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  • Someone asked:
    on October 7, 2024 12:40 am
    Hi! Can i ask some advice on how to really let go of my memories of my ex? I keep remembering him even though I already moved on. It’s been a year.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 7, 2024 9:57 pm
      Honestly the best advice i can give you is accept it and create new memories. Grieving a relationship isn’t something that ends just like that for some people and that’s okay. You don’t have to make yourself feel bad for it. The more you fight it, the more you attract it. It’s okay to just let them come through and pass. It all comes down to how much attention you give those memories. If you’re out making new memories and having new experiences, then with time, that’s what your mind will start to focus on. ‘Don’t focus on fighting the old, focus on building the new’. You’ll be good.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 6, 2024 2:10 pm
    How can you confidently believe that you have all the luxury in this world even when your business isn’t yielding much profits, your parents don’t give you money anymore, you need a provider and lover as a man but don’t have one and you keep breaking and breaking everytime because your constantly in lack even when you don’t want to. How can you really activate that divine feminine energy so you won’t have to beg for anything whether money, love, attention or anything at all.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 7, 2024 9:35 pm
      All you have to do to believe you deserve all the luxury in this world is to literally BELIEVE it. It’s one thing to say it and another thing to believe it. I truly believe that i was not put on this earth to suffer, i truly believe that i will be successful and i truly believe that everything is working in my favour. You have to believe you were meant for more. Have audacity. With that belief mindset, that i how i attract more to me, always. You have to have more faith in the positive outcome than you do in the negative. Shit will never work out exactly how we want it but that’s life. One thing i do know though is that every challenge given to me is a lesson i need in order to be ‘future me’. If you think you’re stuck, you’ll stay stuck, if you think you’re constantly lacking in things, lack is what you will get, if you think your business is isn’t doin good, it will stay like that. It’s all a mindset shift. Stop constantly thinking of all the bad when there’s so much good waiting for you. You gotta believe you’re worthy of the good. Watch how fast it comes to you after that.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 6, 2024 2:09 pm
    Hi Darling. I’ve been struggling with my confi and feminity. Ive been cheated on by my ex boyfriend Which threw me in a bad rabbit hole. I haven’t been feeling myself ever since. I think I’m numb to my emotions and i tend to overthink a lot. Secondly, my femininity, I have noticed that i get defensive quickly and i tend to be in my masculine energy. Any tips would help. Thank you in advance💕💕
    • SLC replied:
      on October 7, 2024 9:24 pm
      Hey love, im so sorry you ex stepped out in your relationship. Cheating is honestly one of the worst things and I hate how society makes it into a joke. I think the first thing that’s really holding you back is that you haven’t gone through the full healing process of the breakup. You need to be able to let all those options out and accept them in order to get over them. I would highly recommend journaling to get some of those feelings out. Literally just you, your pen, paper and your thoughts. You have to heal that broken part of you in order to gain back that confidence you lost. What your ex decided to do has nothing to do with you. You are worthy of the best kinds of love and you’re worthy of feeling beautiful/confident. In terms of stepping more into your femininity, There’s a bunch of ways to do that. First things first you gotta practice self-care/self love. Pampering yourself, implementing better routines, keeping up with your beauty etc, are all ways your outer you will feel more feminine. You don’t have to dress up in bows and frilly dresses. As long as your up-keeping your beauty routine and allowing yourself to be pampered, you’ll naturally exude feminine energy In terms of the inner you, when you’re moving in masculine energy it means that you’re not trusting your inner softness. You’re not allowing yourself to be in tune with your emotions as us women should be. You need to heal your wounded feminine energy. You have to let go of that constant need of control. Allow yourself to be led, allow yourself to receive, allow yourself to enjoy all of life’s gifts, allow yourself rest/embody peace, allow yourself self to FEEL. Feminine softness is power, ‘softness opens doors that force cannot move’. I’d recommend watching some feminine YouTube videos to help you tap into that energy more. Just don’t fall for the ones that are all about finding a husband and looking ‘modest’, that’s not what femininity is about. I’ll also leave you with some femininity affirmations you can repeat on the daily to further your femininity journey. 1. ‘ i am divine’ 2. I’m so lucky, i always get what i want’ 3. ‘I am connected to the divine feminine energy within me 4. ‘I exude beauty and grace’ 5. My softness is my strength 6. I am a divine woman 7. I am constantly growing into the best version of me. 8. I am a source of love, light and healing for myself and others. 9. I am aware of my worth and my power. 10. I am magnetic and always get what I desire.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 5, 2024 12:53 am
    Hi gurlyyyyy! Can i ask how to not be insecure or envy to other woman? I just want to give this very nice not insecure typa energy
    • SLC replied:
      on October 5, 2024 1:48 am
      i read somewhere that said ‘the good news is that feeling jealous of someone else isnt all bad, because in most cases it’s holding up a mirror to what you want more of for yourself in your own life. it means you want to level up.’ You can either see it in two ways, 1. this girl is better than me and i hate her for that or 2. this girl inspire me and i know that if she can do it/have it, then i can do it too. You gotta remind yourself that you are one of one. the original. no one is you, no one has your spark, your gifts, your talents etc. Like they say, the grass is green where you water it, so water YOU. focus on what you’re doing, scrolling on an ig baddies page is not gonna do nothing for you if you’re not gonna be inspired and go do something with that inspiration. level up! she did it so you can too. Theres soo many resources on how to level up, feel more confident in your self etc, so start looking into them (shit my page is one of them💅🏾). You have to learn to love you enough that the jealousy starts turning into rooting for others instead because you know that you’re good and content with where you’re at and who you are
  • Someone asked:
    on October 4, 2024 9:43 am
    Am i the problem? I feel like i attract the same type of men. Only lust filled men the ones that never want to get to know me or stick around. I’ve been dating this summer and every guy has had the same energy. I want the romance and the actual Experience of dating but at this point i feel like im better off just being alone
    • SLC replied:
      on October 5, 2024 1:35 am
      you need to start vetting these guys better girl. not everyone deserves your date, not everyone deserves your texts back and not everyone deserves your time. i know it can be hard to know their intentions right from the jump but trust me those red signs are there. the reason you’re attracting those type of men is because thats the time of men you’re giving your attention to. It’s not hard to see how these men really are if you’re being intentional. I always knew which dm’s to reply to and which dm’s not to because you kinda get a feel on how someone is off first impressions. You gotta start asking more questions and seeing where their heads are at from jump, that way you’re not wasting a whole summer on bums. Girl all i need is one phone call to know if ima continue talking to someone. Don’t let them sweet talk you with the what if’s, action and energy is everything. And if they’re coming with sexual talks right from the beginning? BLOCKED! You deserve the romance, and you’re gonna find it, but you have to set a standard for yourself first.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 3, 2024 8:04 pm
    Hi sissy! Thank you for always answering our questions. You’re like a sister to us 🥺💗 can i ask what should i do with this. Because I recently just broke up with my first bf which is my BESTFRIEND’s friend also. But when me and her friend broke up she remains neutral about the situation. And the break up ended in bad term. I just feel so betrayed that people and my ex bf expects her to be mad because my ex bf hurt me so much emotionally but my bestfriend just remained so neutral. I just cant forgive her :(( she’s my main bestfriend. Like in sister level.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 4, 2024 9:26 am
      hi sister, ofc thats what im here for💖 See this is a tricky one because without more context it’s hard for me to say who’s in the wrong here. Now if you introduced her to your boyfriend or ex boyfriend i should say and they became friends through you, I would definitely say it’s weird that she’s still cool with him because at the end of the day her loyalty should be with you. However now girl, if they was friends prior to you two being together, then I don’t think it’s fair for you to want her to end that friendship with him. The relationship was between you and your ex, not her so it’s wrong for you to want her to pick a side when it doesn’t involve her. And I get where it’s like well if you’re my bestie, my beef is your beef, but in this case, i think her being neutral is the only thing she can really do if she has loyalty to you both. i would recommend talking to her about how you feel because you don’t want that negative energy building up, but in this case you really have two options, let it go and continue having your best friend or you gotta distance yourself from her if it truly doesn’t sit right with you. I’m not saying it has to be distance forever, but maybe just for the time being while you fully heal from the breakup.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 3, 2024 4:11 pm
    Hey i don’t understand why a lot of girls and women act weird towards me and some dislike me. So I’m a loner and I have my reasons as to why I like to stay to myself but in my experience a lot of boys flirt with me constantly as i mind my business . At my previous warehouse job last year there was 6-8 girls who had a problem with me and I never held a convo with them and nor did I know them. I had a cute and unique African hairstyle called Koroba and surprisingly people did love it . One girl was bothered she did things to get a reaction out of me like look at me angrily all in my space like she want to say something or do something as I ignored her dropping my yellow tote off. She was talking to this guy as I was in an aisle working and she had popped her Gum loud as she turned her head to look at me before she disappeared and the boy she was talking to Stared at me too before he disappeared with her ( idk if she was telling him about me ) and this Asian girl I was walking to drop my yellow tote with Customers items off on the conveyor belt and she rolled her eyes at me and I made a face too at her and then I moved on. So during lunch and days after that she kept breaking her neck to find me in the aisles and just stared for 5 seconds everytime. I have a bunch of boys ask me if I could be there girlfriend at the time when I had my own boyfriend there too. I’ve also had boys one day at work pretend they weren’t recording me before when I use to work at Walmart in the electronic Section . I Believe when my boyfriend 1st introduced me to his older female cousin and i waved and said hello the girl looked bothered, giving me an unpleasant look and acted like she didnt want to say hello. She knew me since last year and wasnt that friendly towards me but she referred me to the job she been working at and she was going to get more money and thats when she opened up . My boss who was an older lady always told me she thought i was so pretty and made it known ” hey Pretty Pretty ” even another female coworker Thought i was very pretty and really cute and they both knew me in a shorter amount of time than my boyfriend female cousin. ( his parents have told me they thoight i was a very beautiful girl as well sometimes randomly ). My friend he thiught the female cousin she never liked me from the start since last year when i was introduced to her. I say this to say that even when I try to be kind to some girls in real life and online I feel like I can’t trust them and they act competitive ,weird, acting so as a loner I just move on.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 4, 2024 11:14 am
      girl they all just sound like lame haters. if you’re not doing nothing to none of them and your presence bothers them so much, they’re just insecure. i wish all of us were girls girls, but unfortunately thats just not the case. some people are just bitter and mad. you gotta pay no mind to people like that. Your aura intimidates them and makes them feel insecure, so in order for them to feel better they try to make you feel insecure by shunning you. In most cases, these are the same people that would lowkey wanna be your friend or be just like you. They’re undercover fans lol. Don’t let that energy get to you. At the end of the day, if you’re a beautiful girl, you’re a beautiful girl and they’re just gonna have to deal with that🤷🏾‍♀️ As long as on your part you’re being a good person, then there’s nothing more you can do. Like you said, you just gotta move on. Not everyones gonna like you and thats okay, you’re not for everyone.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 3, 2024 2:03 pm
    So its a long a story. To try and summarize i met this guy off of tinder about a year ago. Since then weve been insperiable, literally through good and bad. I found a few days after he Officially asked me to be his girlfriend that he had been messing/being intimate with someone on the side. Told him it was because she told me but i actually used my Intuition and she told him when i tried to follow her so used my context clues. When confronted about it he got defensive (as always) and said that he only went to her in the times we argued and on bad terms and that it didnt matter because i wasnt his girlfriend at the time, but we were still very much involved. Anyway so fast forward that hurt me but since it was before we dated i tried to let it go. After that, he called me bitch for the first time ( which i have called him as well but not until after he did), and just other “minor” things. I pulled back because of it and told him i just wanted more that he wasnt Giving. One of those things being respect and wanting to be asked out in person, because the first time he asked on the phone. He started to match those boundaries and standards so i gave it another shot. By then though as a couple i couldnt trust him and question his character often. I felt a little insecure and it would show when i accused him of looking at other women or cheating over any tiny inconvienece. One night i said i was done with him we get together a few days later and i find screenshots of booty pictures on his phone. He said it was only because i broke up with him and he was hurt. So eventually i looked past it again. I loved him and wanted to be with him but it was like my mind could not forget what happened so we’d argue often. And he never understood that concept and always said i brought up things to argue all the time. Well fast forward to the end of last week he saw i liked on post of a male artist i follow and said he had a issue with it since i brought up him liking flashy pics of girls on ig. I didnt think this was fair because of how diffrent the pics were, but i still acknowledged his feelings and said i meant nun by it. He sent me a screen recording, which showed his search history on insta and i saw it was a fan page of and only fans model. I got mad broke up with him Immediately. He said a private acct dm’d him and so he looked up the name and saw that. Of course i thought he was lying. He had also sent a screenshot of a girl he knew and she was asking if he had a gf. It appeared as if he didnt answer back so i was cool abt it, however i realized he was very adamant on cropping the name out. So i addressed it and each time he tried to flip it back on me saying im the cheater for liking pictures after i told him not to. Even after constantly saying i didnt want the guy he was talking about and even said to dm and ask him. But he didnt want to show me this girls username claiming it was because he didnt want me texting her. So my question was why? I thought it was fishy and that it was because she’d tell me something he left out. So i tell him today dont talk to me if he cant be fully honest. He calls and starts telling me more about her and that they met and lowkey talked before me (which i didnt know) but he blocked her after finding out she was into someone else. Also that he didnt want me texting her starting “drama” because shes is some kin to a boss at where he works. Also that he hasnt spoke to her since last year due to her telling his boss something (not even sure what was told he didnt tell me) happened between them that he says didnt happen. So i asked if thats the case, why didnt he want to show me her username in the screenshot and still following her if she falsely accused him. And why is she messaging on Instagram randomly a year later. It didnt sit right with me and it all felt like lies. I left him and repeatedly said why. He got upset at me Not believing him and claiming he never touched the girl. He said im wrong for doing something i told him not to do (liking posts even tho they werent innapropiate) and that it made me a liar and i made things up to end the relationship. I’m so sorry that this is alot. I’ve never just came out and told someone everything with me and him and this isnt really half. But i feel like im not wrong for feeling how i feel and i definitely have not been perfect in the relationship but it was mostly due to my lack in trust. But isnt it weird that he didnt want me to dm someone who likes him while i was hus girlfriend? With all the things ive said does he sound like a bad guy? I often wonder if i really am the bad person or not backing down on my trust issues. I wanted to be with him but i dont want to get played. So now we are broken up. Thanks for reading if you did! I know its alot.
    • SLC replied:
      on October 4, 2024 10:00 am
      i tell all my girls trust.your.intution. you didn’t have those feelings for no reason boo. Honestly this relationship was doomed from the start because it started built on trust issues. idc if you weren’t his ‘official’ girlfriend at the time, if he was intimate with someone else while you two were heavily involved and working on being official… issa no. There was bound to be no trust in the relationship after that, especially if it was something you never fully forgave him for or somehting y’all swept under the rug. I won’t lie, he sounds like a big big gaslighter, from trying to flip a innocent like on ig, to him needing other girls attention because yall are ‘on bad terms’, to him not telling you about this girl fr because she knows his ‘boss’… it’s all gaslighting. i know relationships are work, but they should not be this hard. ever. why would you wanna be with someone who doesn’t give you peace? who you don’t trust, who disrespects you? you’re so much better off without him. I pray you stand on this break up and don’t let him back in. you deserved better from the beginning, you deserved better during the relationship and you deserve better now that its done. period.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 2, 2024 3:14 pm
    I was wondering if you had any tips in terms of dealing with guys and not getting played, im such a lovergirl and i feel like it makes put up with stupid stuff
    • SLC replied:
      on October 3, 2024 2:22 am
      these are some tips i live by to make sure no ones son can ever play me for a fool, 1. A man will always take you to his level. Either its up or down… so choose wisely. 2. don’t ever let a man tell you he doesn’t want you more than once.. exit stage left immediately (this doesn’t just mean verbally either, they will show you through their actions towards you. 3. if they did it once, they’ll do it again. don’t tolerate the disrespect, LEAVE. 4. Let them show you that they are worthy of your love.remember that you are the prize so act accordingly. 5.There are men out there that WILL, the end.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 1, 2024 8:55 pm
    Tommorow is my birthday October 2nd, I’ll he turning 22. I would Love to start traveling for my next birthdays outside the USA. Do you have aby tricks and tips on how to spend less booking trips and finding activities in a country? Do you recommend i get a travel agent?
    • SLC replied:
      on October 1, 2024 10:21 pm
      ahhh happy early birthday boo, i hope this year of 22 is nothing but blessings & growth for you💖🎈. Now girl i won’t lie to you, i love me a birthday trip and so sometimes i’ll say f the price im going regardless but there are some ways to enjoy a birthday vacay for less. Definitely do your research. For every trip i’ve been on, ive made sure to do my research on the country, the excursions, the hotel/airbnbs etc through youtube, reddit, tik tok/instagram. Whether its watching different vlogs and finding a bunch of activities to do, googling different flight options, price comparing different hotels/airbnbs, and just straight up googling cheaper alternatives to where i’m going, these all have helped me with every birthday trip i’ve done. As long as you know where you’re going, theres a bunch of resources out there to help you out. I highly doubt you need a travel agent. Let AI and google be your travel agent lol. I wish i could give you more specific places to look into but again all tips/tricks i learn are based on where im specifically going. Just know that social media is your friend and you can find soo many resources! Hope you enjoy your birthday xoxo
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