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  • Someone asked:
    on May 20, 2022 3:09 pm
    Just want peace
    • SLC replied:
      on May 24, 2022 3:05 pm
      if you want peace you have to get rid of anything or anyone that disrupts it. you have to make your environment peaceful. you have to learn to be a peaceful person as well. we all deserve peace, so I hope you are able to obtain it <3
  • Someone asked:
    on May 17, 2022 9:50 pm
    How to set boundaries And not feel bad When having them or Enforcing them and letting people walk all over it, not to take things seriously like I always take every comment someone say to me seriously even if it an apparent Joke or bullying but Overall how do i Stip that, Letting things be what it is and let go it go and accept that certain things I wanted to last in my life are Gone and I have Attachment issues and I want to let Things goes and leave it how it is instead of running back again and again to the same person that hurts me so how can I stop it or make it any better please
    • SLC replied:
      on May 19, 2022 12:02 am
      Boundaries are something that takes time to build. It’s something you have to practice and instill. Firstly decide what exact boundaries you want to set (writing them down will help you a lot) and then start enforcing them little by little. It’s going to be uncomfortable at first, you’re gonna feel mean or wanna take it back, but they are needed. Take them seriously and do not lower them for anybody. You have to learn to not feel bad for removing yourself from anyone or anything that isn’t benefiting you. It’s all about respecting yourself at the end of the day. You don’t need to keep running back to something that isn’t good for you. What good comes from that? Nothing at all. In terms of not taking every comment so seriously, you may have to start building thicker skin. It’s okay to be sensitive, (trust me I am too) but you need to know the difference between someone joking with you and someone actually disrespecting you. Now if it is disrespect then don’t take it lightly, but also remind yourself that other people’s opinions can only hurt you if you let them.
  • Someone asked:
    on May 16, 2022 5:55 pm
    Never Had a boyfriend before and i feel Like all the guys nowadays only like Instagram models and light skinned girls or girls who are “racially Ambiguous” what to do about it? And also how to i be more feminine and elegant, both inside & outside?
    • SLC replied:
      on May 16, 2022 9:31 pm
      hi girl, I honestly feel what you’re saying. Society’s standards on women (especially in this day and age) are very one-sided. However, that’s not every mans type, don’t think that because you don’t look like the insta baddies you won’t be able to get a boyfriend. You are your OWN beauty standard. So keep telling yourself that. In terms of being more feminine, there are a lot of ‘femininity’ youtube channels or podcasts that you can watch (i recommend goddess energy by Simply Sheneka, Miss feminine, Breeny Lee, Level up Journey and Dr. Michelle Daf). Take what you learn with a grain of salt though because not everything they teach needs to be followed in order to be a ‘feminine woman’. Theres also a lot of Tumblr blogs and even Instagram accounts that can help you learn more about femineity and how to embody it in your own life. Have fun on your journey!
  • Someone asked:
    on May 16, 2022 1:19 pm
    I have realized that I Get attached to people quickly and Sometimes they end up Hurting me how do I stop this especially if its someone I just meet we Talk often and then stop talking and I also get annoyed and angry easily if someone tries to talk to me or I am not in the mood and how to let go of people that hurt Me instead of holding on to them
    • SLC replied:
      on May 16, 2022 9:44 pm
      Start setting more boundaries with people. Don’t give everything away to someone too easily. Learn to be patient and leave some things a mystery until you feel fully comfortable opening up to them (and vice versa). Also, it’s best to not see people for their potential but for who they actually are. We tend to fantasize about people too early and fall for their potential rather than their reality. I’d also recommend limiting your contact with that specific person. You do not need to be around or be talking to someone 24/7 (especially when you’ve just met them), that’ll allow you to have time to focus on yourself or other priorities. In terms of letting go of people, it literally comes down to just letting them go. period. Stop staying in contact with them. Anyone who is willingly hurting you does not have to be in your life. You need to have a level of respect for yourself to be able to say enough is enough. It’s not an easy process but it’s worth it.
  • Someone asked:
    on May 16, 2022 5:37 am
    How do you fix a broken heart?
    • SLC replied:
      on May 16, 2022 10:40 pm
      With patience, time, self-love, and a lot of compassion. Support from loved ones is always a plus too. You need to give yourself grace to feel what you’re feeling but also put in the work to start your healing.
  • Someone asked:
    on May 16, 2022 4:20 am
    Would you Tell your new partner if your ex reached out to you? I have no interest in mine but he hit me up and i Don’t know what to do
    • SLC replied:
      on May 16, 2022 10:29 pm
      I would tell my partner tbh just out of respect. But also i wouldn’t even respond, because if you say you’re not interested, what’s there to talk about?
  • Someone asked:
    on May 15, 2022 8:26 pm
    How to start a self love journey like physical, mental Everything and to just focus on you my goals, dreams and learn go rush things even though I want them badly
    • SLC replied:
      on May 16, 2022 9:58 pm
      Its all about consistency. You can say you want it, but your actions will show how much you actually do. Get to researching. Researching workout/health tips. Get to researching how to level up mentally (books, podcasts, youtube videos, journaling, etc). Research ways on being able to hit whatever specific goal and dream you’re trying to obtain (for example if you’re trying to get a degree, research schools, programs, etc.), plan it out, and make it as detailed as you need it to be. Once you’re done researching and planning, it’s time to then implement what you’ve learned into your life. If that means signing up for the gym and making sure you’re there 3x a week then so be it. The main step in becoming the person of your dreams is to start acting like that person. Be dedicated to your self-love journey. Get motivated. Plan. Prioritize. Act. Commit. The world is yours if you truly want it.
  • Someone asked:
    on May 14, 2022 3:17 pm
    Their are times when I feel confident in myself like my body and everything and their other times when I am not I Realize I keep comparing myself to other people like their looks and the things they have in their lives like a relationship, money, able to go out etc. Recently turn 17 never Been asked out on a date or never had a relationship I feel like I am missing out I want to experience what it is like and even though my friends say don’t chase it make it comes for you I understand that but how long by a blink of an eye I will be 18 and ever got to experience these things I think time is slipping by for me and yeah I understand don’t chase it but when will I experience this I feel certain aspect of life is Missing out and I feel like I will never get to experience it and it being genuine. Another I have been bullied for most of my life that I am ugly, my husband will leave me at the Altar, I have no future, how my body is not attractive, being compared to girls that are pretty than me, and to girls Who consider ugly, rated being the ugliest girl at Prep school to high school being one of the ugliest girls I try to change my mindset on things but some times I might not have a purpose on this earth or find happiness or love or maybe I am not deserving of it and Had my first ever talking stage which failed and I am trying to move on but I am still hurt by it I felt As that would turn into my first relationship he ghosted me when I can see he is online i called him he never gets back to me and he even Confessed saying he like me and a few weeks later I did and it was mutual until all of this happens and i keep blaming my Self maybe my Overthinking ruin Things i can you please help me
    • SLC replied:
      on May 16, 2022 10:21 pm
      Listen here sis, you do not have to operate on anyone’s time but your own. You’re not too late and you’re not missing out. 18 is so young and you will not believe how many people are ‘inexperienced’ at that age. You have to be patient. Your friends are right, do not rush and let it come to you. No more operating from a lacked mindset. Also in the most respectful way, fuck those bullies. Anyone that feels the need to say that shit to someone else clearly doesn’t like themselves and has to put others down to feel good. Who said their opinion was valid? Who said their opinions are even important? Who said you even need to take in what they’re saying? It’s honestly all nonsense and I hope you realize that. The only opinion that matters is your own opinion. Just because a negative thought comes into your mind, doesn’t mean it’s the truth. It doesn’t mean you have to hold on to it and let it label you. Take your power back. If you never felt like you’ve had power over your mind, then it’s time to start telling yourself you do. Learn to stop overthinking and let things be. Listen, I know this first relationship may seem like the most important thing in the world to you right now, but I promise me in a couple of months you’ll look back on it and laugh at how unserious it all really is. If he’s not reciprocating your energy then it wasn’t meant to be. Don’t beat yourself up over it forreal. You’re still soooo young girl, you have so much time to meet other people and worry about relationships. Right now is the best time for you to do you. Learn to love and respect yourself more so that others around you will know to act accordingly.
  • Someone asked:
    on May 13, 2022 2:30 am
    How to move on from someone I was never With basically a first Talking stage which Failed he Ghosted all my messages and calls and I see he is online I am grateful for the experience he taught me few things i appreciate the memories we made i want to keep them back to look at but I keep Holding on to broken Promises from him and feeling like it’s my fault when his friend and my friend told me It’s not and feeling like nobody will never like or love Me or i will never get a chance like this again. I blocked him and delete the chat but I still feel sad and confused if I did the right thing and so on what should I do.
    • SLC replied:
      on May 14, 2022 12:51 am
      Whew girl, those relationships when y’all weren’t technically in a relationship be hurting the most when it’s over. You’ll eventually get over it though. Honestly, how to get over it would be the same way you’d get over any relationship. Through focusing on yourself & letting time do its thing. I’m happy you deleted him because that’s the first step in your healing process; let the communication or potential social media stalking go. Sometimes you have to let go of what you want someone’s potential to be and realize who they actually are. You’re not gonna allow anymore ghosting or broken promises from him. NO more allowing yourself to feel guilty either. It’s okay to feel sad, especially if it’s still fresh. Have compassion for yourself and know that you’re making a good decision for YOU.
  • Someone asked:
    on April 18, 2022 3:23 pm
    I dont have friends. It’s so sad im Literally in the house all off the time, I had 2 Friends one met some other people and just skipped me .It hurts To see videos of people my age living their life going to the club, eating out and everything and im just in my room all day. My other ‘friend’ did some shit to me i forgave her but the Bond Is not the same and it doesn’t feel good. I really have the feeling that im wasting my best years even my brother ask me why im always at home, i Don’t even want to Rebound with those girls i just want new friends. but how do i start?
    • SLC replied:
      on April 19, 2022 4:05 pm
      You gotta start shooting your friendship shot! The secret to making friends, especially when you’re older is to actually make an effort. Join a club, go to an interesting class, volunteer somewhere, strike up a convo with people that seem interesting to you. If you’re working, try to bond more with your coworkers. If you’re using social media and are following mutuals in your area, shoot your shot and hit them up. You don’t have to be super forward at first, but start a conversation and get to know them. It’s really all about just going for it. Don’t be afraid to try something new. As for the old friends you have, if you wanna try reconciling with them (ask them to go out with you, have a friend date etc.) you can do that, but if you feel like the feelings aren’t mutual, let it go. You deserve real friendships and you deserve more than just staying in your room feeling fomo.
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