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  • Someone asked:
    on October 18, 2024 4:05 pm
    Hi 💚 I’ve been taking a social media etc pause and want to take a pause from my phone too, it makes me focus more on me and is better for my mental (& Physical) health. Trying to be positive about myself 💆🏻‍♀️ 🫧 How do you reset?
    • SLC replied:
      on October 22, 2024 11:27 am
      Ouu girl we are on the same boat. Over the summer I spent way too much time on social media (given that its kinda a big part of my life now but still) and literally had to set some new ground rules for myself with these last 3 remaining months. I now only go on my personal socials on the weekend and throughout the week, I’m only on instagram specifically for @dash.slc and that’s it. I think social media breaks are so important. You don’t realize how much time you’re wasting looking at what other people are doing. I didn’t even realize how bad my attention span was until I started this social media break. It’s funny though because on the weekends when I am allowed to use my personal socials accounts, I barely even care to do it. So I hope that this break benefits you in so many ways, allows you to focus on yourself and your growth. At the end of the day our main focus needs to be us, and we gotta do whatever we can to better ourselves.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 18, 2024 11:49 am
    how do i discipline myself to do things i dont want to do
    • SLC replied:
      on October 22, 2024 11:21 am
      I think the driving factor in staying more disciplined is knowing your ‘why’. You have to know why you’re doing the hard things that you need discipline for. It all comes down to how much you want to change and what you’re working for. Knowing those things will keep you disciplined because it gives you a reason to continue to do the work. So every time you’re procrastinating on doing something, ask yourself ‘why’ do I need to do this thing, what consequences come when I don’t, and how will my future self look like if I stay consistent and do what I need to do for myself now.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 18, 2024 2:08 am
    Aww! Im the one who asked about your own story of becoming “that girl” !! Im 21 right now and I already passed that cannon event of my life omygosh thank God! Its really take a one cannon event in our lives noh? To decide that “i deserve better, I will be better” because just like u im not consistent on watching the motivational videos mentors like thewizard liz. I watch her when i was 19 but i really didnt put it in a action then I experienced my first ever break up when I was 20 last year then boom at 21 I decided that I will become better and I will do better. Im just so tired of being stuck on my past and being the same girl everyone hurt. Thank you for sharing your own story sister! Wishing you a good and peaceful life! 💗 cheers to 2025!!! 💋💋
    • SLC replied:
      on October 22, 2024 11:17 am
      Girl trust me lol it sucks while you’re going through it but once you overcome it, it’s crazy how you can look back and be like wow I actually needed that. You’re very welcome though love, thanks for even asking me about it lol I don’t think I’ve actually put into words my own reflection/growth so it was a nice thing to do. Rooting for you, you deserve the best of the best. No more living in the past, we got too much life ahead of us xoxo💕
  • Someone asked:
    on October 18, 2024 12:53 am
    Hi! Do you mind sharing your own story about how did u decide that you will be “that girl”?💗💗
    • SLC replied:
      on October 18, 2024 1:22 am
      hi boo, aw y’all actually care about little ol me🥺💅🏾 lol im playing but honestly it started from young. im talking like elementary school young. ever since i was little i’ve always been into self development/self growth. Tbh it stems from me not having the best self confidence. i remember plenty of times where i would be googling ‘how to be confident’,’how do i become a new person’ ,’how to be pretty’ etc. so yeah that kinda followed me into adulthood where now its like okay.. i’m 19, way cuter now lol but i still have times where i feel like that insecure lil girl. so thats how i got into self help books/guides/videos and positivity and self care and all that stuff lol. The problem with me though is that i never stayed consistent. i was learning things but i wasn’t fully committed to changing myself. i also did therapy around that age too because i really felt like my social anxiety was debilitating me. The funny thing about that though is that no one around me would have guessed that, everyone always thought that i was this confident, go-getting person, so it always baffled me that i couldn’t see that in myself. Anyways, fast forward to maybe to like 21-22 where i was like okay girl it is really time to stop playing, you know the woman you are and you know the woman you have within you that you want to be… its time. Something pivotal had happened at 22 also, where i had just decided ‘you now know what rock bottom is, it’s time to heal and grow from it.’ In a way i kinda thank what happened to me because it gave me the strength that i never knew i had and the confidence to finally be like, ‘yup i’m going to get the life i deserve now.’ So, i just really starting doubling down on my growth and thats also around the time where i started @dash.slc. So not only was the content i was putting out motivating me, but also all the similar content i was seeing really started to stick with me too. it was like 24/7 posts, stories, reels, highlights etc, that i was relating to and also learning from. Honestly i’m still learning from it to this day lol, whenever i post for you guys i also post for me, because it’s content that that little insecure girl in me needs. its always gonna be a journey and i know im always going to keep evolving. tbh i think i was always “that girl”, but i just needed to really step into her.So yeah long story short thats where i’m at now, just constantly striving to be the best me and motivating other woman to be their best self as well. Someone who i know my younger self would be so proud of.💖
  • Someone asked:
    on October 17, 2024 5:45 am
    Do you think i should give my boyfriend the silent treatment? I feel like im constantly repeating myself to him and im just done talking now. maybe he’ll hear me more when im no longer speaking
    • SLC replied:
      on October 17, 2024 11:01 pm
      listen i use to be miss petty betty myself lol i loved me the silent treatment, but i’ve learned that its just not the best way to resolve stuff. the silent treatment is only a temporary solution. you’re not really solving the problem because how can a problem be solved if there’s literally 0 communication happening? All you’re doing is showing him how its like when he doesn’t have your attention anymore and although some guys need that little pettiness to show them like “yeah this is what you’re bout to lose”, i don’t think its something that actually resolves the issue, it just prolongs it. From the sound of it, it doesn’t seem like he’s not hearing you, because i’m assuming he’s an able-hearing person with common sense, it looks more like he’s not valuing what you’re saying. Thats really the issue. One of the most important things in a relationship is communication but not even just with speaking, but with comprehending and understanding. Your boyfriend doesn’t seem like he actually cares to understand why you’re saying the things you’re saying. It really comes down to his respect (or lack of) for you at that point. My honest advice is that you need to tell him that that is an issue for you and that if it doesn’t change, then more serious conversations will have to happen. if you wanna do the lil silent treatment and see if that gets him to finally hear you out then cool, but the conversation of the communication issues you two have, needs to be had. You deserve to be heard in the relationship just as much as he does. communication is key and with out that.. y’all cant unlock anything.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 15, 2024 6:47 pm
    Hi! Can you please give some ultimate advices and tips on how to rebrand ourselves as a woman?💖💖
    • SLC replied:
      on October 17, 2024 12:39 am
      ouu we love a good rebrand sis💖 1. I always say this whether it comes to rebranding or creating new goals from the jump, is to know your why, what are you doing? who are you doing it for? why are you doing it? that will always come back to be your motivating factor in keeping up with the habits it will take to be this ‘new’ or ‘improved you. 2. write out/create who your future self is, from her career/looks to how she likes her coffee lol be very specific. have fun with it too, this is your dream self, all limitations off, what does she do? how does she dress? how do people perceive her? how does she perceive herself? where does she live? What does she do on a day-to-day basis? This will help you envision ‘her’ and in turn guide you into stepping into being like this version of you daily. 3. Write out your goals. Whether its 1 year goals to goals you want to accomplish within a week, get clear on them. Make sure they are specific and attainable, the smaller you break them into, the more achievable they become on a daily basis. 4. Take action, duh!! you have to be disciplined enough to stick to these goals and form beneficial habits. It doesn’t have to be drastic right at day 1, baby steps are still steps. the most important thing is that you’re consistent with it. If you ever feel lazy go back to your ‘why’ and go back to your dream self envision, would she be the type of person that gives up so easily?? these should re-motivate you. 5. be patient & believe in yourself. at the end of the day, this rebrand is a journey, you’re not gonna be this new and improved person within a day. always give yourself grace through your best days and your worst. Keep your faith strong sis. As long as you believe in yourself, you have the power to change your life. trust yourself, be confident in yourself and have unwaivering faith that you will become the version of you that you wish to be. I hope this helps, enjoy your rebrand szn boo
  • Someone asked:
    on October 12, 2024 10:31 pm
    I have a small yet growing crush on my male Instructor who’s a very young but older white guy in his 27+ who’s helping train me in Digital Marketing ( Hes a young business guy who had made his way to the top teaching a company marketing and wants to help people who are into marketing save money from college tuition. Hes been to college himself before and graudated.) . I just turned 22 this October. The man doesn’t know I like him at all and i dont plan on telling him until im done with his career training program. before I payed to be apart of his program, he knows I’m a black girl from jamaica and was sharing how he got his scuba Diving Certificate in Jamaica etc. He emails me back with any questions i have, even the ones with my practice assignments. I’m sure he has an idea of what I look despite us not video calling yet for the real work training because I’m just currently doing practice assignments for Social Media Marketing and finishing up his video training lectures first where I also take small quizzes. Sometimes i wonder if the man likes me back because he’s been sweet towards me. On October 1st I had told him that my birthday was literally the next day and he has said ” Happy Early Birthday !!!!!! ( 5 Exclamation points ). I hope you’re doing something fun and I’m glad your enjoying my program 🙂 ” then I told him something tragic that happened to me recently and 2 years ago and he said ” he’s really really sorry whats been going on in my life right now and everything else “. I told him when I land a entry level Digital Marketing job I’d like to promote his company sometimes on my tiktok and he had emailed me back saying.. ” This is such an incredibly sweet email Leeanna. Thank you for spending the time out of your day to write this as this really means a lot. We put a ridiculous amount of time into making our program what it is and messages like this really do mean the world to us so thank you. To answer your question, we mostly do all of our advertising online. Yes, we would love if you did something like that for us once you’re ready as that would really mean a lot to us since you now see how much we put into our course in comparison to others such as Course Careers. This was a really really kind message so thank you for sending this. ” I’m also wondering is it worth it to tell the man i like him after I’m out his program.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 15, 2024 1:33 am
      now, i don’t want bust your bubble girl, but from what you’ve said his replies were, i think he’s just being nice and professional. I personally wouldn’t take it any other way than it being a platonic teacher/student relationship. it’s obviously okay to have a crush but i don’t want you to get your hopes up expecting anything to happen from it. One, for all we know he could have a whole girlfriend lmao. 2, he doesn’t necessarily know what you look like so theres no physical attraction for him to go off of and three, i’m assuming y’all aren’t in the same country so that alone is another obstacle. idk girl me personally, i would just keep my lil white man crush to myself and keep it pushing after the course is done😂 but i also always tell y’all to go for what you want and shoot your shot, so if you really do feel like its worth telling him then do it. but definitely do it AFTER the program is done. If it don’t work out then oh well, it is what it is. At least you got the knowledge from his program because at the end of the day, thats the thing that matters the most.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 12, 2024 7:22 pm
    A man I’m trying not to have contact with keeps disrespecting my privacy and is following what I do online and maybe even some things offline and I’ve told him my boundaries and how I felt about it, that I feel heavily stressed physically I can’t relax and it makes me feel bad but he’s not listening and he just doesn’t care as long as it doesn’t affect him
    • SLC replied:
      on October 15, 2024 1:21 am
      atp if its to the point where he’s making you feel uncomfortable and you’ve already spoken to him about it, then you have to tell him that you’ll report him. point, blank, period. i’ve had to do this before and fortunately the guy got the hint and left me alone. Block him on everything too if you have to, it should be to the point where he shouldn’t even be able to search you up. if you don’t want to tell him yourself then if you know anyone you both mutually know, let them refer the message to him. knowing that other people know about his behaviour may just get him to feel embarrassed enough to stop. either way whatever you do, just make sure there is no further contact with him. you can no longer be nice when it gets to this point. it is literally harassment and thats not okay.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 11, 2024 8:41 pm
    Hey girlie❤️ i really love your page. Right Now i Feel Uninterested in a lot of things i used to like. I am always indoors and even afraid and shy to hang out with my friends and meet new people as i used to. I am not in a relationship and i want one. I feel sad and lonely. I Don’t even text or pick calls anymore just always to myself. I’m becoming worried because im just 22 years i dont know what is happening to me . My life is falling apart. I Don’t know what to do to bounce back to my old self.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 15, 2024 1:13 am
      thanks my love💖 firstly i just want you to know that you’re still young, you’re literally only 22, you have so much life to live, i promise you your life isn’t falling apart. You just have to make some changes that can start benefitting you. I know right now you feel uninteresting in everything, but think about what things do interest you? think about what hobbies you actually wouldn’t mind getting into. And don’t sit here and say nothing because i know for a fact that there is something out there that can spark you interest. once you find what that thing or things are, indulge yourself in it. Start putting it into your daily routine. Give yourself something to look forward to! In terms of your relationships with other people, i’ve gave advice on this before and so ill say it again, no one is gonna come to you, you have to put yourself out there first. I know it might feel cringe or awkward but start hitting people back. start checking up on old friends. start making new ones. We are on a earth with 8 billion people surrounding us, you can meet people anywhere. examples i gave in some older similar posts were getting to know your coworkers better (some of my bestest friends are from past jobs i’ve worked at), if you’re in school, strike up conversations with a classmate, that hobby we just talked about that you started getting into? maybe there’s a club for it that you can join, if you have mutuals on social, shoot your friendship shot and dm them. girl i’d even say download a dating/friend app if you’re really to shy. the point is, that there’s plenty of opportunities out there for us to be social. you’re feeling lonely because you’re willingly isolating yourself. Put yourself back out there sis, 22 is way too young of an age to just be to yourself. Enjoy your youth. enjoy your life!
  • Someone asked:
    on October 8, 2024 7:38 am
    i dont know if Im tying my worth to my bodycount (or having sex outside of a relationship) or if that is my real preference? I want sex to be special with someone I love but how special will it be if that guy already has had sex or has sex outside of a relationship? It would just hurt then and it will feel like its conditional love like im less than because he as a man can but i cant. At the same time id like a man to know how to please me but i dont want him to have been with anyone else if i havent been too? But if i enjoy sex and find men that im attracted to or want to have sex with, which i also feel like it doesnt come as easy as it does for some other women or for men even though i am horny, im worried that ill feel used and people will talk. Its not that i worry about what people will say but ill get angry and i will feel bad because somebody used me and i cant do anything about it, and how enjoyable is it to have sex and have fun with someone that probably will feel like hes using me and like he just got another girl to fuck and move on, even if its Mutual short term? I dont know maybe its misogony i havent healed from fully or fear of something but at the same time even if i change the world is still the same and it might affect me badly. I havent had sex yet so thats even harder because i wanted at the very least my first time to be special but I feel like that ship has sailed, and im probably not going for a relationship right now Im trying to Focus on Myself and i feel like im emotionally empty and dont want to give after my last situationship. Maybe some experience is good just to have fun and be free and see. Your thoughts/Experience on This? i feel like i need another girls view of this
    • SLC replied:
      on October 9, 2024 5:12 pm
      Hmm see this is a tricky one sis. I feel like you’re fighting two different parts of yourself. One is the part that wants to follow what ‘society’ says is right about women/sex and the other is the part of you that wants to be/feel sexually liberated. I think it’s even trickier because you are a virgin so you really haven’t experienced sex in order to see how you want to go about it. First thing ima say is this though, it’s okay if you don’t end up with the person you lost your virginity to. I can confidently say that the majority of women are not with the same man the first had sex with. So don’t let that ‘want’ stop you from exploring your desires. Am I saying go out and have sex with the next guy you see? Of course not lmao we will always move with grace here, but I’m saying just don’t tie so much of your worth into that. The guy I lost my virginity to is not someone I’m currently with, but he was someone that made me feel comfortable and fully ready, so for that I don’t regret ‘losing’ it to him. I give that example because I want you to know that even though we aren’t together anymore or even though I wasn’t his ‘first’, it’s still something that I wouldn’t change. If you feel fully ready and you like the person you’re with, then don’t shame yourself out of that experience. Losing your virginity isn’t the end of the world. The term ‘losing’ your virginity itself is so outdated anyways, nothing is lost. If anything you gain more. You’re allowed to feel pleasure, you’re allowed to feel horny and you’re allowed to feel sexually liberated. It’s literally human nature. So don’t stunt that part of yourself because of what society thinks. (Again move with grace ofc). At the end of the day its you’re body and you’re in control of it. So what ima leave you with is this, stop tying your worth to your body count. Whoever your sleeping with doesn’t have any say in your worth, you do. As long as you’re doing it on your terms then that’s all that matters. I promise you girl lol once you’re not a virgin anymore you’ll see how much you overthought the whole situation. Your body= Your rules. Your worth= How YOU see yourself, no one else.
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