Is Your Boyfriend Not Listening To You When You Vent?

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  • Someone asked:
    on June 10, 2022 11:57 am
    Okay so my ex and i are on and Off. He’s like my First love and the People in my life know this (Specifically my besties). Recently I just found out that my bsf have my ex and his homeboy her Addy so they can pull up. They were sittIng Outside while she was in, but I still feel a certain way. You claim you do like him. But every Time me and him are going through it, you magically start being acquainted. I would never do that to her, and I explained how this makes me feel. I honestly do Know if I can trust them. Please help
    • SLC replied:
      on June 22, 2022 1:06 am
      Us women have our women intuition, especially when it comes to our relationships. Since he is your ex, it’s hard to really expect loyalty from him because you two aren’t together. However, it’s still not right if something is going on between them. If you’ve explained it to her and you notice it’s still going on, that’s a big red flag. I say talk to each of them about it once more (idk if you’re back on with your ex though) and if something similar happens again, it’s time to cut them BOTH off. Relationships cannot grow without trust, platonic or romantic. Also, look into WHY you and your ex are always off and on and determine if that is even worth it. I know he’s your first love but if its not working out, clearly it’s for a reason.
  • Someone asked:
    on June 7, 2022 10:56 am
    How to Detach yourself from someone who doesn’t care about you Anymore. Like steps on how to just detach yourself from person like that.
    • SLC replied:
      on June 8, 2022 1:02 am
      honestly the best way to detach yourself from someone is to remove them from your life. ‘Out of sight = Out of mind’ You need to stop focusing your energy on them. If someone doesn’t care for you, they don’t need to be in your life. Block, delete, mute, do whatever you gotta do to free your mind from them. With time you’ll find yourself unattached and onto better.
  • Someone asked:
    on June 5, 2022 11:12 pm
    Good habits to engage in? Trying to do better for myself
    • SLC replied:
      on June 6, 2022 1:21 am
      Gratitude, mindfulness, self-care, reading, journaling, getting a full night’s sleep, proactive morning routine, positive self-talk, limiting social media use, healthy eating, exercise, setting boundaries
  • Someone asked:
    on June 3, 2022 1:10 am
    So i see my bf commenting under multiple Girls pics. Would you break up with him if he was your boyfriend? One of my friends said Im overreacting.
    • SLC replied:
      on June 5, 2022 2:18 am
      girl… if he’s doing that in public then imagine what he could be doing in private. If you’ve already addressed the issue with him and nothing changed you need to leave that boy where he’s at. I know people say not to be dramatic when it comes to your partner’s social media use, but I personally think that’s just plain disrespectful. You deserve someone whose going to respect and cherish YOU.
  • Someone asked:
    on May 28, 2022 11:20 pm
    I want to start a journal for self love, growth, Advice, and experiences but how do I start. Like how do you start journaling how do I ask question to myself any advice or Tips
    • SLC replied:
      on May 29, 2022 12:08 pm
      the best way to start journaling is to literally just start writing. If you wanna write about your day you could do that (tbh a lot can be uncovered just from taking a step back and analyzing your day-to-day life). You could do a brain dump where you just let all your thoughts out in an entry. You could also do those 30-day journaling prompts where for a month you write out about a specific topic or question (you can usually find these on Google or Pinterest). Or you can google “self-reflection questions and start answering them in your journal. Writing out affirmations daily in your journal is another good thing to boost self-love. There are literally so many different ways to start up a self-love journal. There’s also no ‘best way’ to do it, so just be your authentic, raw self and let your thoughts speak for themselves.
    • SLC replied:
      on May 18, 2022 11:51 pm
      I started my journey by reading books firstly. I would google a lot of different self-help books and would read the ones I felt were interesting. Then through that, I found a like-minded community on social media. Through youtube videos, Instagram accounts, podcasts, Pinterest, Tumblr etc., I’ve learned so much, and continue to learn so much on my personal self-love journey. All you have to do is start. Do a lil digging on what you’re personally interested in and the rest should just come to you.
  • Someone asked:
    on May 28, 2022 1:42 am
    How to ignore Peer pressure , but without losing your current friends??
    • SLC replied:
      on May 29, 2022 12:48 am
      stay true to yourself and only do what you feel comfortable doing. If they’re you’re real friends, they won’t force you to do anything you don’t want to. If they have a problem with it then those are not your friends. Point, blank, period!
  • Someone asked:
    on May 28, 2022 1:41 am
    how to become a better girlfriend
    • SLC replied:
      on May 29, 2022 12:53 am
      Communication is key. Better yet communication + comprehension is key. Learn to speak to your partner in a healthy way, no matter how bad an argument may get (some things cannot be unsaid). When things are voiced, don’t just listen but also make an effort to understand what they are saying. Learn your partners’ love language, if they thrive from words of affirmation, give them some words of affirmation. If they love quality time, make sure you’re able to spend time with them. Another way to become a better girlfriend is to become a better you in general. When you are your best self, you’re able to give that energy to the people around you. Always remember that you can’t pour from an empty cup.
  • Someone asked:
    on May 26, 2022 6:34 pm
    Is detachment good to have especially when leaving or Giving up on Someone who doesn’t care about you anymore or ignore your calls and Messages, Ghosting you that Show how much you carried and how you do that especially since you have attachment issues and Developed quickly when talking to someone
    • SLC replied:
      on May 29, 2022 12:59 am
      Tbh I do think it’s a good thing to have, especially when it comes to situations like this where this person is clearly not worth the attachment. Sometimes you gotta say im out and bounce. It’s not an easy thing for people to do, so if you’re someone who can detach from a situation easily then in my eyes it’s a plus to not be so codependent. However, you gotta know whether it’s healthy or not. If you can just detach from people who love you/support you without a blink of an eye then that may be an issue. Try to work more on your attachment/detachment issues if they’re interfering with your relationships in a negative way
  • Someone asked:
    on May 24, 2022 2:48 pm
    Do i Follow my heart or my head??
    • SLC replied:
      on May 25, 2022 3:39 am
      It truly depends on the situation. When it comes to following your dreams/passions I’d say follow your heart, but for most situations, I’d have to say your head. The heart is pure and innocent but can lead you down a dangerous road. It’s not designed to think, that is what your head is for. When you let your heart make decisions for you, it’s based on emotion rather than logic, and whew, have I seen people throw logic out the window when it comes to situations like love, relationships, etc. If possible, the best-case scenario is to use both 50/50.
  • Someone asked:
    on May 24, 2022 2:43 pm
    What’s your opinion on going for a walk for the first date? I’ve been talking to this guy for a Little over 3 weeks and he suggested it as our first meet up
    • SLC replied:
      on May 25, 2022 3:41 am
      Personally speaking, I don’t consider a ‘walk’ as a first date. We definitely need to learn the difference between spending time with someone vs actually going out on a date with them. Don’t get me wrong I love taking walks, but as a first date, it just seems like a lazy option. The amount of effort a man puts into a date is very telling of how he feels about you. Tbh even if he can’t afford an expensive ass date, a man who wants you will be able to make the date special if he truly wants to. So yeah, it’s a no for me, however, if it’s something that happens before or after we actually go somewhere then that’s fine.
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