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  • Someone asked:
    on October 3, 2024 2:03 pm
    So its a long a story. To try and summarize i met this guy off of tinder about a year ago. Since then weve been insperiable, literally through good and bad. I found a few days after he Officially asked me to be his girlfriend that he had been messing/being intimate with someone on the side. Told him it was because she told me but i actually used my Intuition and she told him when i tried to follow her so used my context clues. When confronted about it he got defensive (as always) and said that he only went to her in the times we argued and on bad terms and that it didnt matter because i wasnt his girlfriend at the time, but we were still very much involved. Anyway so fast forward that hurt me but since it was before we dated i tried to let it go. After that, he called me bitch for the first time ( which i have called him as well but not until after he did), and just other “minor” things. I pulled back because of it and told him i just wanted more that he wasnt Giving. One of those things being respect and wanting to be asked out in person, because the first time he asked on the phone. He started to match those boundaries and standards so i gave it another shot. By then though as a couple i couldnt trust him and question his character often. I felt a little insecure and it would show when i accused him of looking at other women or cheating over any tiny inconvienece. One night i said i was done with him we get together a few days later and i find screenshots of booty pictures on his phone. He said it was only because i broke up with him and he was hurt. So eventually i looked past it again. I loved him and wanted to be with him but it was like my mind could not forget what happened so we’d argue often. And he never understood that concept and always said i brought up things to argue all the time. Well fast forward to the end of last week he saw i liked on post of a male artist i follow and said he had a issue with it since i brought up him liking flashy pics of girls on ig. I didnt think this was fair because of how diffrent the pics were, but i still acknowledged his feelings and said i meant nun by it. He sent me a screen recording, which showed his search history on insta and i saw it was a fan page of and only fans model. I got mad broke up with him Immediately. He said a private acct dm’d him and so he looked up the name and saw that. Of course i thought he was lying. He had also sent a screenshot of a girl he knew and she was asking if he had a gf. It appeared as if he didnt answer back so i was cool abt it, however i realized he was very adamant on cropping the name out. So i addressed it and each time he tried to flip it back on me saying im the cheater for liking pictures after i told him not to. Even after constantly saying i didnt want the guy he was talking about and even said to dm and ask him. But he didnt want to show me this girls username claiming it was because he didnt want me texting her. So my question was why? I thought it was fishy and that it was because she’d tell me something he left out. So i tell him today dont talk to me if he cant be fully honest. He calls and starts telling me more about her and that they met and lowkey talked before me (which i didnt know) but he blocked her after finding out she was into someone else. Also that he didnt want me texting her starting “drama” because shes is some kin to a boss at where he works. Also that he hasnt spoke to her since last year due to her telling his boss something (not even sure what was told he didnt tell me) happened between them that he says didnt happen. So i asked if thats the case, why didnt he want to show me her username in the screenshot and still following her if she falsely accused him. And why is she messaging on Instagram randomly a year later. It didnt sit right with me and it all felt like lies. I left him and repeatedly said why. He got upset at me Not believing him and claiming he never touched the girl. He said im wrong for doing something i told him not to do (liking posts even tho they werent innapropiate) and that it made me a liar and i made things up to end the relationship. I’m so sorry that this is alot. I’ve never just came out and told someone everything with me and him and this isnt really half. But i feel like im not wrong for feeling how i feel and i definitely have not been perfect in the relationship but it was mostly due to my lack in trust. But isnt it weird that he didnt want me to dm someone who likes him while i was hus girlfriend? With all the things ive said does he sound like a bad guy? I often wonder if i really am the bad person or not backing down on my trust issues. I wanted to be with him but i dont want to get played. So now we are broken up. Thanks for reading if you did! I know its alot.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 4, 2024 10:00 am
      i tell all my girls trust.your.intution. you didn’t have those feelings for no reason boo. Honestly this relationship was doomed from the start because it started built on trust issues. idc if you weren’t his ‘official’ girlfriend at the time, if he was intimate with someone else while you two were heavily involved and working on being official… issa no. There was bound to be no trust in the relationship after that, especially if it was something you never fully forgave him for or somehting y’all swept under the rug. I won’t lie, he sounds like a big big gaslighter, from trying to flip a innocent like on ig, to him needing other girls attention because yall are ‘on bad terms’, to him not telling you about this girl fr because she knows his ‘boss’… it’s all gaslighting. i know relationships are work, but they should not be this hard. ever. why would you wanna be with someone who doesn’t give you peace? who you don’t trust, who disrespects you? you’re so much better off without him. I pray you stand on this break up and don’t let him back in. you deserved better from the beginning, you deserved better during the relationship and you deserve better now that its done. period.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 2, 2024 3:14 pm
    I was wondering if you had any tips in terms of dealing with guys and not getting played, im such a lovergirl and i feel like it makes put up with stupid stuff
    • SLC replied:
      on October 3, 2024 2:22 am
      these are some tips i live by to make sure no ones son can ever play me for a fool, 1. A man will always take you to his level. Either its up or down… so choose wisely. 2. don’t ever let a man tell you he doesn’t want you more than once.. exit stage left immediately (this doesn’t just mean verbally either, they will show you through their actions towards you. 3. if they did it once, they’ll do it again. don’t tolerate the disrespect, LEAVE. 4. Let them show you that they are worthy of your love.remember that you are the prize so act accordingly. 5.There are men out there that WILL, the end.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 1, 2024 8:55 pm
    Tommorow is my birthday October 2nd, I’ll he turning 22. I would Love to start traveling for my next birthdays outside the USA. Do you have aby tricks and tips on how to spend less booking trips and finding activities in a country? Do you recommend i get a travel agent?
    • SLC replied:
      on October 1, 2024 10:21 pm
      ahhh happy early birthday boo, i hope this year of 22 is nothing but blessings & growth for you💖🎈. Now girl i won’t lie to you, i love me a birthday trip and so sometimes i’ll say f the price im going regardless but there are some ways to enjoy a birthday vacay for less. Definitely do your research. For every trip i’ve been on, ive made sure to do my research on the country, the excursions, the hotel/airbnbs etc through youtube, reddit, tik tok/instagram. Whether its watching different vlogs and finding a bunch of activities to do, googling different flight options, price comparing different hotels/airbnbs, and just straight up googling cheaper alternatives to where i’m going, these all have helped me with every birthday trip i’ve done. As long as you know where you’re going, theres a bunch of resources out there to help you out. I highly doubt you need a travel agent. Let AI and google be your travel agent lol. I wish i could give you more specific places to look into but again all tips/tricks i learn are based on where im specifically going. Just know that social media is your friend and you can find soo many resources! Hope you enjoy your birthday xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on October 1, 2024 6:13 pm
    Btw i love your page! And i love your content! Please dont ever stop posting!!! I am a College student and i am the youngest of four siblings. My parents are no longer here in this world and i do have support and amaizng friends to help support me but i need advice on ways to sell, or to do something i enjoy to make money. I love fashion, music, and styling. But i am great at customer service as well any tips or advice on how to make money?
    • SLC replied:
      on October 1, 2024 10:32 pm
      as long as y’all are here im never gonna stop🥰 (i might take a few breaks though lmao😅). My condolences for your parents and im so happy you still have a good support system! Honestly you sound multitalented so you just have to sit down one day, research ways you can make money from doing any of these things you enjoy. If social media has taught me anything, it’s that there is a market for EVERYTHING. You gotta pick what really interests/inspires you and go from there. researching will help you so much in discovering different possible passions and job opportunities. Once you’ve done all that its time to take your research into action and get the ball rolling. The journey might not be as quick as you want it ofc, but as long as you’re passionate and consistent, you’ll honestly get to where you need to be. disclaimer though – don’t fall for any of those get rich quick schemes or paying for $1000 courses that you can learn from youtube or free educational options. Be patient, be disciplined and be proactive.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 1, 2024 12:55 pm
    Hi girly! I have a dating problem. The guys I don’t want, want me and guys I want, don’t want me. The problem is the guys I don’t find physically attractive are really good to me but I can’t get over the physical attraction lacking. But I feel that every guy I liked watched me but never approached me. I know my looks aren’t the problem but is it maybe my attitude? I know what I want, and what i bring to the table so I am not easily impressed. I just don’t know what to do anymore. Am I the problem?
    • SLC replied:
      on October 1, 2024 10:12 pm
      baby you are not the problem. theres nothing wrong with having higher standards. the only way i would argue with that is if you weren’t living up to the standards you’re looking for as well. You said you know what you bring to the table so i trust you’re living up to expectations you would want in a partner too. tbh i use to have a dating problem too, i gave people chances who never even deserved it because ‘oh he’s nice a nice guy maybe i’ll grow to like him’…… WRONG. lol you know from the jump what you’re looking for so stop entertaining what isn’t it and you’ll save yourself a whole lot of time. Yes sometimes people don’t end up with who they thought their ‘type’ was but if you wholeheartedly know you’re not attracted to someone, do you both a favor and let it be. I’m a firm believer in the universe giving us what we want when we open ourselves to it. so with that being said, instead of blocking your blessings by distracting yourself with guys you don’t really care for, focus on you and continuously upgrading yourself so that the right man can swoop in (its usually when you least expect it too). Also i’m not the type of girl to shoot my shot (you gotta approach me first so sorry), but i am the type to drop little hints. So if there is someone you’re attracted to, maybe drop a lil hint that you’re feeling him and hopefully he’s smart enough to do the rest. If you are that girl to make the first move and you’re tired of waiting,(closed mouths don’t get fed) then make your move too, just as long as you stay the prize.
  • Someone asked:
    on September 22, 2024 6:24 am
    Do you find this scary? I was initially open to friendship with a pretty 26+ year-old woman who contacted me in 11th grade. We had an on-and-off connection, with both of us texting occasionally. I even audio-called her once, and we talked for 2+ hours on the phone. I’d also seen glimpses of her life through her social media stories, featuring her female friends and son. However, I grew uneasy as she persistently sought to meet in Jamaica, saying she’d been waiting for me and urging me to “hurry up and come back.” Her eagerness, combined with avoiding video calls and constant excuses, raised concerns. Friends and family who knew me in real life warned me about potential danger, finding her behavior strange. I took a step back, feeling concerned and afraid. Recognizing red flags—age disparity, pressure tactics, and lack of transparency—I prioritized my safety and blocked her, protecting myself from potential harm. Till this day I don’t know her ulterior motives and why avoided VC me 🫤. It’s a real lady because after I had blocked her , I saw her female friends reply to her new Instagram picture saying she finally posted herself again and her replying to their comments so I really believe it was a real lady not a man.
    • SLC replied:
      on September 30, 2024 1:29 am
      hi boo, firstly, sorry for the late response but when i’m not feeling my best i don’t want to give out advice because its me operating on a lower level mentally, y’all deserve the best of me and thats what i want to give out! now onto this… sis i think you did the best thing by blocking her. I’m so sorry, as much as i wanna see the good in people, you just never know their ulterior motives. i’m 26 right now and theres NOTHING that me and a 11th grade girl would have in common for me to seek friendship from her. It all sounds real sketch and i’m happy you took a step back, you don’t know what you could’ve saved yourself from. Unfortunately this world is full of weirdos and we gotta be weary of them, especially in this age of social media. Continue being socially aware and protective of yourself sis, it’ll save you in the long run
  • Someone asked:
    on September 14, 2024 8:17 am
    I have a man in my life, he loves me so much and he takes care of me like no other. I love him too and yes we have our differences but it is always workable. This man makes me feel like i have found my person. He is everything beautiful. But he has to travel overseas for his masters and i am so worried about our future, i try to end things to protect myself from hurting so much when he leaves but i cant because he is not toxic to me. I have told him about my fears. He says not to think on it right now but to enjoy and focus on us now and what we have. I am trying but the more i spend time with him the more i go crazy with my thoughts. How can i stop thinking about the negative and just enjoy our relationship. So my anxiety won’t Ruin a good thing for me. We really care about each other and we have been apart before but he never stopped loving me through the distance, why do i feel so indifferent now. Help me SLC’
    • SLC replied:
      on October 1, 2024 11:15 am
      hi boo, firstly, sorry for the late response but when i’m not feeling my best i don’t want to give out advice because its me operating on a lower level mentally, y’all deserve the best of me and thats what i want to give out! Now listen, if thats your man and you love him and he loves you, you can’t let this current trial in your lives jeopardize the relationship. There are so many successful couples that are long distance and make it work. You just gotta think of this time as a test to prove how much you two really want this to work. Trust me, it won’t be easy i know but if the love is there, you guys can get through it. At the end of the day, you don’t know whats going to happen. So why sit here worrying yourself about the negatives that ‘could’ happen? Instead of thinking about the bad things that could happen, focus on the good. Think about him graduating with his masters and coming back home to you. Think about the future you two can have with all the new opportunities he now has with this higher education. Think of you two being together and looking back on this time and laughing at how serious you took it and how you two got through it. Love is one of the strongest feelings there is, so if theres a will, theres a way. Rooting for you both xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on August 31, 2024 10:31 am
    Girl im tired of being broke and attracting broke your post have been so affirming and i just not sure how to fine tune or attract more abundance into my life.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 1, 2024 6:06 am
      hi boo, firstly, sorry for the late response but when i’m not feeling my best i don’t want to give out advice because its me operating on a lower level mentally, y’all deserve the best of me and thats what i want to give out! Now in terms of being tired of being broke, you gotta let go of that scarcity mindset. Refrain yourself from calling yourself broke, you are not broke. Broke is a mindset and the more you keep calling yourself it, the longer you stay in it. When we speak on abundance, you have to really really believe you have it, in order for it to work in your life. The second your mind goes from a scarcity mindset to a abundant mindset, you’ll see how fast opportunities/good things come to you. You need to fix your relationship with how you view money and how you view it in regards to your life. You can be rich, shit you already are rich, but you have to tap into that energy. I want you to do start affirming your wealth, everyday if you have to, it could really be as simple as saying ‘money loves me and i love it back’. The more you affirm, the more your mind will start believing/attracting it. Next start visualizing as well, see yourself in your dream house, see yourself in your dream job, know that it is possible for you because your dreams can be your reality. Also practice gratitude, i know you’re not where you want to be financially but i promise you theres someone out there that would die to have what you have. There’s always something to be grateful for and once we register that, positivity/happiness gravitates towards us. Gratitude is the gateway to abundance. Lastly, id say all while doing this, make sure you’re putting in the work, embody who you want to be and take action. remember, you’re ALREADY rich, you just have to tap into it.
  • Someone asked:
    on August 29, 2024 9:19 pm
    hey girly, im a 21 year old girl and ive been Sheltered my whole life by my parents, I live at home with my mother and step father while in college but its so toxic living with my parents I’m constantly in mental health battles and fight or flight mode. I dont want to live on campus but I do want to live on my own but i feel trapped/Hindered/Manipulated/guilt tripped by my parents everytime I want to leave I dont have a car or any trusted friends that are near by. I hope this isnt so depressing i just need advice please
    • SLC replied:
      on October 1, 2024 6:39 am
      hi boo, firstly, sorry for the late response but when i’m not feeling my best i don’t want to give out advice because its me operating on a lower level mentally, y’all deserve the best of me and thats what i want to give out! Back to your dilemma, honestly you just have to decide whats more important to you, your mental health or your parents approval. As much as our parents want to keep us safe, they can’t protect us from everything. You are a 21 year old woman and should be allowed to experience the world without feeling guilty. I obviously don’t know your parents and i’m sure they mean well, but the more they keep you sheltered like this, the more resentment you’ll grow and thats not good for any of y’all. I’d say try to speak to them, let them know you’re a young adult now and want some more space, let them know how you feel being sheltered like this and set some boundaries with them. If that doesn’t work then you have to really consider moving out. Create a plan and move forward with it. At the end of the day, this is your life. The shackles they have on you isn’t fair and won’t help you in the long run. You have to put you first.
  • Someone asked:
    on August 26, 2024 5:12 am
    Hiii, i hope you are doing well! I dont really Know where to Start with this one. But i have a sister who is in a abusive toxic Relationship And now im starting to get worried that this isnt going to end well. I have begged her Multiple times but she thinks hes The only one who cares for her. He has isolated her to the point she has no friends and no job. When they have big fights she will say shes leaving him but then he will beg for her back, i dont know why she doesnt keep her promise to leave him after she comes to the realisation that hes bad. His own mum was abused by his dad so i guess thats Where he has learnt it from. His own MUM is getting a restraing order againt him… My mum has to ask her to move out as he was always causing arguments in the house and my mum found him strangling her(she has asked her to keep him away (which she didnt do)before she asked her to leave). She choose to be with him instead of staying at home. They have been on and off since teens and now she is turning 24 in a couple of weeks. I think she has just wasted her life with him, as he is just striping her identiy away. I guess they are trauma bonded but this is just getting bad now. She blames me that i didnt look out for her when we were younger, as she got her self into some situations that has bad consequences. I have appoligies to her and have tried to be here for her now, as she is very vulnerable. He uses her past against her all the time and has done crazy things that you would think is from a movie. She doesnt seem to understand that in life we make mistakes but we have to live and learn from them as you can only change the future. I am honestly scared for her but i dont know what to do anymore as i am my own person with w job and my own life to live…
    • SLC replied:
      on October 1, 2024 6:54 am
      hi boo, firstly, sorry for the late response but when i’m not feeling my best i don’t want to give out advice because its me operating on a lower level mentally, y’all deserve the best of me and thats what i want to give out! Now onto this, whew this is a lot. I just wanna say firstly that you are not to blame, don’t put that burden on you. At the end of the day she’s a grown woman and she’s made her own decisions. again, YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME. Abusive relationships are such a hard thing to deal with because from the outside looking in we just wanna be like girl leave!! but we don’t know what it feels like to be in their shoes. The most important thing you can do is let her know that you’re there for her. Let her know that she’s not alone and that if she ever needs a safe space or person, you’re that for her. You have to be patient and understanding. Let her confide in you without bashing her and suggest different ways that she can get help (ie, getting a therapist, creating a safety plan). Like i said, she’s and adult and she’s gonna be the one who decides when she wants to leave, none of you can do it for her, the best thing you all can do is let her know she’s loved and that she deserves better.She’s the one that has to see it for herself and i hope one day she does
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