Is Your Boyfriend Not Listening To You When You Vent?

Are Your Girls Tired Of Giving You Advice About The Same Guy Every Other Week? 

Do You Need Advice On Things That You Just Don’t Want To Share With Your Family & Friends?

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Answers So Far..

  • Someone asked:
    on July 18, 2022 8:06 am
    How to believe in yourself more
    • SLC replied:
      on July 18, 2022 12:54 pm
      You have to learn to start trusting yourself more. Not only that, but you have to actually hold yourself to a certain standard and accomplish the things you set out for yourself. Do what you say and say what you mean. Also, HYPE YOURSELF UP! Celebrate your accomplishments no matter how little you think they are. You gotta start feeling the fear and doing it anyway. Most times we have ourselves not believing in ourself is because we feel like we’ll fail at whatever we want to do. I’m not gonna sit here and say you’re not gonna be afraid, but what I will say is that you can do what you want to do WHILE feeling the fear. The more you do that and get through it, the more confidence you get (aka the more you start to believe in yourself no matter what the challenge is).
  • Someone asked:
    on July 14, 2022 11:47 am
    Hi, Do You ever plan on doing a podcast?
    • SLC replied:
      on July 18, 2022 12:27 pm
      hmmm that’s a really good question, i feel like for now that’s not something I’m currently interested in, but in the future it could be! So look out for that in the near future xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on July 14, 2022 6:39 am
    Am scared I will never met the one for me or never be in a relationship or never finding love a lot of people keep saying don’t rush, your young but we are only young at a time and I feel left behind, not only that I still don’t know what I want to be then trying to get over talking with someone who Ghosted me and doesn’t give a fuck about you and the healing don’t seem to be going know where and sometimes I feel like I have no purpose in life or I was just born to just exist. I try to be my best but it’s not their I don’t know what to do am just a Mess.
    • SLC replied:
      on July 18, 2022 12:40 pm
      Firstly, I think the problem here is that you’re basing your self-worth on being in a relationship. There is way more to life than being in a relationship. Relationships aren’t there to define whether or not you’re worthy. You are worthy single, just as much as you are worthy in a relationship. As you stated, ‘you’re young’, so what’s the rush? You’re stressing yourself out for no reason. Everyone feels like they’re a mess, especially when we get into young adulthood. You’re not alone in feeling like that. The best thing for you to do at this time though is to figure yourself out. Figure out who you want to be instead of mopping around being sad at who you currently are. It’s a journey and you have to be patient with yourself sis. You’re here to live, not just exist. So change that mindset and go out and live. All these doubts and thoughts are normal, and you have the power to shut them up.
  • Someone asked:
    on July 14, 2022 5:11 am
    How to move on from a failed talking stage especially in a moment where he said “am not good for you ” And when I ask If he doesn’t want to communicate anymore saying he wants Kinda to but won’t be good for us then ghost your text and calls. What do I do especially since u still like Him
    • SLC replied:
      on July 18, 2022 12:31 pm
      babygirl.. once a man says ‘im not good enough for you’ believe him! That’s literally the only sign you need to get out of that situationship ASAP. When a man wants you, he will show you. So for him to be ghosting you and telling you he doesn’t want to communicate, he’s showing you he is not interested. There will be someone out there that won’t give you mixed signals. He just isn’t the one. Cut your losses and let that man go. He doesn’t wanna communicate? Perfect, then stop all communication with him. In the future you’ll realize that he just wasn’t worth the stress.
  • Someone asked:
    on July 8, 2022 8:42 pm
    Hi, babe! Ive gotten alot of compliments on my makeup for years. I’ve been into makeup Since i was 16. ( im 24 now) .I’ve been Posting makeup tutorials for 6 Months. I only have 3k followers. however, I Have a high engagement rate and my Reels average 10k views. I also average around 1,000 likes. The Tricky part is I’m a college student but college has Always been extremely difficult for me and i get very depressed when im in school. Makeup/Beauty is my passion and i feel like Now is the Perfect time to follow my Dreams. I was thinking of taking a year off of school to Pursue my beauty influencing dreams. Could you share Any advice ?
    • SLC replied:
      on July 11, 2022 9:06 pm
      Hey love, of course I can! Honestly, I’m not even sure if you really need me to answer! If you read over your question yourself, you could see that you know exactly what you want to do. It seems that you’re very passionate about your craft. Personally, I think that someone whose passionate would give it their all when it comes to something that they want to do. If you need to, take a small break from school. & while you’re on that break, I would say put in work like there’s no tomorrow. I promise if you’re really dedicated, the results will show for itself. You really have to train yourself and act as if it’s makeup, and nothing else. Put yourself out there, build connections, step out of your comfort zone and show the world your work. I would say on the side, to also secure a proper job and save your money as much as you can! If you do in fact decide to take a break from school, choose a side job that pays properly so that you’re steady from the beginning. if the school becomes something that you decide you want to pursue later on, go for it! One thing I would say is start as early as possible, weigh out your options and see what resonates with you. You only have one life & you don’t want to have any regrets when you’re older. At the end of day , what makes you happy is what matters most. If you’re in a career that makes you happy, you’re going to excel because you’ll enjoy it to the point where it doesn’t feel like work! & with that, the $ will come . Be open to accepting small / big opportunities. You never know where it’ll take you. You got this, honestly! Wishing you the best of the best.
  • Someone asked:
    on July 4, 2022 3:33 am
    How to change your negative mindset into a positive one. So you can also attract good things in life. And work towards them
    • SLC replied:
      on July 5, 2022 10:31 am
      Key tips would be: start being grateful (gratitude is such a strong and important feeling), set better standards for yourself, speak positivity into your life, journal (helps release negatives thoughts), be kind to yourself, set new intentions, surround yourself with positive people/environments, reframe negative issues, start actually living rather than surviving.
  • Someone asked:
    on July 3, 2022 12:54 am
    Can you explain the law of detachment and how to do it? Please and thank you
    • SLC replied:
      on July 5, 2022 10:21 am
      “The Law of Detachment is the ability to let go of one’s need to control outcomes in situations, attachment to one’s desires, and the need to control other people.” So basically in my own definition, it simply means letting go. You have to stop trying to control the outcomes of life and allow life itself to play out for you. Stop getting caught up in overthinking, timelines, doubts, etc. “When you are no longer tied to the outcome of how it must be, you free yourself up to abundant possibilities.” Look forward to what you want to manifest rather than stressing about how/when it’s going to happen.
  • Someone asked:
    on July 2, 2022 7:17 pm
    How To Stop Seeking Validation From Others And Not Feel Good Enough For Anything. And Feeling Like love or any thing good is unattainable for me or something that will never happen.
    • SLC replied:
      on July 5, 2022 10:12 am
      It all starts with your mindset. You have to start erasing the negative out view you have of yourself and start creating more positive ones. Obviously, as humans its a common trait to want other people to like you, but if it’s coming to the point where you feel like you can’t even be yourself/you’re molding yourself into who ‘they’ want you to be, then its a problem. Confidence is key when it comes to not seeking validation from others. You have to learn to be so sure of yourself that no one else’s opinion can affect that. You have to realize that other peoples opinions are none of your business. Let them think what they have to think, it can’t do anything to you. What matters the most is what you think of yourself. Start saying postive affirmations on a daily to switch your perspective of yourself. If no one’s told you this before, i will, you ARE worthy of any love/good thing that comes your way. You just need to start believing that yourself.
  • Someone asked:
    on June 22, 2022 12:54 am
    Hey, could you recommend some self love books or books that give you a different perspective in Life.
    • SLC replied:
      on June 22, 2022 1:09 am
      The Secret, Untethered Soul, You are a badass, Manifest Now, Inner Glimpse, I am that Girl, The Power of Now, Atomic Habits, Girl Code, Feeding the Soul, hope this helps xx
  • Someone asked:
    on June 16, 2022 2:48 pm
    Advice on long distance relationships???🥺
    • SLC replied:
      on June 22, 2022 1:16 am
      Long-distance relationships are harddd but if both parties are willing to put in the work, you can make it work. Communication is KEY. Make sure that you are able to see each other as much as possible (if possible). Pick out specific times where you two are able to just focus on each other/communicate (honor that schedule as much as possible). There also needs to be lots of trust and confidence within the relationship. It takes a lot of commitment but it’s not impossible.
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