Is Your Boyfriend Not Listening To You When You Vent?

Are Your Girls Tired Of Giving You Advice About The Same Guy Every Other Week? 

Do You Need Advice On Things That You Just Don’t Want To Share With Your Family & Friends?

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Answers So Far..

  • Someone asked:
    on September 2, 2022 2:46 am
    How to have motitavtion to do things instead of neglecting them and yourself
    • SLC replied:
      on November 4, 2022 2:08 am
      it’s all about discipline. We have to do the things that we do not want to do in order to be who we want to be. Its so easy to just say ‘f it’ and not work on your goals, not go to the gym, not read that book that’s been sitting there, but the more and more you do that, the longer it’s going to take to get you to where you want to be. Think about future you and if the decisions you making today are benefiting who you will be in the future. That always keeps me motivated personally because i know who i want to be and i know that if I want to be that person I have to take those necessary steps to being her.
  • Someone asked:
    on August 29, 2022 4:04 pm
    As a girl i Think i have a porn Addiction and i want to get rid of it but i don’t know how :/ . Do you Have any tips?
    • SLC replied:
      on August 30, 2022 12:57 pm
      well firstly I’m glad that you can acknowledge it and realize that you want to change that. Honestly, I’m not going to tell you to just completely stop because with all addictions, that is very difficult, what I will say, is to limit it slowly. Watch less and less of it. When you get an urge to watch it, do something else instead to take your mind off of it. There’s nothing wrong with watching porn, so I don’t want you feeling guilty about it. However, an addiction to it isn’t healthy because a lot of porn portrays unrealistic and sometimes even damaging notions of sex. Just limit it until you feel like it’s something you no longer ‘need’ to watch, reframe/distract your mind whenever you feel the need to watch it, and overall, just think about how good you’ll feel knowing that this addiction won’t have control over you anymore. If you do find yourself struggling though, definitely reach out for professional help/guidance.
  • Someone asked:
    on August 20, 2022 1:45 pm
    What are your thoughts of a Travel Influencer? I really Believe I’m going to Live that lifestyle. (I’ve always had travel fever). when i was in america after i graduated high school my mom & step dad were Constantly worried and getting on me about choosing a career , then i went back home to jamaica where im currently at the moment trying to get a diploma in tourism studies then i will try to do marketing both from a Website that gives free college courses. I just feel like me getting sent to stay with my Grandma and biological dad side wasnt a coincidence like it happened on purpose.
    • SLC replied:
      on August 21, 2022 2:04 pm
      You know you don’t need my opinion right? you look like you have it all figured out boo! If you wanna be a travel influencer and you know in your heart that that is meant for you ……. then what’s stopping you? There’s literally no advice for me to give because we both know this is what you wanna do. Nothing is a coincidence, you know you’re destined for that so get into it! Best of luck xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on August 20, 2022 4:37 am
    Movie recommendation for self love ,growth etc..
    • SLC replied:
      on August 21, 2022 1:58 pm
      i’m not gonna lie to you, i am not a movie person so unfortunately, I don’t have any good recommendations to give you! The only movie that i can really say i love and taught me about growth/healing was Poetic Justice
  • Someone asked:
    on August 18, 2022 8:51 pm
    How to stop comparing yourself to others with not only look but their life .
    • SLC replied:
      on August 21, 2022 2:02 pm
      Focus on you more. Whatever distractions you have that are leading you to constantly keep up with other people’s lives, drop them. Unfollow, mute, and block people if you have to. Remind yourself that its only you vs you, no one else. The grass is not always greener on the other side, so water your own. We only have one life to live, in this body we were given, so why spend that time focused on other people? YOU are your main focus. Compare who you are now to who you used to be. What other people are doing is none of your concern. Water you. Nurture you. To the point where you won’t even care to be focused on other people.
  • Someone asked:
    on August 17, 2022 7:13 pm
    How to get over a boy you never Dated / never been a relationship with
    • SLC replied:
      on August 18, 2022 3:05 am
      From a previous post because you seem to be in similar situations (the ‘…..’ means i took out unrelatable sentences for you): “Whew girl, those relationships when y’all weren’t technically in a relationship be hurting the most when it’s over. You’ll eventually get over it though. Honestly, how to get over it would be the same way you’d get over any relationship. Through focusing on yourself & letting time do its thing………. let the communication or potential social media stalking go….. Sometimes you have to let go of what you want someone’s potential to be and realize who they actually are…….. It’s okay to feel sad, especially if it’s still fresh. Have compassion for yourself and know that you’re making a good decision for YOU.”
  • Someone asked:
    on August 17, 2022 2:10 pm
    Have you ever manifested anything? And if if has worked what did you do exactly?
    • SLC replied:
      on August 18, 2022 1:42 am
      i have manifested so many things to the point where no one could ever make me believe that the law of attraction isn’t real. Literally have manifested money, men, job opportunities, clothes, outings, etc,. It’s to the point where I have friends that ask me to speak things into existence for them because they say that everything i say literally comes to life. Big or small. A few weeks ago there was this jumpsuit that I saw on an insta girl and I wanted it so bad. She never tagged it but a day later, i found it on a site. That’s not all though, so I go on the site and the jumpsuit is sold out in alllll sizes. In my head I just kept telling myself that i need this jumpsuit like i literally see myself in it already, so i have to have it. Next day im refreshing the site and what happens? My size pops up, the ONLY one left. I never grabbed my credit card so fast lmao. And boom just like that i got my jumpsuit and it was sold out again right after I purchased it. I couldn’t stop thanking the universe; i always say to myself that the universe has my back because i wholeheartedly know its true. So to answer the second part of your question with that little story example in mind, it works because im persistent. it works because I not only say what i want, but believe it’s coming to me no matter what. My faith never wavers and I just know that what i ask for, i get. No doubts or worries. It’s really that simple. Ask, Believe (put yourself in a postion to recieve), then Recieve.
  • Someone asked:
    on August 17, 2022 12:50 pm
    How to be more confidence in your body and yourself
    • SLC replied:
      on August 18, 2022 3:12 am
      positive self-talk! start complimenting yourself on a daily, even if you sometimes don’t even believe it. You have to reframe your mind to see yourself as a confident person. Start dressing up more if you don’t already. Do things that are out of your comfort zone; new hairstyle, clothes you necessarily wouldn’t wear, makeup you haven’t tried before, etc. Get your body right! Go to the gym or for runs, I’m not saying you have to lose weight or gain weight, but just treat your body better. Make it a healthier body so that you can feel good overall. Your body is your temple, you’re stuck with it for life. There’s no point wasting time hating it when you can be using that time to love it. Hope this helps xoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on August 16, 2022 2:21 pm
    What are some self care activites to do alone
    • SLC replied:
      on August 18, 2022 1:28 am
      reading, listening to podcasts, watching your fave movie or show, journaling, going for a walk, listening to music, working out, putting on a face mask, taking a nice shower, yoga, sleeping in, taking a nap, taking yourself out on a date, doing your makeup/hair, clean your space, draw/paint, staying offline for a few hours, the list can go on, literally anything that allows you to be in-tune with yourself without any rush/high expectations.
  • Someone asked:
    on August 14, 2022 3:46 am
    I Feel so drained plus trying to heal from a talking stage and I honestly dont Know what to do . I dont even know myself .
    • SLC replied:
      on August 18, 2022 3:22 am
      babe, release whatever negative energy you still have on you from that situationship and free yourself. Don’t allow anyone to take away your energy like that. Healing is not easy nor quick but if you aren’t continuously working towards it, you’re prolonging the process. Get to know yourself. Sometimes relationships take away our individuality and it’s time for you to get that back. Learn your likes and dislikes. Do things that take away time from thinking about your past situationship. Take this ‘healing’ time to focus on what you need. And listen, not every day is gonna feel good, sometimes you’re gonna feel like shit but that’s okay. it’s all a part of the process; you gotta make sure to give yourself grace. Regroup and refocus. You’ll get through it xo!
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