Is Your Boyfriend Not Listening To You When You Vent?

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  • Someone asked:
    on January 31, 2024 6:31 am
    Hi, im just curious as to what you do for a living. I’m trying to find careers that allow me to travel and have fun.
    • SLC replied:
      on February 8, 2024 10:23 am
      hi love, currently i do work along the lines of social media/search engine analysis. However my main goal is to of course make dashslc my full-time job/business. My job is super flexible + work from home so i’m able to really focus on building up my business. There’s plenty of jobs out there that will allow you to travel/have fun, you just have to do your research. Ask yourself what you really want to do in this life career-wise. Whether its through creating your own business or having a job thats really flexible / in your preferred line of work, you just have to put yourself in the mind space/position to receive it.
  • Someone asked:
    on January 24, 2024 7:35 am
    Hey. I am not sure what to do. This finna sound a little complicated, I guess. I have a friend, C, who I have been friends with a long time. C has friends E (who i am “friends” with but we havent spoken in a bit) and T (who gives everyone a weird feeling and im not friends with). Both e and t have screwed c over time and time again. Shes cried over them many times. E has this family member d who i dated and he seriously messed me over (crying for months over him). E was adamant on not talking to d again because of what he did to me. That didnt last long. Now, c planned a big trip with t and e for her birthday. She let me know that e is bringing d and i let c know that i wont be attending. She just said she understood and that we can do something when she gets back. I feel (disappointed? Upset?) That c was ok with d coming instead of standing by me and saying he shouldnt come so that i can go. Then again, its not my trip. What do i do about c because im thinking of not being friends with her anymore. I feel like she will do anything to stay friends with e even after all e has done.
    • SLC replied:
      on January 25, 2024 10:31 pm
      girllll you have me decoding the alphabet with all these ABCD’S😂 anyhow, i completely understand why you’d feel betrayed by C for still going on the trip with someone whose hurt you (and someone whose even hurt her aka E & T). It does get sticky when we have friends who are friends with people we aren’t friends with, especially when an ex is involved too. I always say communication is a must even when its hard conversations, so i think you should have a talk with C and ask her why she is so okay with having your ex come on her trip over you, especially knowing how you two ended. It just seems like she doesn’t value your friendship enough because if anyone should’ve been booted off the trip its him. Respectfully. I’m all about loyalty and whether or not she was involved in you and your ex’s break up, she should have more loyalty towards you, knowing that you’re her long time friend and that the breakup hurt you. So yeah have a talk with her; you don’t have to attack her or anything, just simply ask her why you not being there isn’t a bigger issue for her and why your ex is even invited to the trip in general. If the conversation doesn’t end with a good outcome then distance yourself. You shouldn’t be in any relationship (friendship or romantic) where you’re not valued, loved and supported.
  • Someone asked:
    on January 23, 2024 7:16 pm
    Hey SLC, I love that i have this outlet first and foremost so thank you for your availability. So, im stuck. I feel stagnant and lost right now. I have some many ideas but also equal Amount of fears. I dont know where to start my mind is so cluttered and im a overthinking/perfectionist and i dont want to make moves unless i have everything figured out. Although i know thats absolutely INSANE thats just how my brain works. I want to change… i want discipline, hell i really just want to figure out what im supposed to be doing in the world but its so much pressure and so much im not confiident about anything. I’ve been spending more time with God because i know he is the only one with all the answers but i dont hear him or know what he wants or if he bot talking because he already told me and i just havent done my part but i just dont know. Now in frustrated. What can i do to get clarity or my mojo back? Or to just start period — a very lost girl
    • SLC replied:
      on January 25, 2024 10:02 pm
      hi boo and awe you’re welcome love thats what im here for.🤗 Now onto why you’re even here in the first place, let me just tell you something, girl you sound JUST LIKE ME. Feeling stagnant is such an irritating feeling, especially when you know you’re destined for so much more. I know right now you feel like everything is all over the place but thats only because you’re making it that way. You need to simplify your goals, wants and needs. First you gotta know you’re why, what is it that you’re passionate about? what idea do you have in your head that keeps popping up but you feel so overwhelmed to start it? What are the moves you been wanting to make; and WHY do you want to make them? Is it because it’s a passion? is it because these specific goals will lead you towards a life you want to live? Get super specific with your why’. It is literally the stepping stone to helping keep you disciplined. After that you need to figure out which steps you need in order to hit these goals. I know you’re overwhelmed because you’re thinking to yourself “shit there’s soo much i need to do to get to this specific point” LET GO of that thought. All you need to do is focus on the little things you need to do now. The baby steps are literally what is needed to hit goals. So for example if your goal is to be a content creator, write out the little steps you need to take daily, weekly and then monthly that will help push you closer to being a content creator. It could be as simple as making a to-do task of watching other creators talk about how they got into content creating or making a goal to save up $$$ for a new camera next month. LITTLE.STEPS. Your why will keep you disciplined because you’ll have a clear outline on why you need to hit your goals. However fear is a pain in the ass and it takes constant self-reassurance to quiet the fear down. It is your God-given right to live your best life. God wouldn’t be putting all these ideas in your head if He knew you couldn’t do it. Let that be your anchor in shutting out your fears. The only time you fail is when you don’t start. As long as you’re trying you cannot fail. I know you said you’ve already been trying to do it, but really speak to God in times of uncertainty, ask for guidance + direction constantly. “God does not put a dream in your heart without giving you the capabilities of achieving it.” Just start girl. Also perfectionism is just another form of procrastination you need to recognize when perfectionism is creeping up on you and affirm in yourself, “my worth isn’t based on my achievements” or “i am enough because i said so and it is not up for discussion.” Don’ think that you have to be perfect at everything you do. Nothing and no one is perfect so why stress yourself out aiming for something that isn’t possible? Lastly i have some video recommendations for you to watch, i hope they’ll help you in your journey as well. “How to ACTUALLY reinvent yourself for 2024| STEP BY STEP GUIDE TO CHANGING YOUR LIFE NOW!” – https://youtu.be/DKoz7IkrXM8?si=1szu2OVQpZdZFtJg “God Doesn’t Lead You To Failure | Changing How You Think Will Change Your Life” – https://youtu.be/nxXNPJufQuE?si=YVuUYMKTqM_mqx1i & “How to Exit Your “Lazy” Girl Era & Change Your Life | You’re Not Lazy or Unmotivated” – https://youtu.be/_1TDo5aBaLc?si=RGY3RpihiKx24TlX i’m rooting for you babe xoxoxo
  • Someone asked:
    on January 22, 2024 10:24 am
    Hi girl, I will try and make this as short as possible. I had a relationship for about 3 years. The whole time we were on and off. He was always the one that made the decision to end things. The break ups were super difficult. Our last break up was before summer, in september we started seeing each other again and now it feels like we back in a relationship. Only, his parents don’t know that we are seeing each other back, so it does feel like i am a sneeky link now. The reason why he always broke up with me is because he couldn’t give me what i was deserving and he kinda right tho. But i really just can’t let him go, he is really the person i wanna settle with. He also saying things like probably “i will regret this decision in the future or when i am seeing you with someone else.” This even makes it harder. He is really a good man but isn’t ready for this type of commitment. I am sooo tired of getting the bare minimum, i give a lot myself, that’s just how i am. Since september we started seeing eachother back every weekend, going out to eat etc.. so it does feel like we in a relationship again but things aren’t oficially and i don’t wanna bring it up. I want him to take the the first step. What should i do?
    • SLC replied:
      on January 23, 2024 6:51 pm
      girl you’re not gonna like what i’m gonna say but it needs to be said. I know you think this is the man that you wanna settle down with but i’m telling you wholeheartedly that he shouldn’t be. Being off and on for 3 years is enough of a sign to show you that this relationship isn’t working. He is basically telling you without saying the words that he does not want to commit to you. Never let a man tell you more than once that he doesn’t want you. He is literally telling you upfront that you’re going to regret your decision in being with him. LISTEN TO HIM. I know you think y’all have a future but the future you two will have is looking like more years on this off and on bullshit. Do you really wanna waste another 3 years? and listen i don’t doubt you, he may be a really good man like you’re saying, but that doesn’t mean he’s the man for you. You can’t make someone ready for what you’re ready for. If you wanna sit around and wait for him to make his decision then by all means do so, but i know you’re smarter than that. There are 7 billion people on this earth, i promise you, you will find a man who will be able to commit, will not have you feeling like a sneaky link and won’t give you the bare minimum. You just have to let go of this one first to get him.
  • Someone asked:
    on January 22, 2024 7:28 am
    Recently eloped no one knew we had 5 people with us which were Immediate family. We reached out to our friends after they ignored us and never called back its been 3 months since , is what we did a bad thing should we try reaching out again ..
    • SLC replied:
      on January 23, 2024 12:42 am
      i can see where your friends are upset, however i feel like if you guys have reached out to them with no response, you just have to let it be. No one is entitled to you and your partners intimate moments. You two made your decision as a couple and they just have to respect that. It was a special moment for the two of you, no one else needed to be there if thats the choice you both decided. Ultimately, as your friends they should just be happy for you two. However, if you do cherish those friendships, reach out one more time, give them an explanation on your decision and let them know you still care for them. If you get no response after that, let bygones be bygones; you did your part. They are grown enough to communicate why they feel the way they do. You can’t force people to communicate with you. They’ll come around when they want to, and then it will be your decision to decide whether you want them back in your lives or not.
  • Someone asked:
    on January 21, 2024 11:35 pm
    How do i tune out people who discourage me and put me down ?
    • SLC replied:
      on January 23, 2024 12:04 am
      by staying far away from them 🗣🗣 I know it may be easier said than done, and that we don’t always have the option of not being around negative people, but i would advise you to try your hardest to distance yourself from them. Also don’t internalize the crap that they’re telling you. People love to project their own insecurities onto others. Don’t let them do that to you.One of my fave quotes i just learned is ” No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” – Eleanor Roosevelt. “if you don’t allow harsh and critical people to pile negativity on top of you- if you outright reject it- they won’t be able to weigh you down.” Last thing i’d say is if you can (depending on who it is),let them know that their opinions aren’t helping you in any way and if they could simply stop. Keep shining and focusing on you!
  • Someone asked:
    on January 21, 2024 11:35 pm
    Hi, last year was a lot for me when it came to dealing with others. I worked at a job where my managers and coworkers didn’t respect me and one of them sexually harassed me. Furthermore, the only friend i had there dropped me and blocked me without an Explanation. Both of these incidences hurt my feelings a lot because i always had trouble fitting in and that most of the friends ive had never respected me and always made me the butt of the joke like my former coworkers did. I want friends who like me for who i am, care for me, value me , and are open to communicate if i did something to them that they didnt like instead of ghosting me.
    • SLC replied:
      on January 23, 2024 12:15 am
      firstly i’m so sorry that the sexual harassment happened to you, you definitely didn’t deserve that. Tbh you didn’t say, but i hope you’re no longer working there. No one needs to be in a place where they are getting mistreated. In my opinion, you honestly dodged a bullet with them ghosting you because why would you even wanna be friends with someone who disrespects you and would ghost you with no explanation. Some people are in our lives for a season. A lot aren’t meant to stay, this ‘friend’ sounds like one of those people. All the things you stated you want in a friend are things you deserve. Before even considering someone a friend, make sure all those key points are being met. You’ll find your tribe eventually boo. I have older q&a’s about how to make friends too so scroll down if you want some tips on that too.💖
  • Someone asked:
    on January 21, 2024 4:00 pm
    What some it girl hobbies ?
    • SLC replied:
      on January 22, 2024 11:51 pm
      some it girl hobbies include: 🎀🩰 fitness – yoga, pilates, dance classes, gym classes creative – painting/drawing/colouring, sewing/knitting/quilting, cooking/baking new recipes, learning how to do hair/nails (doesn’t have to be something to monetize, just a skill for yourself), photography, journaling educational– reading, learning a new language, trying out online courses on anything you’re interested in (finances, tech, etc)
  • Someone asked:
    on January 21, 2024 1:46 pm
    What do you think about manifestation?
    • SLC replied:
      on January 22, 2024 11:35 pm
      i think manifestation is one of the most simple yet complex things ever. As humans we manifest every single day without even realizing it. Manifestation is real and is law. Your thoughts reflect your world and that is basically the basis of manifestation; whether you’re manifesting good or bad things. Which is why it is so important to train our minds to think more positively, that way we are intentionally manifesting blessings our way. One thing i will say though that i think a lot of people misconstrue about manifesting and why people doubt it, is that it’s all about sitting down and thinking about what we want and that it magically will appear. That is not true, manifesting is asking, believing and then receiving. A lot of people get the ask part right but not the believe part. Believing is knowing undoubtably that it will come to you and with that, putting actions towards it so that you will receive it. Manifesting requires action, not just visualizing and affirmations. I learned a lot about manifestation through reading and researching. My first real read on it was ‘The Secret’ by Rhonda Bryne. I encourage anyone who is interested in learning about manifesting and the power of it, to read that book and others like it 📚✨. Manifestation is so so real and once you learn how to use it purposefully, it will seriously change your life.
  • Someone asked:
    on January 21, 2024 1:41 pm
    How do you become obsessed with yourself?
    • SLC replied:
      on January 22, 2024 11:23 pm
      Simply by catering to you first. You need to give yourself the attention, adoration and energy you deserve. Constantly ask yourself ‘what do i need in this moment’, and give yourself it. Your wants and needs to need to be your main priority. You need to be the main character in your life. You need to be okay with being selfish. This doesn’t make you a narcissist, this makes you someone who is okay with putting themselves first. At the end of the day this is your world, and you can’t pour from an empty cup. So with all that being said, focus on implementing self-care habits, set up boundaries, stop with the comparisons of other people/learn to focus on your own life, cater to your wants/needs on a consistent basis, and be selfish with yourself and what you put your energy towards!
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