Is Your Boyfriend Not Listening To You When You Vent?

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  • Someone asked:
    on October 8, 2024 7:05 am
    How to be open to abundance and receiving? Genuinely feel worthy and open for it and not like i have to give or give back or like I owe someone something or Im using or Im chasing etc
    • SLC replied:
      on October 9, 2024 4:52 pm
      I think the best way to be open to abundance is to practice gratitude and have a higher self image. With gratitude, the more you’re grateful for the little things around you, the more abundance flows. “ When we consciously acknowledge the blessings in our lives, we align ourselves with the abundant energy of the universe, inviting more abundance and positivity into our reality.” So basically, the more grateful we are, the more easier it is to realize that we have the power to cultivate even more blessings aka abundance in our lives. The second way to being more open to abundance/receiving is having a better self image. If you don’t think you’re worthy of anything, then your reality will show that. You are a gift from God and are so much more powerful than you know. Why shouldn’t good things happen to you? Why shouldn’t you receive all the blessings the universe has to give you? You need to start telling yourself that you are worthy of good things. Simple because you’re you. The job you want? You’re worthy of it. The crib you want? You’re worthy of it. The lifestyle you want? You’re worthy of it. Once your brain does that mindset shift, you’ll see how many things you’ll attract. This universe is big asf, i promise you anything you receive from it, it does not need back. It’s for you simply because you attracted it. No strings attached. One thing i want you to start doing is saying this mantra (i use to say it allll the time when i found it in a Ted talk), start saying “i am enough because i said so and it is not up for discussion.” Because it isn’t up for discussion, and if no ones told you this, then i will, you’re already enough and you’re already worthy. Point, blank, period.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 8, 2024 7:00 am
    What would you say to a man that has never done anything for you and done you dirty every chance he got but doesnt leave you alone wants your energy, time and love and wants to give you the bare minimum -back-? Hes probably following your page to see if i wrote something
    • SLC replied:
      on October 9, 2024 4:35 pm
      I wouldn’t say anything to that man because that man wouldn’t even be able to contact me at that point. What we’re not gonna do is sit here and accept the bare minimum. There’s no way in hell you’re gonna give a man the world and he can’t even give you the basics. Like fully, lock off communication with him because the more you entertain what’s not for you, the less you get what is. You deserve someone who is on your level of reciprocation. You deserve someone who will go out their way for you. It’s the season of reciprocation, you can no longer give what you’re not getting back. STOP entertaining him. Don’t fall for the ‘I’ll be better’ or ‘I’m going through things rn’ or ‘ you’re not my girl yet I can’t do the most’ blah blah blah. Let that man stay where he’s at and you continue to grow. Keep upping your self worth, because with higher self worth, is higher standards. You’ll never let someone’s son play with you again. Period. And you know what, i hope he is following my page, because it’ll teach him a thing or two on how to VALUE women. So if he’s reading this, hi pookie, do better.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 7, 2024 1:21 am
    How to not take everything personal? Like how to manage our emotions well as a woman?
    • SLC replied:
      on October 7, 2024 9:47 pm
      If this is in relation to dealing with other people then honestly you gotta start having a ‘I don’t care attitude’. You simply cannot let what other people think/do hold weight over you. You have to stop letting everything work you up and start realizing what’s worth your energy. As long as what you’re doing is what you want to, as long as your thoughts are the ones that matter the most to you and as long as as what you feel is how you wanna feel, then who cares about what other people may say or do in reaction to that. Be less reactive. You can manage your emotions through journaling, mindfulness and self talk. Journaling allows you to put your emotions somewhere other than jumbled in your head. Write out your feelings. Mindfulness lets you see the thought for what it is and not define yourself with it. The more you’re able to sit with your thoughts/feelings, the more you’re able to control them. In terms of self talk, whenever a situation arises pause and ask yourself, ‘is this really worth my energy? Am i really gonna care about this a year from now?. Remember that life is for enjoyment, don’t take things so seriously.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 7, 2024 12:40 am
    Hi! Can i ask some advice on how to really let go of my memories of my ex? I keep remembering him even though I already moved on. It’s been a year.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 7, 2024 9:57 pm
      Honestly the best advice i can give you is accept it and create new memories. Grieving a relationship isn’t something that ends just like that for some people and that’s okay. You don’t have to make yourself feel bad for it. The more you fight it, the more you attract it. It’s okay to just let them come through and pass. It all comes down to how much attention you give those memories. If you’re out making new memories and having new experiences, then with time, that’s what your mind will start to focus on. ‘Don’t focus on fighting the old, focus on building the new’. You’ll be good.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 6, 2024 2:10 pm
    How can you confidently believe that you have all the luxury in this world even when your business isn’t yielding much profits, your parents don’t give you money anymore, you need a provider and lover as a man but don’t have one and you keep breaking and breaking everytime because your constantly in lack even when you don’t want to. How can you really activate that divine feminine energy so you won’t have to beg for anything whether money, love, attention or anything at all.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 7, 2024 9:35 pm
      All you have to do to believe you deserve all the luxury in this world is to literally BELIEVE it. It’s one thing to say it and another thing to believe it. I truly believe that i was not put on this earth to suffer, i truly believe that i will be successful and i truly believe that everything is working in my favour. You have to believe you were meant for more. Have audacity. With that belief mindset, that i how i attract more to me, always. You have to have more faith in the positive outcome than you do in the negative. Shit will never work out exactly how we want it but that’s life. One thing i do know though is that every challenge given to me is a lesson i need in order to be ‘future me’. If you think you’re stuck, you’ll stay stuck, if you think you’re constantly lacking in things, lack is what you will get, if you think your business is isn’t doin good, it will stay like that. It’s all a mindset shift. Stop constantly thinking of all the bad when there’s so much good waiting for you. You gotta believe you’re worthy of the good. Watch how fast it comes to you after that.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 6, 2024 2:09 pm
    Hi Darling. I’ve been struggling with my confi and feminity. Ive been cheated on by my ex boyfriend Which threw me in a bad rabbit hole. I haven’t been feeling myself ever since. I think I’m numb to my emotions and i tend to overthink a lot. Secondly, my femininity, I have noticed that i get defensive quickly and i tend to be in my masculine energy. Any tips would help. Thank you in advance💕💕
    • SLC replied:
      on October 7, 2024 9:24 pm
      Hey love, im so sorry you ex stepped out in your relationship. Cheating is honestly one of the worst things and I hate how society makes it into a joke. I think the first thing that’s really holding you back is that you haven’t gone through the full healing process of the breakup. You need to be able to let all those options out and accept them in order to get over them. I would highly recommend journaling to get some of those feelings out. Literally just you, your pen, paper and your thoughts. You have to heal that broken part of you in order to gain back that confidence you lost. What your ex decided to do has nothing to do with you. You are worthy of the best kinds of love and you’re worthy of feeling beautiful/confident. In terms of stepping more into your femininity, There’s a bunch of ways to do that. First things first you gotta practice self-care/self love. Pampering yourself, implementing better routines, keeping up with your beauty etc, are all ways your outer you will feel more feminine. You don’t have to dress up in bows and frilly dresses. As long as your up-keeping your beauty routine and allowing yourself to be pampered, you’ll naturally exude feminine energy In terms of the inner you, when you’re moving in masculine energy it means that you’re not trusting your inner softness. You’re not allowing yourself to be in tune with your emotions as us women should be. You need to heal your wounded feminine energy. You have to let go of that constant need of control. Allow yourself to be led, allow yourself to receive, allow yourself to enjoy all of life’s gifts, allow yourself rest/embody peace, allow yourself self to FEEL. Feminine softness is power, ‘softness opens doors that force cannot move’. I’d recommend watching some feminine YouTube videos to help you tap into that energy more. Just don’t fall for the ones that are all about finding a husband and looking ‘modest’, that’s not what femininity is about. I’ll also leave you with some femininity affirmations you can repeat on the daily to further your femininity journey. 1. ‘ i am divine’ 2. I’m so lucky, i always get what i want’ 3. ‘I am connected to the divine feminine energy within me 4. ‘I exude beauty and grace’ 5. My softness is my strength 6. I am a divine woman 7. I am constantly growing into the best version of me. 8. I am a source of love, light and healing for myself and others. 9. I am aware of my worth and my power. 10. I am magnetic and always get what I desire.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 5, 2024 12:53 am
    Hi gurlyyyyy! Can i ask how to not be insecure or envy to other woman? I just want to give this very nice not insecure typa energy
    • SLC replied:
      on October 5, 2024 1:48 am
      i read somewhere that said ‘the good news is that feeling jealous of someone else isnt all bad, because in most cases it’s holding up a mirror to what you want more of for yourself in your own life. it means you want to level up.’ You can either see it in two ways, 1. this girl is better than me and i hate her for that or 2. this girl inspire me and i know that if she can do it/have it, then i can do it too. You gotta remind yourself that you are one of one. the original. no one is you, no one has your spark, your gifts, your talents etc. Like they say, the grass is green where you water it, so water YOU. focus on what you’re doing, scrolling on an ig baddies page is not gonna do nothing for you if you’re not gonna be inspired and go do something with that inspiration. level up! she did it so you can too. Theres soo many resources on how to level up, feel more confident in your self etc, so start looking into them (shit my page is one of them💅🏾). You have to learn to love you enough that the jealousy starts turning into rooting for others instead because you know that you’re good and content with where you’re at and who you are
  • Someone asked:
    on October 4, 2024 9:43 am
    Am i the problem? I feel like i attract the same type of men. Only lust filled men the ones that never want to get to know me or stick around. I’ve been dating this summer and every guy has had the same energy. I want the romance and the actual Experience of dating but at this point i feel like im better off just being alone
    • SLC replied:
      on October 5, 2024 1:35 am
      you need to start vetting these guys better girl. not everyone deserves your date, not everyone deserves your texts back and not everyone deserves your time. i know it can be hard to know their intentions right from the jump but trust me those red signs are there. the reason you’re attracting those type of men is because thats the time of men you’re giving your attention to. It’s not hard to see how these men really are if you’re being intentional. I always knew which dm’s to reply to and which dm’s not to because you kinda get a feel on how someone is off first impressions. You gotta start asking more questions and seeing where their heads are at from jump, that way you’re not wasting a whole summer on bums. Girl all i need is one phone call to know if ima continue talking to someone. Don’t let them sweet talk you with the what if’s, action and energy is everything. And if they’re coming with sexual talks right from the beginning? BLOCKED! You deserve the romance, and you’re gonna find it, but you have to set a standard for yourself first.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 3, 2024 8:04 pm
    Hi sissy! Thank you for always answering our questions. You’re like a sister to us 🥺💗 can i ask what should i do with this. Because I recently just broke up with my first bf which is my BESTFRIEND’s friend also. But when me and her friend broke up she remains neutral about the situation. And the break up ended in bad term. I just feel so betrayed that people and my ex bf expects her to be mad because my ex bf hurt me so much emotionally but my bestfriend just remained so neutral. I just cant forgive her :(( she’s my main bestfriend. Like in sister level.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 4, 2024 9:26 am
      hi sister, ofc thats what im here for💖 See this is a tricky one because without more context it’s hard for me to say who’s in the wrong here. Now if you introduced her to your boyfriend or ex boyfriend i should say and they became friends through you, I would definitely say it’s weird that she’s still cool with him because at the end of the day her loyalty should be with you. However now girl, if they was friends prior to you two being together, then I don’t think it’s fair for you to want her to end that friendship with him. The relationship was between you and your ex, not her so it’s wrong for you to want her to pick a side when it doesn’t involve her. And I get where it’s like well if you’re my bestie, my beef is your beef, but in this case, i think her being neutral is the only thing she can really do if she has loyalty to you both. i would recommend talking to her about how you feel because you don’t want that negative energy building up, but in this case you really have two options, let it go and continue having your best friend or you gotta distance yourself from her if it truly doesn’t sit right with you. I’m not saying it has to be distance forever, but maybe just for the time being while you fully heal from the breakup.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 3, 2024 4:11 pm
    Hey i don’t understand why a lot of girls and women act weird towards me and some dislike me. So I’m a loner and I have my reasons as to why I like to stay to myself but in my experience a lot of boys flirt with me constantly as i mind my business . At my previous warehouse job last year there was 6-8 girls who had a problem with me and I never held a convo with them and nor did I know them. I had a cute and unique African hairstyle called Koroba and surprisingly people did love it . One girl was bothered she did things to get a reaction out of me like look at me angrily all in my space like she want to say something or do something as I ignored her dropping my yellow tote off. She was talking to this guy as I was in an aisle working and she had popped her Gum loud as she turned her head to look at me before she disappeared and the boy she was talking to Stared at me too before he disappeared with her ( idk if she was telling him about me ) and this Asian girl I was walking to drop my yellow tote with Customers items off on the conveyor belt and she rolled her eyes at me and I made a face too at her and then I moved on. So during lunch and days after that she kept breaking her neck to find me in the aisles and just stared for 5 seconds everytime. I have a bunch of boys ask me if I could be there girlfriend at the time when I had my own boyfriend there too. I’ve also had boys one day at work pretend they weren’t recording me before when I use to work at Walmart in the electronic Section . I Believe when my boyfriend 1st introduced me to his older female cousin and i waved and said hello the girl looked bothered, giving me an unpleasant look and acted like she didnt want to say hello. She knew me since last year and wasnt that friendly towards me but she referred me to the job she been working at and she was going to get more money and thats when she opened up . My boss who was an older lady always told me she thought i was so pretty and made it known ” hey Pretty Pretty ” even another female coworker Thought i was very pretty and really cute and they both knew me in a shorter amount of time than my boyfriend female cousin. ( his parents have told me they thoight i was a very beautiful girl as well sometimes randomly ). My friend he thiught the female cousin she never liked me from the start since last year when i was introduced to her. I say this to say that even when I try to be kind to some girls in real life and online I feel like I can’t trust them and they act competitive ,weird, acting so as a loner I just move on.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 4, 2024 11:14 am
      girl they all just sound like lame haters. if you’re not doing nothing to none of them and your presence bothers them so much, they’re just insecure. i wish all of us were girls girls, but unfortunately thats just not the case. some people are just bitter and mad. you gotta pay no mind to people like that. Your aura intimidates them and makes them feel insecure, so in order for them to feel better they try to make you feel insecure by shunning you. In most cases, these are the same people that would lowkey wanna be your friend or be just like you. They’re undercover fans lol. Don’t let that energy get to you. At the end of the day, if you’re a beautiful girl, you’re a beautiful girl and they’re just gonna have to deal with that🤷🏾‍♀️ As long as on your part you’re being a good person, then there’s nothing more you can do. Like you said, you just gotta move on. Not everyones gonna like you and thats okay, you’re not for everyone.
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