Is Your Boyfriend Not Listening To You When You Vent?

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Answers So Far..

  • Someone asked:
    on February 27, 2024 3:28 am
    What’s the key to life?
    • SLC replied:
      on March 1, 2024 6:04 pm
      Hmm i think the key to life is loving yourself. you gotta be obsessed with yourself honestly. obsessed with your dreams, your goals, your desires etc. You have to love yourself more than you love anyone else because thats the only way you’ll truly be self-fulfilled. Learn yourself, know yourself and honour yourself.
  • Someone asked:
    on February 23, 2024 12:06 pm
    Hi sister. I need your help. I just started a faceless IG account. I followed my Intuition to learn about about digital marketing. I Literally invested over 15K on learning how start on online buSiness and since had imposter syndrome for the longest. So now im finally here .. starting. Any tips for begGiners in social media? Where do you get your inspiration from ? How to stay consistent? And most of all how did you know this is whats right for you ? Thank you so much 💕✨
    • SLC replied:
      on March 1, 2024 6:32 pm
      hi my love, firstly so sorry for the wait, im definitely not a tech girl and sometimes with site be acting up😭 regardless, im here now and i hope you still see this. Firstly congratulations for finally starting! Tbh thats the biggest roadblock when it comes to even building up on social media.. tbh it’s the biggest roadblock for hitting any goal. So be very proud of yourself for putting in the time/investing into your craft. In terms of tips, i do have some in other questions but i’ll just sum them up again for you here. My main tips are to stay consistent, engage with other accounts, create quality content (dont just post to post, i promise you do not have to post content EVERYDAY to be successful. Quality > Quantity), Use promo when necessary, and utilize hashtags/trending audios! Now to answer your other questions, when it comes to inspiration, i am my own inspiration. I post things for the girls just like me. The things that i wanna see and that would make me be like ‘okay i need to follow this account asap’. I think the fact that i am my own inspiration makes it easier for me because all my content is authentic, whatever topic i post about whether its about relationships, money, or just a post about feeling yourself, it’s all stuff that i personally find motivation from/would wanna see. Staying consistent is a lil hard i won’t lie, but the two main things that keep me consistent is 1. my ‘why’ & 2. knowing that i am helping someone. i know that starting up a brand by me made for women like me is my passion and thats what keeps me going. This is something that i want to continue to nurture and grow and consistency is the only way its going to happen. So even when i feel lazy i make sure i show up. it could be as little as spending some time liking others content or posting a story; regardless i show up daily. This also ties into my second main fact of knowing im helping someone. I always get little messages thanking me for a post that was really needed or a story that really inspired someone; and thats what makes me show up daily too. You never know whose day you’re making just by showing up. i’ve always felt like that too, whether i had 300 followers or 30,000; knowing that i helped at least one person motivates me into making sure im consistent/showing up. To answer your last question of how i know this is right for me, it literally just feels right. I feel happy creating, engaging and supporting other people. Its not to say that one day i won’t find another passion, but for now this is what i love doing and thats why i know its right for me. hope this helps and i hope your account continues to grow and grow 💖
  • Someone asked:
    on February 18, 2024 4:06 am
    What exactly is self love? I don’t think i honestly really understand this. I keep hearing you have to love yourself first then you can let the right love in. Please what is the best explanation for self love and how can one successfully accomplish that? Thank you!
    • SLC replied:
      on February 19, 2024 12:38 pm
      hi my love! For me, the definition of self-love, is loving yourself unconditionally. What i mean by unconditionally is a love without conditions, as in right now. Not “i’ll start loving myself once i lose this weight” or “i’ll start loving myself once i’m more successful.” No – it means loving yourself as you are right now; even if you don’t feel successful, or pretty or at your goal weight. It’s about loving yourself with flaws and all. With that, i think self-love also involves pouring into yourself, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, etc. Doing things that you not only enjoy, but will make you your best self. When we thinking of romance love, we want the best for our partners, we wanna see them win because we care for them so much. It’s the same thing when it comes to self-love. You are your biggest cheerleader. You want the best for yourself because you know you deserve it. Different ways to incorporate self-love into your daily routine can be by setting boundaries, saying affirmations, indulging in self-care activities, release negative thinking, respecting/nurturing your values, giving yourself grace – especially when you ‘fail’, and investing in your growth. Self-love is different for everyone, but for me, this is the basis of the definition. Hope this helps, keep loving on you!
  • Someone asked:
    on February 17, 2024 2:22 pm
    I feek like i am closing mySelf off from opportunities because i am shy and scared . When its even amassador or going out what should i do i feel like i am just leaving life on the safe side with few adventures but i know i want more out of life expecially since my first year of college and dorming
    • SLC replied:
      on February 19, 2024 12:14 pm
      you just have to go for it. Literally say f the shyness and put yourself out there. Stop labeling yourself as ‘shy’ or ‘scared’, i used to do that all the time when i was dealing with my social anxiety. I realized that putting myself in that category was subconsciously stopping me from feeling confident and speaking to people. You have to do things even when you’re scared. It’s crazy because most of the time people don’t even realize it. You’ll be in your head critiquing everything you’re doing while everyone else things you’re acting perfectly fine. Start of small, go to events or outings little by little and give yourself little challenges while you’re out. It could be as easy as smiling at 3 strangers or complimenting someone. The more exposure, the better! You don’t want to look back on your college years with regret that you missed out on opportunities because you never put yourself out there. So start small, start simple, but most importantly, start today🤞🏾
  • Someone asked:
    on February 17, 2024 8:08 am
    So the guy im talking to for 6 months didnt do anything for me for Valentines day. He Had work but he Barely even Acknowledge it. He Just said happy valentines day after i had Texted him that first in the morning. i dont even know how to feel rn
    • SLC replied:
      on February 17, 2024 12:11 pm
      im so sorry but if the man you’re giving your energy to can’t do something for you, let alone acknowledge the day first… you need to leave him tf alone. Granted yes, it was on a Wednesday and people had work; however that didn’t stop millions of people from still celebrating the day. That just shows you how he feels about you. Flowers are like $10.99, a box of chocolate is like $5… girl even GREETING YOU A HAPPY VALENTINES IS FREE. 6 months is a good amount of time to be showing effort and literally the bare minimum he couldn’t do. i’m sorry to say , but he clearly isn’t feeling you like you might of thought he did. I know its such a shitty feeling to feel unappreciated, but at least you’re being shown this now before you could potentially waste more time. Cut your losses with this one and a man who can actually put in effort, romance you.
  • Someone asked:
    on February 16, 2024 9:24 pm
    Hey💋my name is Gabrielle. I’m 19 years old. Around two years i decided To enroll in cosmetology school and i graduated And enrolled to take my state board and passed and Received my cosmetology license. Im a makeup artist i recently started in January but everything is just so slow which is expected but its just making me doubt Because i dont have a job right now and ive been applying to a few but theyre not reaching back. And its like i just find myself in doubt because i want to make this year for myself and my business but Everything is just moving so slow. I’ve prolly had one client out this two months. I just dont know. I dont really plan on Going to college Because the beauty industry is my passion. And i know im on the right path but things arent moving steady for me. That’s how i feel. Idk what do you think. I just find myself Waking up everyday trying to find ways to go hard for my busIness becAbuse there is nothing else. I can do. I just feel stuck.
    • SLC replied:
      on February 17, 2024 11:21 am
      Hi Gabrielle😘 Lemme tell you something firstly, if you have a passion, pursue tf out of it! Doing anything else is a disservice to yourself. You have the passion and you have the motivation so keep grinding. I know you feel like you’re not where you want to be yet, but guess what? that’s how most businesses start out. We gotta start from 0 to get to 100. Nothing ever takes off immediately. You cannot let that feeling of self-sabotage get the best of you. When i started DASH, i was confused asf, i had dropped out of college twice and just knew school wasn’t for me. What i did know though was that i had this passion to help women/be my own boss and i let that passion guide me. When i created that page, i barely got likes let alone followers. There’s so many times where i would be asking myself if this was even worth it, but look at where the page is now? Imagine if i let those self doubts get to me? You gotta be stronger than your fears boo. Grind, grind and grind some more. Consistently post your work (learn how to use social media to your advantage), offer makeup lessons, build up your clientele, engage with other people in your field, keep applying to beauty related job; just keep hustling. It will all pay off. You’ll look back and be like “omg i remember when i was just getting one client a month, now my schedule is booked & busy.” I believe in you sis🤞🏾
  • Someone asked:
    on February 16, 2024 11:25 am
    what are some good money affirmations to say??
    • SLC replied:
      on February 17, 2024 11:45 am
      ouu my fave type of affirmations💸✨ 1. I am a magnet to money 2. Money flows to me easily & effortlessly 3. I have a wonderful relationship with money 4. Money comes to me in unexpected ways 5. I love money & money loves me 6. Money is always readily available to me 7. I have more than enough money to pay all of my bills 8. All of my debt is paid in full 9. I have an abundance of money 10. I always have more than enough money 11. Money is always flowing to me 12. I am able to buy whatever I want whenever
  • Someone asked:
    on February 15, 2024 11:02 am
    Hi gir, few weeks ago i sended a message about an on/off relationship for the past 3 years. Last 2 days i noticed that he was replying slower than normal and it was bothering me cause i knew he was not busy. Yesterday evening i called him asking if there is anything going on and he first replied “no”. We were talking about other things for a moment and then he start speaking his feelings out. Again, for the 8 time he said that he don’t wanna be in a relationship, that he wants to cut all contact. This hurt ofc very much cause i didn’t saw it coming. I thought everything was good especially when we were making a lot of future plans. Now after yesterday’s phone call, he blocked me immediately everywhere. I whish things wouldn’t end like this. I can’t think even straight now, how you go from being in love & blocking the person in just a few days?? Just don’t get it. I know that eventually i will get over this but urgh this one is gonna take a lot of time 🙁
    • SLC replied:
      on February 17, 2024 11:08 am
      hi love! honestly i think this was for the best. This relationship clearly wasn’t going anywhere and the only thing holding the both of you back was the ties you two have to one another. Like you said, you will eventually get over it and that’s all that matters. Allow yourself to hurt and mourn the relationship, but also make sure you’re bossing yourself up as well. Sometimes disconnections from people are literally blessings in disguise. You’ve spent the last 3 years going back and forth with this man. It’s time to reclaim all that time back and focus on better.💖
  • Someone asked:
    on February 14, 2024 5:23 am
    All my life i have never felt loved by the men that i love, no matter how good i am they dont Reciprocate unless i walk away then they see me but during the relationship its Like im invisible my worth is not seen. I watch them be all the things i wish they were to me to other people. I give my all but they give me nothing. It’s been the same thing everytime, i feel like the man in the relationship i never get treated like a lady , only when i complain of their actions they put me down. What am i doing wrong please i am really tired and scared that it may never change. Should i stop being a nice person? Should be rude and mean? Should i become emotionally unavailable? Will they see me then? I’m really broken and everyday i get more broken. No one to stand by my side. I feel like i was only meant to give love and not receive it back. I feel so caged my whole life. I just want to be free, healed and happy.
    • SLC replied:
      on February 17, 2024 10:53 am
      hi boo, tbh there’s nothing wrong with you, the only thing you’re doing wrong is focusing on the love these ‘men’ should be giving you, rather than the love you should be giving yourself. Im a firm believer in the fact that you shouldn’t go searching for things, it should find you. The problem is you’re looking for love from the wrong men. Someone is going to be able to love you exactly as you are; without having to be rude/mean or emotionally unavailable etc. You shouldn’t have to change yourself to be able to find someone to appreciate you. The fact of the matter is that the ones you have been with in the past just aren’t for you. I feel as though you may know that too but choose to ignore it in hopes that it will somehow turn out how you want it to. You’re allowing yourself to take whatever you get because you wanna feel loved. You’re operating from a scarcity mindset. When we operate from a scarcity mindset we think this is all we deserve, we end up settling because we think we can’t get more. You shouldn’t have to be in any situation where the energy is not reciprocated. The second you realize that that is the dynamic happening, you have to respect yourself enough to leave it alone. When you switch from a scarcity mindset to an abundant mindset, you realize you don’t have to settle because you know better is coming. Now, I don’t necessarily know where you’re longing of needing to feel loved/accepted comes from (it could stem from childhood, past rejections, etc), however, you need to learn to give that love to yourself. No man is ever gonna fill that void, because it needs to be filled by you. Learn to be okay with being single and enjoying the journey of self love. Here’s a video that i think will help you too on being okay with being single – ‘HOW TO BE HAPPY DURING YOUR SINGLE SEASON’ https://youtu.be/Z68BCJncR_o?si=p3r0b8_ENjbeCkQK . I truly hope you’re able to love yourself the way you deserve to be loved. Like i said in the beginning, someone is going to love you just as you are one day, but until then, make that person be you.
  • Someone asked:
    on February 13, 2024 3:14 am
    How do i know if a man is over me? He says he loves me but i feel like things Aren’t the same anymore & He’s been more distant
    • SLC replied:
      on February 13, 2024 3:46 pm
      you’ll know a mans over you when he stops doing the things he originally did to get/keep you. If you have to even second guess if he’s still into you thats all the signs you need right there. If that initial spark is gone, less communication, theres no effort being put into the relationship, no emotional connection, those are all signs that he’s probably no longer emotionally invested in you.
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