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  • Someone asked:
    on February 12, 2024 5:12 pm
    Hi, I’m 20 bout to beHi, I’m 20 about to be 21 how can Spice my life in sexy Appeal . I have a baby face and I always get called cute or sometimes fine but how do you become sexy like I don’t know and deep down I still don’t feel my true age. I feel 18. I don’t really wear heels. I don’t know i feel behind any tips being my true sexy self.
    • SLC replied:
      on February 13, 2024 3:41 pm
      hi boo first and foremost, let me just tell you that you’re not alone, i’m 25 and i still feel like im 19 majority of the time. I’ve had people literally think i was 17 because of my baby face/petiteness. So don’t think that you’re alone in that aspect lol because i definitely feel you on that. However, now i embrace it because having a young soul will keep you youthful throughout every stage of your life. You’ll be 30 looking 20 and i personally think thats a blessing. But, i do know where you’re coming from in terms of not always wanting to be ‘cute’, as women, most of us want to have a certain sex appeal about ourselves. So with that being said, lets get into the tips. One of the most important factors in feeling sexy, is confidence. Look at Rihanna for example, the confidence she exudes makes her a sex symbol. And its not even confidence in a ‘im better than you way’, she just has that character about her that says ‘yes i’m the shit and i know it’. Confidence is a key factor in sex appeal, so if you feel like you don’t have enough confidence, learn to boost it. Make eye contact when talking to people, have good posture/body language, speak with confidence/self-assurance, etc. Fake it till you make it if you have to. Another tip is to look the part. When you think of your sexiest self, what does she look like? is her hair done? her nails on point? what perfume does she put on? what does she wear? what’s her style? (mind you, being sexy doesn’t mean you have to be half naked, the most sexiest women are the ones who ooze out sex appeal even while they’re fully dressed.) You said you don’t even wear heels, well this is your chance to go out and get some. When you’re going out wear the heels. Step into who you think is your ‘true sexy self’. My last tip would be to just work on your personality, aside from the confidence because thats a trait of your personality, to embrace the things that make you, you. Whether its your humour, your intelligence, how you treat people, your outlook on life, how you take care of yourself, your day-today habits etc., honour and embrace them. The sexiest thing a person can be is sure of who they are and what they offer.
  • Someone asked:
    on February 9, 2024 11:42 pm
    Should i ask my man to be my valentine?
    • SLC replied:
      on February 10, 2024 3:55 am
      now valentine’s day is all about love and its definitely not catered to a specific gender (ie. women), however i will say that when it comes to Vday, i am more traditional in the sense that i’d want my man to be the one asking me not vice versa. However, everyones relationship is different, for example some couples are good with 50/50, and some couples could be 80/20, whatever the case may be, whatever works for one couple might not work for the other. And theres nothing wrong with that. So with that being said, if you feel inclined to wanna ask your boo to be your valentine then who am i to say don’t do it? What i will say though, is you gotta know why you wanna ask him to begin with. If its because you don’t think he’ll ask you and thats something you actually care about, then you need to reconsider the dynamics of your relationship. Valentines Day is the one day that your significant other should be showing you EXTRAAA love. And most men know, that it is mostly catered to women. It is a societal norm that the man will put in more effort in making Valentines Day special. So if he hasn’t even brought it up yet or you know he has no intentions of doing anything for it… girl… thats a side eye. However if he’s acknowledged the day and you’re just doing it to be cute then go ahead. Either way, i hope you’re valentines day is full of love, whether its coming from yourself or him xoxo💌
  • Someone asked:
    on February 9, 2024 5:01 pm
    My 21st in 10 days any ideas? i should do ?im lowkey depressed but same time i wanna have fun but idk.
    • SLC replied:
      on February 10, 2024 3:41 am
      Firstly, i just wanna say im so happy you’re still trying to celebrate your birthday even with these feelings of depression. You deserve to be celebrated and enjoy your day. Just know that these feelings won’t last forever🤞🏾 Now to the ideas, even with it being 10 days away there’s still a bunch of things you can do. Ideas: – it may be too late to book a vacation (that would be my first option for you if you could), but you can still book a nice hotel in your city and have a staycation, you can do it with your friends or do it solo if want – karaoke bar, not sure where you’re located but i think every karaoke spot has options where you could book out a room for a few hours and have drinks/food while singing and vibing out – Dinner – listen it may be basic but a good birthday dinner never gets old and always comes clutch – you can rent out a party bus and turn up – spa day, similar to the staycation, you can book a spa day and just relax/get pampered – clubbing/lounge – similar to the party bus, you can book a booth at a club and turn up with your people – pole dancing class – for my 20th i actually booked a pole dancing class for me and my girls and it was sooooo much fun – do a birthday photoshoot Happy advanced 21st birthday boo, i hope you enjoy every second of it🥳💖
  • Someone asked:
    on February 9, 2024 3:29 pm
    Hey girl, so i’ve had a crush on this kid for the longestt time and he Finally hit me up. We’ve been talking for a while now but i feel like im just not good Enough for him and I feel as Though he is out of my League. He is very nice and Keeps Reassuring me of his Feelings, Compliments me, communicates, Everything. How do i get over this feeling?
    • SLC replied:
      on February 10, 2024 3:27 am
      baby you gotta get that self-esteem up! You gotta start prioritizing your self-worth and raising your confidence up. I’m so happy he’s reassuring you and being intentional, but even without his validation, you should be confident in who you are and what you have to offer. He is not only pursuing you, but reassuring you as well. He clearly wants to be here so let that mindset go. “A good thing is just that, so don’t overthink it.” Let him be good to you, don’t let these limiting beliefs allow you to self-sabotage. Affirm in yourself your worth, idc if you gotta tell yourself 100 times a day that you’re worthy, but do it if needed. You also need to dig deep within yourself and do some groundwork. You need to figure out why you don’t think you’re good enough and start debunking those limiting beliefs. You are the prize. Forever and always. Never forget that.
  • Someone asked:
    on February 8, 2024 1:11 pm
    Hi Slc, I met this guy last year Ending, we had Such a Great Time and maDe so much good memories. But then i had to leave that city due to some certain issues. I told him about this and he felt bad at first but he said it was alright that we will be okay regardless, he also promised to visit me and be there for me always. During my travel, he supported me all the way. He kept encouraging me to not be worried about the change and situations. When i got to the city, after a while i noticed he stopped texting as much, no calls, late response. I gently asked if he was okay and i told him about the energy change. He said we are good, that he is never not talking to me. But it kept getting worse. He started viewing my posts but leaving me on delivered. I got upset and i blocked him but then my heart hurt, so i unblocked thinking we could talk. But nothing from him. What do i do Slc? My heart is really hurting. Did i make a mistake blocking him so fast? I think he’s upset i blocked him, because he mentioned it and after that said nothing. Did i overreact? Since I stopped talking to him, i noticed he has been posting really sad songs and lyrics but he is not even trying to re connect or something. I am confused, what does this mean? Why Hasn’t he said anything yet? Why does he prefer to post sad things and write ups? I want to talk to him so bad but i want him as the man to make the first step. Am i wrong for this? For once i just want someone to fight for me🥺.
    • SLC replied:
      on February 8, 2024 9:34 pm
      im going to be honest with you babe, it sounds like he lost interest after you moved away. There’s clearly been an energy shift from how he treated you when you were in the city vs how he treated you after you left. The late responses, no calls, leaving you on delivered are all signs of someone whose clearly not that interested. And don’t get me wrong, i’m not saying that he was probably never interested or wasn’t willing to try after you moved away, but some people just can’t do long distance. i don’t think you made a mistake in blocking him, he was giving mixed signals and your emotions came in the way, its human. At the end of the day i don’t think you blocking him had anything to do with his loss of interest girl. I think if he really wanted to reach out and reconnect he would. He showed you how he felt by being distant after you left and so you have to see it for what it is. In reference to the subliminal posts, he could be doing that because he’s in his feelings or because he wants attention, it could very well be for another girl too, who knows🤷🏾‍♀️. All we do know is that the effort you deserve from him isn’t there and so i think its best if you cut your loses and let it be for right now. Maybe one day when you’re back in the city it could work out, you never know; but as for right now, the long distance clearly isn’t for him and you shouldn’t be putting yourself through pain trying to guess how he’s feeling.
  • Someone asked:
    on February 8, 2024 8:37 am
    Is this nigga really so Narcissistic that he cant see im whats good for him and his current situation is leading him down the wrong road and i dont have to lie to him about anything?
    • SLC replied:
      on February 8, 2024 10:25 am
      now i don’t have the whole back story but lemme tell you, if a man can’t see that you’re good for him and you feel like you have to CONVINCE him that you are ….. baby.. run! He’s not ready for you and at the end of the day, you can’t force nobody to be ready for you. Save yourself the time and energy.
  • Someone asked:
    on February 7, 2024 11:03 pm
    Hi hi ive seen your posts on February being the month of love so my question is how can i be patient while waiting for love?? I’ve never been in love and i really cant wait to Experience it
    • SLC replied:
      on February 8, 2024 11:16 am
      you gotta focus on yourself. Right now is the best time to prioritize yourself, so enjoy the journey of it all. You say you’ve never been in love, but your first love really should be yourself. Learn who you are. Learn what you want out of not just relationships, but yourself as well. The relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship there is; and it will aid you in how your relationships with other people will be. Remember that the best things find you when you aren’t constantly looking for it. Everything happens in due time. Trust the path you’re on babe. Don’t obsess over wanting to be in a relationship bc when people do that, they end up in situations where the relationship is not genuine and rushed. Your ‘person’ is gonna come along, but until then be that ‘person’ for yourself.
  • Someone asked:
    on February 7, 2024 3:40 pm
    Hiii girl💗 love your page!! What’s something cute i can do for myself for Valentines day??
    • SLC replied:
      on February 8, 2024 10:55 am
      hi boo tysm💖 There’s so much things you can do with/for yourself this Vday! – get yourself flowers ( i don’t care, no one can ever make me think that’s corny) – pamper yourself ie, get ya nails done, hair done, lashes done (if you were them), facial etc. – take yourself out on a date, i think solo dates are so important, go to the movies, take yourself out to eat, go to the spa, book a staycation for yourself, it can even be as simple as just going for a drive or a walk and just vibing out alone – write a love letter to yourself – valentines day is all about love and one of the most important loves there is, is self love I’m so proud of you for even acknowledging that you can enjoy valentines day just for yourself. Hope these lil ideas help, enjoy your Valentines Day boo
  • Someone asked:
    on February 5, 2024 10:29 am
    How Do i start doing what i want to do without feeling the need to ask my family for their opinion? I feel like i can never make decisions on my own
    • SLC replied:
      on February 8, 2024 10:38 am
      you need to stop letting your family/friends validate your emotions. You’re allowed to make decisions even if other people don’t agree with them. The more you start relying on other people’s opinions for everything, the more crippling it can become. Validate yourself. Make your own choices. Be okay with making mistakes, thats how we learn and grow. Affirm in yourself that your voice matters. Next time you wanna do something, don’t ask for any opinions, just do it. It’ll feel a lil scary at first, but i promise you, it’ll be the start of you being more confident in yourself. Also next time your friends or family give you an unsolicited opinion, just tell them you appreciate it, but you’d rather make your own decision. slowly but surely you’ll start trusting/relying on yourself <3
  • Someone asked:
    on February 2, 2024 7:54 pm
    What’s one thing You’ll never do again?
    • SLC replied:
      on February 8, 2024 10:15 am
      thats a really good question. i think the one thing i’ll never do again is put someone else’s feelings/emotions over my own. I’m an empath, and also used to be a big people pleaser, so with that came a lot of scenarios where i would put my own wants/needs on the side and cater to everyone else’s. I wasted a lot of time especially relationship wise doing that when i should have honoured my own wants instead. I’ve learned to make sure that my empathetic ways doesn’t come in the way of my own needs/wants.
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