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  • Someone asked:
    on November 20, 2022 6:21 pm
    i kinda have a small crush on this guy i sit next to in math class but i don’t know how to talk to him or get his attention ( shy girl lol). Other than like Answering each others questions when we’re confused about something we don’t really say much fr. i’m not tryna shoot my shot But I wanna try to get to know him. what are subtle ways for me to get his attention without it being obvious?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 22, 2022 3:11 pm
      smiling/eye contact are definitely subtle but good ways to get someone’s attention. Especially if its consistent. He’ll start expecting your smile every time he sees you and whenever you guys do speak, when you give him direct eye contact it’ll show that you’re interested in what he has to say + you’ll seem more confident. Ask little questions too, like ‘omg did you get the math lesson?’ or ‘what class do you have after this?’ Just little things that can stir up longer conversations. Just like with the smiling, he’ll start expecting conversations from you. However, if you sense that his vibe isn’t giving interested or he’s not reciprocating your energy, then keep it neutral and let it go.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 17, 2022 3:55 pm
    My ex boyfriend recently reached out to me and asked that we meet up and I spend a few days with him. At first I said yes but then i thought about it and yes i ended up saying no well I didnt say no I just delayed it till next week Tuesday. but do I give this man a chance after he abused me? Physically and Emotionally? I still feel so strongly for him but I’m stuck between getting back with someone who doesn’t take accountability and cant say sorrry or simply going back to someone for good dick. In the duration of the relationship I felt alone and I did end up catching him cheating on me with girls on his phone and I left… But his delusional self is back thinking we never broke up in the first place (how if I blocked you and we didnt talk for 2 months + at most?) But what do I do? Give it another chance or continue growing myself? My closest friends and family members tell me not to go back there but a part of me wants to see if things have gotten better. If he has grown…. If we can continue loving each other in a much healthier way.
    • SLC replied:
      on November 18, 2022 4:08 am
      the reason you think there’s a part of you that wants to go back is that you most likely miss the familiarity your ex gave you. The fact that you listed out more negatives than goods is all the reason why you shouldn’t go back to him. If someone shows you who they really are, don’t ignore it. Really sit down and ask yourself if it’s okay that you’ve been cheated on, or physically/emotionally abused. If you have any self-respect (which I know you do because a part of you realizes how wrong this is) you won’t go back to him. Forget the ‘good dick’ girl, good dick isn’t worth more than your self-respect. Someone who hurts you doesn’t deserve you. Don’t let that man fool you.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 13, 2022 4:52 pm
    I never really fit in and hardly make any Friends. I’m currently In Uni and i Haven’t made any friends since year 10. I always feel like even if i make friends it won’t ever be a normal Relationship Because Nothing really feels normal for me anymore.
    • SLC replied:
      on November 15, 2022 3:02 am
      Making friends can be hard for sure so I get where you’re coming from, but you’re never gonna make friends if you have a negative mindset around it. You firstly have to stop seeing yourself as ‘someone who doesn’t fit it’ or ‘someone who doesn’t make friends’ because who says that’s true? That’s your own beliefs you’re putting on yourself and that needs to end asap. Once you start to let go of that (obviously its not going to be overnight but still), you gotta start putting yourself out there. You say you’re in uni? Next time you’re in one of your classes, make an attempt to talk to someone, it can literally be the person you’re sitting beside. It doesn’t even have to be a long deep conversation either. Its just to show them that you’re a friendly person and someone who they can potentially speak to again. You never know where that can lead to fr. If there’s any clubs or student societies to join, try that out too. Don’t know if you’re working currently, but i’ve met some of my bestest friends from jobs ive had in the past. To get friends, you have to be a friend. You can’t make friends if people don’t know you/see that you are a friendly person.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 9, 2022 2:38 pm
    hey recently me and my boyfriend broke up and a week after i saw him at the bar with his new girl but then once i put two and two together i figured out he had been with her our entire relationship and was lying about going to another city to see his cousin but was going to see her. I had asked about her during our relationship and he ensured me it was his friends girl but now ive found out the entire truth i was being cheated on the whole time. im so hurt because i thought he was different and i did reach out to her because i was still seeing him after we broke up and didnt know they were dating so he cheated on her too. she fed into my concern for her but ended up going back to him and on top of that he ruined my chances with one of his good friends who i had been talking to because we are so compatible. i feel like ive lost so many people and created so many enemies from a situation that i am the victim in. Am i wrong for feeling this hurt and betrayed considering he was selfish enough to call me up and try to get me to fix his new relationship? i genuinely dont believe in love anymore and even my friends have a new perspective on relationships because of how hurt ive been
    • SLC replied:
      on November 10, 2022 2:25 am
      you’re 100% entitled to your feelings. He hurt you; in one of the most betraying ways at that. Being cheated on is not a good feeling, and I won’t sit here and lie to you, it might take a while for you to fully heal. But, that’s okay. Shit like this, you just have to take it day by day. Don’t think that you aren’t allowed to feel pain from this situation. However, don’t sit and dwell in that pain for too long either. I know right now you feel like the whole male species is probably evil, but they aren’t. A couple of men ain’t shit, but we can’t label all of them as such. I don’t want you to think that real love doesn’t exist for you. One dumb guy shouldn’t make you feel like you aren’t worthy of love. It’s out there for you, just take your time finding it. Especially right now. In terms of your ex….. F him. I want you to distance yourself from the whole situation. Meaning you need to remove yourself from anything involving him, his new girl and even his friend. It’s for your own peace. Out of sight = Out of mind. None of them deserve your energy. Heal from this situation in peace girl.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 4, 2022 12:36 am
    Hi My boyfriend Doesn’t want To a no fo an Answer com from me, whenever i tell him what he is doing is wrong and that he is violating my right, he tells me that he Ain’t gonna take it, he is so manipulative to an Extend that he even compAre me with his exes, He even tells me that If he finds out that i am communicating with other male people He is going To kill me and kill himself. Worse part he forces everything on me, including sex, he would tell me that i am abusing him, why should He ask When he feels Like sleeping With me, when i tell him we only dating not married and I have every right to say no to anything I feel uncomfortable doing, what he would say its dont drive me crazy You woman. I’ll do anything i want with and youll go whenever i say you can go. It’s just scary How he acts i am even scared myself.
    • SLC replied:
      on November 4, 2022 2:32 am
      babygirl, there is no reason why you need to be in a relationship with someone you’re scared of. He personally doesn’t sound right in the head, especially if he’s making death threats. I don’t know your full situation with him but I really think you need to end that relationship and cut all ties with him. If you need help doing that, please get it. Someone who doesn’t respect your boundaries is clearly showing that he doesn’t respect you. This all sounds too toxic and not healthy at all.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 3, 2022 4:24 pm
    I’ve been burned by love a few times. I’m in a place that I have done a lot of healing and self esteem work. I never really felt “deserving” of the things I have now. A wonderful family, amazing friends (even though my circle is pretty small), and a rewarding career. In everything else I’m thankful and grateful for, but I am currently failing at love. I want To meet my person and share a life, but the people I’ve come across have not provided me with the safety, understanding, and appreciaion I need. Recently got out of a “exclusive relationship” but only because I nipped it in the bud. I had to sit and have a conversation with my partner because he was showing me little reciprocity. Something changed in the past two months and he just wasn’t feeling the “spark hes used to” whatever that means. While I did take action, didn’t chase him, and cut things off real quick (even social media) it STILL hurts. How can I pick up on these red flags earlier? How can I keep the confidence i have in every Other area, in my love life?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 4, 2022 2:51 am
      Firstly, im so happy that youre able to feel deserving of all you have now. You definitely deserve to feel that way 100% so i love that for you. Now when it comes to the situation surrounding your love life, One thing about them red flags, people are good at hiding them until you get attached. That’s when the true colors loveeeee to come out. If the red flags are screaming at you from the jump, run. We love to give people the benefit of the doubt and that really ends u hurting us in the end. What you’re seeing is what you’re getting and if you’re not liking what you’re seeing… there’s no need to stay. I think in some situations where the red flags aren’t super apparent, you just have to follow your intuition (like you did). I know you might regret not picking up on the red flags sooner, but everything is a live-and-learn situation. So I feel like for whatever relations you get into next, you’ll be able to pick it out faster. You just have to keep the same energy with your love life , that you have with every other area in your life. You’re a successful woman, you should never feel like you can’t be that same woman when it comes to who you are in your relationships. The best advice i can give you, is to continue to keep growing and flourishing, the ‘right’ man will come along when he needs to. You aren’t failing at love, you just havent been with the person you’re meant to be with.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 3, 2022 8:00 am
    How can you just cope with losing a friend and stop thinking about the people who are just “mean to you”? I currently attend high school and most of the people here are just terrible. As a quiet person, I don’t really have as much friends. I have been trying to improve that and it’s working so far. But however I don’t really know how to cope with losing a friend. There was a friend from middle school I used to talk a lot too. Now we don’t. All of sudden he just starts acting mean to me. He would always say hi to my other friend and then looks at me and just walk away. To keep in mind, I never did nothing to this person. Im very sweet, so something like this was unusual to me. But, it’s been hurting me since.
    • SLC replied:
      on November 4, 2022 2:27 am
      hi love, tbh losing a person whether its a friend or a romantic partner, sucks. In terms of this friend, I think you should ask him what’s up. if you personally feel like you never did anything wrong to him and he’s treating you that way, thats not fair to you. Simply ask him if there’s an issue and from there see where it goes. Who knows, maybe he beleives you did something to him that you personally unintentionally don’t know about. Instead of worrying yourself with confusion, speak to him. The thing you gotta remember is that some people are just aren’t meant to be in your life forever. Even so, I’m proud of you for working up the courage to gain more friends and put yourself out there. You’ll eventually find your tribe, and you’ll find them just by being yourself.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 1, 2022 2:32 pm
    I am so unsure of my future and career and we are in the time where we needs to Sign up for College and trying to find stuff i might Would like but i really dont know and i just want A job i would really like and pays well well . What do i do ?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 4, 2022 2:19 am
      I suggest taking a year off and finding more of yourself. I hate to see people jump into a major right out of high school and then end up regretting it because they didn’t give themselves time to weigh out options and see what they truly want to do. Its okay to take a break if you need it. Find a job in the meantime and try to learn more about yourself and what you really wanna do. Obviously, you might not get the answers as fast as you want, but a break will definitely give you time to breathe and get a chance to figure out you. just a reminder though that interests change, and its okay to not fully have an exact set out plan for your future.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 15, 2022 3:07 pm
    How do You manifest what you want like is there any Methods to making your dreams come true?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 4, 2022 2:03 am
      you just have to firmly believe in what you want to manifest. If you want to be a millionaire you gotta believe that you are one, affirm it, act like it and take steps in the proper direction to ‘be’ it. It’s all in your thoughts/actions.
  • Someone asked:
    on October 10, 2022 4:27 pm
    This is going to be long so sit back and relax lol. So i have these family friends, One is the older brother(G)and his sister(K). Me and k are like sisters frfr. Usually when we hang out its me and k then G and my brother. I’ve had the LONGEST crush on g. There was one day that we were playing truth or dare, G told me that i remind him of his ex, which to me sounded like idk whether im his type or he hates it. Anyways, there was a party and G was drinking, he didnt want to get up to get a shot, so i asked if he wanted one, i got one for me and G. We drank like 8 shots but he was 4 beers ahead of me. So g was pretty tipsy/drunk. We were laughing and joking, then i told him we should drink some water. G leans up and grabs my water and starts to drink it even when K, my older brother, and myself told G that it was my water. He just said okay and continued to drink it. Later on i helped him inside so he can use the bathroom and we were just talking. Now he is a scorpio and its very hard to read him. He usually gets nervous or awkward when we say hi and i go for a hug. I cant tell if he likes me back. I dont know what to do. Whether its i should just tell him how i feel and hope for the best or to just wait until i see more obvious signs that he likes me. What do you think about all this lol.
    • SLC replied:
      on November 4, 2022 2:14 am
      hmmm since its a situation where y’all were drunk, i think it’s really hard to tell at the moment. A drunk mind vs a sober mind is two very different things so its not that easy to decipher whether he likes you from what you told me. Personally, i would say wait for more signs to see if he really likes you in that way or not, but make sure he’s sober. If there are more prominent signs that he’s feeling you and you feel like you wanna see how he feels for real then ask him. Like I said though, make sure the signs are C L E A R.
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