Is Your Boyfriend Not Listening To You When You Vent?

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Answers So Far..

  • Someone asked:
    on December 28, 2022 5:32 pm
    Hey bae. I’m typing this tired. I’ve thought long and hard. He asked to marry me a few days ago and even gave me time to think about it and when I tell you Ive thought long and hard. He lies about the smallest things or hides them from me. We aren’t dating. We were dating since last year till early this year. We broke up because we both wanted to heal. But I saw he liked one of his exes recent pictures (early December) to make matters worse, he went on a safari and she has pictures at the safari too (they went round about the same time). He doesn’t know I know. I didnt ask him. But he followed me like last week and he unfollowed me 3 days ago and I unfollowed him too. I had to double it and I made my account private. By the way, him and his ex were together for 7 years. I asked him if he loves me or loves how i make him feel and he said why cant it be both. Do I want this? I’m conflicted. I’m confused. I’m scared.
    • SLC replied:
      on December 29, 2022 1:55 am
      Hey boo💖 Listen this man sounds like he is emotionally draining. The following/unfollowing… the potential trip with his ex… the not being able to say if he loves you for you. It just seems like a roller coaster, especially if y’all aren’t even together no more. If he’s making you feel so conflicted, I just don’t think being with him is a good idea. Your man should give you comfort and peace … he’s giving you the opposite. And why is he even asking you about marriage if you two are no longer together …and then unfollowing you after? It just seems like he’s playing a lot of mind games right now; manipulation at its finest.
  • Someone asked:
    on December 10, 2022 8:43 am
    Hey dash Slc im obsessed with your page and your adivices and quotes you post😍. I wanted to ask you why none of my friend dont really like me even if i didnt do anything to them or say smth wrong, i asked them whats wrong, i tried to be more sweet to them and close but they still kept the same behavior with me. Do you have any advice what to do. I dont have any bestfriend because all of them found smth to be distant to me. I would be grateful if u help me with any advice . Best of wishes to u grls🫶🏻
    • SLC replied:
      on December 12, 2022 2:38 am
      hii boo, thank you so much I appreciate it💖 and to answer your question, those are not your friends! if they were your real friends they wouldn’t feel the need to brush you off, especially if you’re being sweet to them. Real friends would tell you what’s wrong and wouldn’t be playing mind games. My advice is to just let them be. If they don’t wanna be your friend then that’s on them and that’s their choice. You shouldn’t have to beg for friendship from anyone. There will be other people out there that will treat you as a real friend should. hope this helps!
  • Someone asked:
    on December 8, 2022 5:00 pm
    Am i Overreacting? Me and boyfriend were having sex and while doing that he checked his snapchat streaks for 15 seconds and later lied and told me he was checking his brothers location. I broke up with him for this. Am i being too dramatic?
    • SLC replied:
      on December 12, 2022 2:33 am
      im just confused?🥴 why would he even be checking Snapchat at all during sex??? Does he normally do that? Was he not paying attention to you during the whole thing? Do you feel like he’s being sneaky? i mean in terms of the breakup I feel like that situation alone isn’t the only reason why you ended it with him and if it is that just shows you two probably didn’t have any real substance to begin with.
  • Someone asked:
    on December 8, 2022 9:47 am
    Am i overreacting if i wanna break up with my boyfriend for following and liking a girls picture he Don’t even know? Our rule was To not like pictures from people we Don’t know and he still did it
    • SLC replied:
      on December 8, 2022 3:11 pm
      i personally don’t think you’re overreacting. You’ve obviously expressed the issue to him and if he agreed and that became both of your ‘relationship rule’ yet he’s still doing it, that is disrespectful. People may not see it as serious because it’s “just Instagram” but it’s not even about the pictures most times, it’s about the principle/lack of respect.
  • Someone asked:
    on December 7, 2022 4:20 pm
    What was the hardest thing for you business wise and how did you overcome it ?
    • SLC replied:
      on December 8, 2022 3:16 pm
      the hardest thing for me was just starting it tbh. I spent years ‘planning’ and overthinking with no actual movement and it just got to a point where I was like, if you want this, you have to START. Me, as a slight perfectionist, I wasn’t only scared of failure, I was scared of success too. It’s always a little nerve-wracking when you think about change and that is why it took me so long to just start; fear of the unknown, whether good or bad. Now I look back and I’m like yeah it was a struggle at the beginning, but as time goes on, I look at how much I’ve actually accomplished. For example, last year one of my December 2021 goals was to hit 3500 followers on SLC and this year my goal is to hit 36,000. You just never know until you start.
  • Someone asked:
    on December 7, 2022 6:48 am
    My Boyfriend is saying am too Quiet and not Comfortable in Communicating verb with him, so he has been Ignoring me for the Past two Months. Am an Introvert but He’s not Helping Either. Am I the Problem?
    • SLC replied:
      on December 8, 2022 3:22 pm
      As a fellow introvert myself, i understand where you’re coming from. Sometimes we just don’t feel the need to communicate. However, if this is your boyfriend, my question to you is are you actually comfortable around him? I tend to be quiet around people I’m not close with, but when it comes to people I am, sometimes i can’t shut up. Is the reason why you’re quiet around him because you dont feel like you can open up to him? I agree that he’s definitely not helping by ignoring you, but i feel like there might be a deeper reason that you’re not able to communicate with someone close to you such as your boyfriend.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 27, 2022 3:03 pm
    My boy Don’t give me at What shou i do ?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 28, 2022 1:44 pm
      sorry babes I don’t understand what this means😕
  • Someone asked:
    on November 27, 2022 3:53 am
    My boyfriend and i Have been Together almost 7months now and he has an baby on the way with another woman How do i go about this Situation because i dont wanna leave him but i do wanna leave cause it could get disrespectful in long run cause the baby is not my baby and it could be issue and complications with me even being around the baby we are still fresh so do i stay and try to work it out or leave and just start over
    • SLC replied:
      on November 28, 2022 1:54 pm
      I’m not gonna sit here and sugarcoat anything for you. It’s going to be hard. At the end of the day, this baby, with this other woman is something in his life that doesn’t (necessarily) involve you. You’re gonna come to realize that your boyfriend and this other woman are gonna be a family, whether they’re together or not and that’s something that you’re gonna have to have thick skin for. Since this relationship is fairly new, I personally think you’d be able to cut your losses and leave without feeling too deeply invested in him. The choice ultimately is yours though, you have to be the one to decide whether this man is worth it or not.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 26, 2022 6:17 am
    Is it okay to be insecure?
    • SLC replied:
      on November 28, 2022 1:48 pm
      I think it’s a natural human trait to feel insecure at times. We can’t always be confident 24/7 and that’s okay. Insecurity only becomes a problem when it starts to debilitate you and your everyday life.
  • Someone asked:
    on November 25, 2022 2:04 pm
    before i got into my relationship i use to take a lot of pride in my looks. I literally was always looking good because it made me feel good. But now with my boyfriend, i feel like ive just gotten so lazy when it comes to my looks. Do you have any advice on what i should do??
    • SLC replied:
      on November 28, 2022 3:02 pm
      I think that’s such a common thing in relationships, especially if y’all have been together for a significant amount of time. I know you’re probably just super comfortable in your relationship buttt that shouldn’t be the reason to ‘let yourself go.’ Looking good shouldn’t even be for other people, it should be for ourselves. So if looking good was your form of feeling your best, get back into dressing up and doing the things you were doing for yourself before your relationship. Not only will it make you feel better, but it’ll also give your boyfriend that lil reminder that ‘damn my girl is a baddie’.
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