t want you in their life, you gotta charge it to the game and keep it pushing. Never forget that you set the standards for yourself. Never lower your worth by letting people treat you like an option. its never worth it in the long run. Now, you already did the begging, so there’s no point in beating yourself up about it. Just take this as a lesson and never do it again. The second you feel yourself begging anyone for anything, stop yourself and remember that you are the prize.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 25, 2024 8:00 am
    hi sis! can i ask if you have business? if yes then can you please give some advice on how to start a business? how to know the right business to start and your most important lesson learned from having a business?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 28, 2024 2:34 pm
      hi boo, in terms of the questions specifically about me, i want you to ask me this question exactly one month from now and i promise i’ll answer it the best i can 😉 what i can say now though is that the right business for you will align with you and your purpose. if you have no interest in what you’re selling, your customers will feel that. make sure that you are passionate about what you’re doing because your ‘why’ will always keep you motivated, even when things aren’t where you want them to be. Bring something into the world that YOU believe in. Thats the first step and the most important one. All the researching x learning x implementing comes secondary to that.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 24, 2024 5:56 pm
    My recent breakup with my boyfriend has taken an emotional and mental toll on me. I lack the motivation to attend my classes, even though I’m pursuing a Master’s degree, which I know I need to take more seriously. I’ve been eating nothing but junk food, and when I’m not eating that, I don’t eat at all. I’ve been feeling very discouraged because I keep getting rejected from jobs, and I urgently need a part-time job to support myself while I’m studying. Overall, I just feel completely overwhelmed with life right now.
    • SLC replied:
      on November 28, 2024 2:26 pm
      aw my love, im so sorry you’re going through all this. heartbreak is a tough thing to deal with. Just know that the way you’re feeling is valid. However, you cannot lose yourself because of it. As i always say, its okay to grieve the relationship. Take the time you need to mourn . its okay to cry, it’s okay to be sad or depressed, its okay to miss your ex, but you can’t let it get to the point where it’s taking over your life. You need to begin healing. You were someone before the relationship and you’ll be someone after the relationship as well. Know that this is just a small chapter of your life and you wont be going through this forever. Time + distance + prioritizing yourself= how you move on. Use this time to start rebuilding your self-esteem and confidence. Thats how you begin to heal. Focus on being the best you. Prove to yourself that you’re more than just your relationship. Be the woman you know you’re meant to be. Do things that not only will make you feel better but will also prompt you into bettering your future. Start going to your classes even if you have to drag yourself out of bed, start eating better (you are what you eat, constantly eating junk food will make you feel like junk), start applying for jobs, fake it till you make it if you have to. As time goes on, you’ll begin to feel better. Be patient with yourself and trust that you won’t feel this way forever. There is always better to come. Think of this chapter that you’re in right now as one that is teaching you how to love yourself more, be stronger, and as the stepping stone to being a better you💖
  • Someone asked:
    on November 23, 2024 11:35 pm
    How do you feel about the belief that ” You are everyone and everyone is you” ? I think it’s kinda crazy and I came to the realization that there are people in this world that sound strange but its their belief. This boy had told me he is me… but then at first he told me he was god 1st then an angel some days ago. I even told him well with that logic you can say your also a rapist, then he asked why I said that and I said well you just said everyone is you. I told him I disagree that everyone is connected im some way but we are different individuals sharing life and our experiences. When someone dies you aren’t going with them nor do you guys have the same soul and mindset so how are they “You” ? I really disagree and it doesn’t make sense to me. I also told him that I agree that people can have different versions of Themselves Positive and negative versions of Themselves and everyone has to deal with their negative Problems with life on their own as well. Some shared experiences doesn’t mean you and everyone are each other. Hes one of those “Spiritual ” boys. I had told him that I’m currently Unemployed , lost my 1st car completely in an accident some months ago this year, lost a job that I really liked because my former boyfriend kicked me out him and his parents house so I had to move back in with my parents and now currently unemployed. The guy had told me it’s good that I’m unemployed when I told him I wish I was working because I have and had motion and ambition. He said jobs are bad for the planet and in a sense I agree that people shouldn’t be working so much but I told him everyone has to work to survive unless your going to live off grid or on some piece of land being self sufficient. He had asked me for 20 dollars if I can help pay his phone bill and I told him im unemployed. I don’t know how to feel about the guy…
    • SLC replied:
      on November 26, 2024 1:24 am
      Tbh i don’t agree with that saying at all. I can agree that yes we all are connected just by being human, but to say we are all the same is a stretch. If you wanna get scientific with it, the DNA each of us individually have, shows that we are not all the same. Like you said, you’re not the same as a rapist or murderer and vice versa. God gave us all free will and what we choose to do with that free will is based on our own individuality. I’m so sorry to say it, but a lot of these ‘spiritual’ people don’t know what they’re talking about. But again thats what all makes us different. We’re allowed to have different opinions. The same way i may view his view of thinking weird, he may think mine is🤷🏾‍♀️ I’m also sorry that you’re currently going through all that, but his outlook on it just doesn’t make sense. Yes, i agree working to live shouldn’t be the main goal in life but we can’t be unrealistic. He’s definitely a strange guy but like you said it’s his own beliefs and he’s entitled to it. Just don’t take what he says too seriously before you end up living like you’re Tarzan lol.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 23, 2024 4:39 am
    hi sis! I just want to share with you that i Don’t find joy in posting on my ig account, even though i have 1k plus followers. like numbers of likes, followers comments and views Don’t excite me anymore I’m 21 years old but i know sooner or later I’m gonna quit scrolling or even posting on my ig account hahaha like is this adulting? i want to focus more on my offline life more than online. i want to make my offline life more beautiful more than what i am posting..
    • SLC replied:
      on November 26, 2024 1:10 am
      I think that’s such a good thing sis! I feel the exact same way, if it wasn’t for my business page(s), i would barely ever be on instagram. I don’t even think i interact on my personal pages anymore 😂 i guess that is adulting. At the end of the day when you log off all these apps, real life is there and real life is more beautiful than any curated insta feed you could make. One of my fave quotes is ‘I don’t wanna be instagram picture goals. I wanna be my real life goals.’ All this social media stuff doesn’t matter if your real life is dreadful. You can’t fake real life. So I’m very happy for you and i hope that this creates an even more healthy relationship you have with social media/yourself.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 23, 2024 4:35 am
    do you already Figure it out what’s your purpose in life? and if yes how? <33
    • SLC replied:
      on November 26, 2024 1:00 am
      Honestly i don’t know. I think we can have multiple purposes in life. I think my main purpose in life will always be to help people in some way or another. I’ve always been in love with the thought of self-development and as i got older I knew i felt a connection with making people feel good. I guess i just put the two together lol. I do think though that how i achieve that purpose can change or elevate as a learn myself more/come into different opportunities. Don’t ever feel behind if you don’t know your purpose yet. Most of us don’t know wtf we’re doing and those of us who do just go day by day. We’re allowed to be multifaceted. We’re allowed to have multiple interests which means we’re allowed to have multiple purposes. Embrace them all.💕
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