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  • Someone asked:
    on January 18, 2024 1:23 pm
    One Relationship advice you Would give??
    • SLC replied:
      on January 19, 2024 2:48 pm
      the one main relationship advice is would give is to never compromise on how you want to be loved. So many people comprise how they want to be treated in a relationship because they don’t think they’re deserving of love that actually moves them. For example, if you love receiving flowers, let it be known.You shouldn’t have to feel sad every time you walk past a flower shop because you think you’ll never get any from your partner. If your partner isn’t loving/treating you how you want you need to communicate with them on it or simply leave. You deserve to be loved in the best ways possible. Never settle for no half ass love.
  • Someone asked:
    on January 14, 2024 10:40 am
    Do you Think It’s okay to rely on a man for money?? Isn’t that what princess treatment is all about?
    • SLC replied:
      on January 15, 2024 11:03 am
      listen i’m all for getting spoiled and having a man want to take care of me, however i would NEVER rely on a man for money. Baddies, please make sure you always have your own source of money and skills. Do not rely on a man for that even if he is paying for your lifestyle. That should just be a bonus. Because as quick as he can give it, he can easily take it away. Then what? You’re sitting here broke and alone or even worse, begging him to stay just losing all of your self-worth because now you depend on him. I will say though, it is a little different when it comes to actually being married and their partner being the provider, but i will always tell women to have their own income, even if it is a side hustle. Don’t depend on anyone financially. Also another thing, princess treatment has nothing to do with money majority of the time. Princess treatment is how a man shows you that he adores you. A rich dude can throw money your way but still treat you like shit. Ain’t nothing princessy about that. Simply getting money from a man does not equal princess treatment. Make sure you know the difference.
  • Someone asked:
    on January 13, 2024 10:19 pm
    What is love
    • SLC replied:
      on January 15, 2024 10:08 am
      i think love is whatever an individual makes it out to be. Theres no definitive answer because love can be a lot of things.I think the overall basis of love should be this unconditional acceptance and understanding of another person. I think love is protection. I think love is feeling safe/secure. I think love is trust. i think love is affection & adoration. i think love is a whole lot of emotions/feelings wrapped into one.
  • Someone asked:
    on January 13, 2024 10:51 am
    How do i stay firm in setting boundaries??
    • SLC replied:
      on January 15, 2024 10:17 am
      you stay firm in setting boundaries by showing them. You gotta STAND ON BUSINESS. Reinforce your boundaries through your actions. Its one thing to say ‘oh i don’t like the way you treat me please stop’ … and then continue to allow them to treat you in that way vs. saying i don’t like the way you’re treating me and if you keep doing so i don’t want any contact with you anymore; and standing on that by not speaking to them if they treat you in such a way again. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Don’t tell people your boundaries, show them.
  • Someone asked:
    on January 13, 2024 10:50 am
    Hi girl do you Think ‘friends with benefits’ situations can work out long term?
    • SLC replied:
      on January 15, 2024 10:32 am
      unless the two people in this friends-with-benefits situation are both understanding of what they’re getting into without one person having way more feelings than the other person (which happens in most cases), i personally don’t think they work out in the long run. FWB situations tend to fizzle out because some people can’t separate the physical investment from the emotional investment. Im not saying they can’t ever work, but if theres no clear rules or boundaries set/being followed… it can turn into a hot ass mess. If you know you like the person on a more intimate level, don’t finesse yourself into doing friends with benefits because i promise you, you’ll be the only one getting the short end of the stick.
  • Someone asked:
    on January 11, 2024 6:28 pm
    Omg i felt the urge to write you. Thank you for opening this up. I quit my job about a year ago aND moved across the country to start new. I wanted to start My online Business, but i feel off. I had to get a new job that doesnt pay the same and question if this is still all possible. To be wealthy, successful and truly live out my vision. Something tells me to work until i pay off the debt and quit again. I feel all alone figuering this out. Any advice sis??? ♥️🌹
    • SLC replied:
      on January 12, 2024 9:56 am
      hi boo, one thing ima say is that the universe (or God) will continue to put that passion in your head and have it nudging at you until you finally start it. All things are possible with the right belief system. Theres over 100000000 successful online business owners, so what makes them different from you? The only difference is that they actually started. The off feeling you have comes from fear. The good thing though is that fear and excitement can conjour up almost the same feeling within your body. “Fear and excitement are the exact same physical state in your body. The only difference is how your brain reacts to it.” All you have to do is transfer that fearful energy to excitement.“it’s possible to shift fear into excitement. If you convince your brain to perceive situations differently, you can finally see challenges not threats, solutions not problems, opportunities not obstacles – and fun, not nasty situations.” You can get that from researching more, looking at other peoples success stories and actually putting in steps to starting. Now in terms of your new job, yes i would say that you should work to pay off your debts. You still gotta be logical and financially responsible. But while you’re working this job, keep starting your business), your main priority. When you have your off-time, read, research, learn and start executing. Don’t quit unless you know you have enough money saved up to support yourself. You can start your business while still working your ‘9-5’. Just remember that your vision didn’t come to you for no reason. It may take time to fully live in that vision but it is not impossible. Stay inspired, stay faithful and stay optimistic.You got this boo!
  • Someone asked:
    on January 10, 2024 11:08 pm
    Hi. I recently found your instagram and i Find it to be very uplifting. I’m 22 years old and i feel Like im behind in life as i don’t have a car or License. I have a permit i renewrd at least 2 times now and have made barely any progress. I get very anxious behind the wheel and it’s embarassing. They are people my age or younger who have both. If i don’t get it by April, i have to redo my permit test and im trying to avoid that. I want any advice to help me obtain it.
    • SLC replied:
      on January 11, 2024 6:07 pm
      hi love, thank you, i appreciate you! Now i wont lie to you, i do not know how to drive and i’m in my mid 20’s. It’s just something i’m not interested in as of right now and tbh it really doesn’t bother me that i don’t. I relate to your feelings of being anxious behind the wheel; that’s probably an underlying reason why i don’t feel the need to drive as well lmao. However the difference between me and you is that you WANT your license. So with that being said you gotta put that fear to the side and get behind that wheel babe. You have exactly 4 months before you have to redo your permit test so you know what you gotta do? PRACTICE, PRACTICE AND PRACTICE SOME MORE. Ask one of your friends/family members to let you use their car to practice and just allow yourself to get more comfortable with it. Hire a driving instructor too if you need to. One thing about fear/anxiety is that the more repetition you do, the less and less they start to creep up on you. Make it a goal from now to practice 1-3 times a week if you can driving that way you’ll be more comfortable with it by the time you apply to get your license. You gotta do with with the sweaty palms and all. I promise you the more you practice, the more you’ll get the hang of it. I better hear back from you within a few months or so that you got your license! Im rooting for you boo💞
  • Someone asked:
    on January 10, 2024 8:14 pm
    I wanted to know how did you start Dash SLC? Like How you grew followers/audience? And what kind of work goes into doing a inspirational page like this? Also is your page anonymous? Like does anybody know who you are? If not what are the benefits in that and do you think its better that way?
    • SLC replied:
      on January 11, 2024 5:56 pm
      i started DASH SLC just as anyone starts anything, literally from the ground up. I knew that this was a passion of mine and so i knew that it was gonna be something i’d need to put effort and consistency into. I made sure to do some research beforehand on instagram tips/tricks, preplanned some content (my page looked way different when i started from how it looks now) and i just said to myself okay girl its time to start. I went from 0 followers to 100 within a day or two and i just kept going up from there. The way i grew up my audience was through consistency. Consistency is the name of the game when it comes to building up your social media. I didn’t necessarily post every day (i still don’t now), but i made sure to at least post on my story or engage with other accounts on a daily. There’s so many accounts i started with that are no longer active because they just weren’t consistent. I knew my ‘why’ and that just made it easier to stay committed to my page. Along with consistency you have to be engaging/socializing. I use to spend 30 minutes before a post and 30 minutes after a post just engaging with my followers or likeminded accounts. It helped me grow my community up and that hand in hand went with gaining more followers. People support you when you support them. It is literally a given. You just gotta show up, everyday even if its doing the bare minimum.The last thing i’d say helped grow my account was my content. I’m not gonna lie, whenever i create content i always think to myself ‘is this something that i personally would like?’ because in all reality, i’m MY OWN niche. I post for me and the girls like me and it hasn’t failed me yet. I’m always thinking of ways to make my content appealing/pretty because i know thats something that i would like to see/follow. At the end of the day instagram is all about aesthetics, so having aesthetically pleasing content helps a lot. I wouldn’t necessarily say my account is fully ‘anonymous’ because sometimes i will show my face on occasions (v rare occasions lmao), but i knew from the jump that i didn’t want this page to be about me or have me as the main focus. The main focus is inspiring women and i don’t need to be on camera to do that. I won’t lie to you, a lot of people who know me don’t even know about my page/what i do but i like it that way. And i can be real vulnerable and say that maybe a little part of it may just be from fear of judgement, but a big part of it is just again the fact that i’m a very lowkey person so separating myself from my page was just something i just knew i was gonna do. It works for me because i do like that sense of anonymity but everyone is different so. You just gotta do what works for you, and so if you’re like me then yeah keeping it more anonymous is beneficial. Hope this answers all your questions 😘
  • Someone asked:
    on January 10, 2024 8:30 am
    Is Holding onto a crippling relationship worth it? I feel like my man just Doesn’t care about me anymore and I’m the One trying to keep us together and work things out
    • SLC replied:
      on January 10, 2024 2:40 pm
      one thing i always say is never let a man tell/show you he doesn’t want you more than once. There is nothing to hold onto if you’re the only one holding onto it. I tell girls time and time again, do not stay in a relationship just so that you can say you’re in a relationship. Things don’t work out as we want to, and as sad as it is, it’s just how life goes sometimes. A lot of times things don’t work out so that you can receive even better in the future. You need to LET IT GO. You can do way better on your own. He don’t care about you? well guess what, you can care about yourself 10x more than relying on him to. no one has you like you have you. You don’t need to stay in something that’s sinking. let it drown.
  • Someone asked:
    on January 9, 2024 4:38 pm
    Let me start by saying i Absolutely love your instagram page and it comforts me and lifts me up. I be needing it on a regular so thank you for doing what you do and inspiring the girlies! My question i want to ask is how do you balance your life? With things like selfcare, hobbies, business etc, family, friends and relationships? I’m a single mom, work a 9-5, trying to find my God given purpose, digure out my career, my rel with my bf, family and friends as well as self care.. literally everything. But i have a hard time balancing everything. How to you plan scheudule your life and stay on top of routines or things that make you happy all at the same time? It’s stressful qnd at times feels like i dont have enough hours in the day for everything… is it even possible?
    • SLC replied:
      on January 10, 2024 1:32 pm
      aww thank you so much boo, thats what i’m here for💖 Now i’m not a mom so i can’t relate to that aspect, especially being a single mother at that (s/o you forreal queen!), however, i don’t believe it’s impossible to balance it all out. You just have to create a system that works for you. For myself personally, i use to be the biggest procrasinater, i never planned out my day and i always felt like i was pushing everything i needed to do to the last minute…. and then still not get it done. What changed my life was literally implementing to-do lists. I’d make one list for the entire week (ex. January 1st-7th) and i’d label it my ‘nonnegotiable’s‘ aka the stuff that MUST be done during the week like for example working out 3x during the week or planning out 4 posts i need for my page. You have to be committed to making sure they get completed though. Don’t make the list too long/unrealistic if you know you can’t manage all that. Just prioritize the main things you want accomplished by the end of the week. Split up your nonnegotiable tasks into different weeks if you need to (ex. this week you prioritize your self care and the week after you prioritize your relationships). Then after knowing my nonnegotiable’s for the week ,i write out my daily to-do lists, ex. if its January 3rd, i’d write out the day before or the morning of, all the things i need to do for that day. Since my nonnegotiable list is right at the top of my daily to-do list, i’m able to put in certain nonnegotiable tasks i have into my daily to-lists. That way by the time the week is done, i fulfilled all the things that i NEED to do in a more orderly fashion instead of trying to run around and do everything last minute. Now don’t get me wrong sometimes we just can’t do all that we need to do in a day and that’s just the reality of life. You aren’t super women, you’re hardworking mother trying to balance out her life. If you can’t finish all the little day-to-day tasks you have, it’s not the end of the world. However at least with the nonnegotiable list, you know you’re hitting/prioritizing the main things you want to accomplish for the week. Again, you have to make it work for you and your lifestyle, don’t try to do everything all at once. Prioritize. Prioritize. Prioritize. Another tip i would give to you is to read the book Atomic Habits by James Clear. There’s so many gems on there that can teach you how to create a routine and stick to it. I have a pdf link here for you as well https://ztcprep.com/library/story/Atomic_Habits/Atomic_Habits_(www.ztcprep.com).pdf (if it doesn’t work just dm me, i got you). Hope this helps, keep pushing boo!
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