Is Your Boyfriend Not Listening To You When You Vent?

Are Your Girls Tired Of Giving You Advice About The Same Guy Every Other Week? 

Do You Need Advice On Things That You Just Don’t Want To Share With Your Family & Friends?

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Answers So Far..

  • Someone asked:
    on October 19, 2024 10:00 pm
    Hi! Just want to let you know that I love sending questions here because it feels like i have a sister that have the same mindset and values like me. I always wanted to be surrounder with women with the same mindset🥺
    • SLC replied:
      on October 22, 2024 11:15 pm
      awww ilysm💖 thats exactly what im here for, too many times women are put up against each other and its like … for what? at the end of the say we’re all sisters and i’m here for each and every single one of you
  • Someone asked:
    on October 19, 2024 10:38 am
    Hi 🦋 Any advice on how to Release Negative emotions? I’ve been thinking of hitting a punching bag but I don’t know if that would help. I used to run before but i’m not in the shape for it now. How do you do? Also does it ever get to you when people vent here?
    • SLC replied:
      on October 22, 2024 10:22 pm
      hi angel🧚🏾‍♀️ i think theres many ways for you to release negative emotions. i feel like being active and physical is a great way to release them. whether it be through body workouts, running, swimming, dancing, walking or even hitting a punching back like you said. All that energy is build up inside your body and through being active it, it not only lets you release it but also can give you some clarity/ a peace of mind afterwards. Ik you said you’re not in the best shape now but i think allowing yourself to start back running or being active in general will help a lot. Another way you can release them is through talking about it through journalling, praying, or venting to someone you care about. Journalling will always be my number one because its like i can actually feel the weight lifting off my shoulders as i write everything out. I’d even recommend writing everything out thats been bothering you and then ripping up or burning(dont start a fire now) the note. It’s such a symbolic way to release all that bad energy. Next thing is through praying, i don’t know your beliefs ofc but i find praying is another way that helps me release all my bottled up feelings/emotions. After talking to God, i always feel more light and somehow my prayers always go from me venting to me ending it being grateful and more optimistic. Lastly i would say just venting it out to someone who you know will hear you is another way to release negative emotions. sometimes all we need to do is let it out through talking about it and getting another perspective. thats really the main reason why i have this advice page because i know that most of the time once you actually put your issues out into words and have someone validate those feelings, it can be such a game changer. In terms of your question of whether or not it gets to me when people vent here, i’d say a little, only because i’m such an empath so i really do feel other peoples pain. Thats why i do have boundaries set on not answering questions 24/7 so that i can also have a peace of mind myself. Regardless of that though, i’m always honoured to be that person that you all can come to. People just need someone to listen and unfortunately a lot of us don’t have that. I’m here to change that even if its just for a handful of people.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 19, 2024 9:52 am
    I gave somebody my love freely and i thought he didn’t mean the things he did because he was going through a difficult time but now i realize i was wrong. He Used To Mean A Lot To Me
    • SLC replied:
      on October 22, 2024 10:45 pm
      unfortunately things like that happen. when people show you who they really are the first time, you have to accept it for what it is. a lot of us ignore the red flags in the people we love because all we see is the person we want them to be, rather than who they actually are showing us that they are. i know it hurts now knowing that you gave your love to someone who doesn’t deserve it, but i hope you see it as a lesson learned. never overextend yourself for someone who wouldnt do the same for you.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 18, 2024 9:32 pm
    How not to not give a fck to everything? Specially to not sense things and people
    • SLC replied:
      on October 22, 2024 12:14 pm
      Listen, these people aren’t paying your bills, their opinions do not matter. You have to create a strong sense of self. Your opinions, your wants, your needs > Everyone else’s. Like I’ve said before, you cannot let what other people think/do hold weight over you. Whenever you feel yourself succumbing to other people’s opinions, ask yourself if they really matter. The more you trust in your own self, the less you care about what other people think of you. This is your life, live it as you please.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 18, 2024 8:39 pm
    What’s your thoughts on “outgrowing a friendship” ? The connection is not there anymore, our values dont align anymore. Were just hurting each other. She’s my bestfriend. My sister.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 22, 2024 11:55 am
      Honestly, some people are only in our life for certain seasons. I know it’s hard to feel like you no longer connect with someone who’s been a big part of your life, but sometimes that’s just how life is. While we’re evolving ourselves, everything changes, even the people meant to be in our lives. We’re meant to outgrow people. Not everyone is meant to level up with us and be a part of our new journey. No matter how long you’ve known someone, loved someone, had the best memories with them etc, no oneis worth hurting yourself over. It’s just not worth it. I think now all you have to do is fully come to terms with it. I hope you two can have a conversation about it if needed. In the long run, there will always be love and respect there, but that doesn’t mean that you two need to be in one another’s lives.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 18, 2024 7:26 pm
    Is it normal For a man to be shouting and swearing At you? especially when you dont have that response with him.. but then he claims that i am belittling him and i have made him shout and swear and he called me a c*nT
    • SLC replied:
      on October 22, 2024 11:41 am
      In the most respectful way possible FUCK NO. There’s no reason for a man to be getting out of character like that especially when you’re not. There’s no reason for a man to be calling you out of your name. There’s no reason for this man to be in your life period. Get him outta here. I’m not even playing because it can start off like this and get way worse down the line once he sees that you’re accepting that type of behaviour. You deserve someone who reciprocates your energy and respects you. This is not respect and you’re constantly lowering your worth by putting up with it. No more, don’t let that man disrespect you again.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 18, 2024 7:24 pm
    So I have been datong this guy for over a year, i found out he haa Been Entertaining other girls By saying stuff like i want to spend the night with you and putting fire emoji on girls pictures, i confronted him about it and he only just apologised now but he is still saying im overreacting and all men do this and i should forgive him and take him back as i am being too strict with my boundaries and i am acting like i walked in on him having sex. Am i wrong to end things despite everything we have been through? He still is trying to get back with me and i am not making it easy to get ahold of me but i feel very disrespected and that he cannot be trusted but i still love him.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 22, 2024 11:36 am
      End it. He clearly doesn’t respect you. the fact that he’s gaslighting you with the ‘all men do this’ bullshit and ‘you’re overreacting’, just goes to show you that he’s not apologetic for it and will do it again. You don’t have time to waste on someone that doesn’t value you. Never lower your boundaries for anyone because the second you do, you start to accept low frequency shit and in return lower your worth. I know you love him, but you need to give yourself permission to walk away from anyone who half loves you.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 18, 2024 4:05 pm
    Hi 💚 I’ve been taking a social media etc pause and want to take a pause from my phone too, it makes me focus more on me and is better for my mental (& Physical) health. Trying to be positive about myself 💆🏻‍♀️ 🫧 How do you reset?
    • SLC replied:
      on October 22, 2024 11:27 am
      Ouu girl we are on the same boat. Over the summer I spent way too much time on social media (given that its kinda a big part of my life now but still) and literally had to set some new ground rules for myself with these last 3 remaining months. I now only go on my personal socials on the weekend and throughout the week, I’m only on instagram specifically for @dash.slc and that’s it. I think social media breaks are so important. You don’t realize how much time you’re wasting looking at what other people are doing. I didn’t even realize how bad my attention span was until I started this social media break. It’s funny though because on the weekends when I am allowed to use my personal socials accounts, I barely even care to do it. So I hope that this break benefits you in so many ways, allows you to focus on yourself and your growth. At the end of the day our main focus needs to be us, and we gotta do whatever we can to better ourselves.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 18, 2024 11:49 am
    how do i discipline myself to do things i dont want to do
    • SLC replied:
      on October 22, 2024 11:21 am
      I think the driving factor in staying more disciplined is knowing your ‘why’. You have to know why you’re doing the hard things that you need discipline for. It all comes down to how much you want to change and what you’re working for. Knowing those things will keep you disciplined because it gives you a reason to continue to do the work. So every time you’re procrastinating on doing something, ask yourself ‘why’ do I need to do this thing, what consequences come when I don’t, and how will my future self look like if I stay consistent and do what I need to do for myself now.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 18, 2024 2:08 am
    Aww! Im the one who asked about your own story of becoming “that girl” !! Im 21 right now and I already passed that cannon event of my life omygosh thank God! Its really take a one cannon event in our lives noh? To decide that “i deserve better, I will be better” because just like u im not consistent on watching the motivational videos mentors like thewizard liz. I watch her when i was 19 but i really didnt put it in a action then I experienced my first ever break up when I was 20 last year then boom at 21 I decided that I will become better and I will do better. Im just so tired of being stuck on my past and being the same girl everyone hurt. Thank you for sharing your own story sister! Wishing you a good and peaceful life! 💗 cheers to 2025!!! 💋💋
    • SLC replied:
      on October 22, 2024 11:17 am
      Girl trust me lol it sucks while you’re going through it but once you overcome it, it’s crazy how you can look back and be like wow I actually needed that. You’re very welcome though love, thanks for even asking me about it lol I don’t think I’ve actually put into words my own reflection/growth so it was a nice thing to do. Rooting for you, you deserve the best of the best. No more living in the past, we got too much life ahead of us xoxo💕
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