Is Your Boyfriend Not Listening To You When You Vent?

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  • Someone asked:
    on March 29, 2024 8:35 pm
    I dont know why but i feel like my standards are getting in the way of my dating life. I just feel like everyone makes it seem like im asking for too much when all im really asking for a little better than the bare Minimum
    • SLC replied:
      on April 4, 2024 3:36 am
      Are you asking for too much or are you just asking the wrong person? Baby as long as you’re on you’re shit, you don’t gotta lower your standards for nobody. Don’t be out here settling. You’ll regret it in the long run. Anything you want is and can be yours. You’re allowed to stand on whatever standards/boundaries you set. Never have a scare mindset when it comes to relationships, there is someone out there who will go above and beyond for you. You deserve waay more than the bare minimum, dont let these people trick you into settling for less than you deserve mammas
  • Someone asked:
    on March 20, 2024 4:30 pm
    Hi girl so Am i in the wrong? Everyone knows my friends man is a player and is cheating On her and so i showed her this dm of him messaging one of my homegirls (My two friends don’t know one another like that) and told her to leave Him and instead of thanking me she got mad at me and said im Obsessed and need to leave her relationship alone … should i not have said anything? like wtf girl He’s a whole cheater and shes being so dumb
    • SLC replied:
      on April 4, 2024 3:46 am
      Honestly girl, you can’t save everybody. As the saying goes “those who don’t hear, will feel” , your friend clearly doesn’t want to accept the fact that her man is a cheater and you’re just gonna let her have to come to that conclusion on her own in her own time. Some people are so stuck in their own delusions that it keeps them in toxic situations. When she’s ready to step into her worth she’ll leave that man. You are a good friend for telling her but from now on you gotta respect her wishes and ‘mind your business’.
  • Someone asked:
    on March 19, 2024 3:41 pm
    Hi, i wanted to ask you if you happen to know any Work from home jobs that pay over 15 dollars an hour and that will even train people? Anything that can help? I recently lost my job at Amazon from working there for 4 months since December last year. I was saving up for a car and my boyfriend use to take me to work with him.
    • SLC replied:
      on April 4, 2024 3:25 am
      hiii my love im so so sorry this was late it was hidden in my archives, i hope you’re in a better spot as of recently💖 Now, itt really is based on where you live but there are some WFH jobs you can apply to and work like OneForma, Telus International Ai, teemwork.ai, Appen. You can also go on flexjobs/ziprecruiter to see WTH jobs specifically in your area as well. If you have a freelance service you can provide (web design, personal assistant etc) then you can make an account for sites like fiverr, upwork, Freelancer.com and find work that best suits you.
  • Someone asked:
    on March 15, 2024 1:32 pm
    What are your thoughts on Mending old friendships?
    • SLC replied:
      on April 4, 2024 3:30 am
      think there’s nothing wrong with rekindling out friendships as long as you’re sure its the right move for you. We have to remember that sometimes people aren’t meant to be in our lives forever and when God shows you that their season is done, it could be time to let go. However I know that certain situations/obstacles can push people apart and sometimes space is needed to then heal, hold ourselves accountable, properly communicate, and fix the issue, in order to come back together again. As long as you’re both mature, ready to forgive and let the past be the past, then I say go for it. Just make sure not to rush the process, they may not be the same person you knew when you two were friends and vice versa, so don’t go into it expecting to be as close as you once were again off rip. Still give each other that grace and let the friendship grow again as time goes by.
  • Someone asked:
    on March 10, 2024 11:55 am
    Why is this generation of men so Obsessed with being chased?
    • SLC replied:
      on April 4, 2024 3:15 am
      Yes there’s this whole new social media epidemic where ‘men wanna be the bad bitches/the prize’, but realistically I think men only want to be chased by women they don’t like or see themselves with in the long run. It’s in a mans nature to be the hunter/chaser. No man who truly wants you is gonna sit up and have you chasing them around. Men know that women are the prize. They will go for what they want. So if you go around treating/chasing a man like he’s the prize, the roles will be reversed and you won’t be happy lol. Again, men will always chase what they want so if you’re the one whose making the first move, reaching out to him constantly, asking him out on dates etc, he’s just not that into you.
  • Someone asked:
    on March 3, 2024 11:41 am
    Hi girl, my relationship of 3 years end 2 weeks ago. I know healing is a process but i really can’t see myself getting over this. I really wanted it to be him. I pictured myself having kids with him. It’s sooo difficult to just let him go. I also don’t know the reason why he made this decision to end things. The past 3 years i was a womde girlfriend to him & supported him in every way i could. He blocked me also everywhere, really don’t know why i deserve this. The thought that he later on will probably date other girls makes me sick. Now i question myself: why wasn’t i good enough? I have my own apartment, i have my own business, i go to the gym. I don’t party/smoke/drink. But this that wasn’t enough. I really don’t get it.
    • SLC replied:
      on March 5, 2024 1:17 am
      hi my love, first things first, you can be the best person in the world and still have people not appreciate you. The only thing that will make someone want to stay with you, is if they truly want to. It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him just not wanting the relationship no more. This is a similar concept we see with cheating. A man will cheat on the most beautiful or successful woman ever and everyone wonders ‘omg how could he cheat on her she’s a baddie’ or ‘she’s the perfect woman’ etc.. Her being the ‘perfect’ woman has nothing to do with him cheating because the only thing that stops a man from cheating …. is the will to not wanna cheat. point, blank, period. So don’t think that you’re not enough because he ended the relationship. If you were this wonderful girlfriend like you said, theres literally nothing you could’ve done. Sitting up contemplating what you did wrong is unproductive because you may never know why he truly ended it. You have to be able to come to the terms that he just wanted out and thats the hard but honest truth. As you said, healing is a journey and it won’t be an easy one but i know you’ll get over this. It may seem so impossible right now because you’re heartbroken but babe, you will be okay. Don’t rush the process, allow yourself to grieve the relationship and give yourself time to move on. You may not see anything positive from it right now, but in the long run you’ll be able to. This is your time to focus on you. Girl you’re doing better than most people with your own business and apartment etc, use that to keep you not only motivated but proud of yourself. Keep reminding yourself that you can only go up from here. I know you can and will💖
  • Someone asked:
    on March 2, 2024 10:20 am
    What does maturity look like to u?
    • SLC replied:
      on March 3, 2024 2:55 am
      Discipline, Emotional intelligence, confidence, kindness, a firm sense of self, self-accountability, and assertiveness are all signs of maturity to me
  • Someone asked:
    on February 29, 2024 6:49 pm
    How can i stop feeling guilty for enjoying myself or having fun, i always Feel like i should be working Or hitting some sort of goal instead
    • SLC replied:
      on March 1, 2024 7:09 pm
      you only got one life to live, you better enjoy it to the best of your ability!!! I’m a firm believer in the fact that we weren’t put on this earth to just work and suffer. There has to be more to life than that. There is nothing wrong with having fun and you should absolutely not feel bad for it. You do not want to look back at your life one day and think to yourself.. ‘damn all i did was work, i never actually made any fun memories/experiences.’ So enjoy your life right now. Anytime you feel a bit of guilt creeping up, affirm to yourself “I deserve absolute and unconditional bliss” or “I was put on this earth to live life to the fullest”. Work will always be there, constantly working doesn’t = success or happiness. You have time set out time to enjoy yourself. You are more than deserving of it.
  • Someone asked:
    on February 29, 2024 2:46 am
    How do you ‘get anything you want?’
    • SLC replied:
      on March 1, 2024 2:51 am
      In the simplest way… by being ‘delusional’. It’s all about the power of manifestation and the belief that you are worthy of everything you want. You have to have an abundant mindset. The more you believe something is meant for you, the more you attract it to you. It’s literally law. I know how powerful the mind/tongue is, so I use it to my advantage. I speak life into whatever I want and I don’t worry about ‘when’ or ‘how’ it’s going to come. It just does. I believe I’m deserving of what I want so all I do after affirming in my belief is acting accordingly.
  • Someone asked:
    on February 28, 2024 5:09 am
    Good morning! My question today is about something i have been obsessing on for a few weeks: I met a guy: multi-milionaire, awesome, he as been in the 2 tops universities in the world and is CEO of 3 firms. I was out of a toxic relationship when i met him and he immediately blew my mind so i showed up as a pickme and the good girl from the beginning. He took me for granted quite quickly (we dated 3-4 months) How to know if a man that messed up with us was a player and came with bad intentions From the Beginning or if it is because i have been « the good girl », i did not show our boundaries and was too nice that he decided to play with time? (sorry for my syntax, i am french) Thank you in advance for the reply
    • SLC replied:
      on March 1, 2024 6:44 pm
      Hi boo, tbh you have to be able to see the signs. People may not show all their red flags in the beginning, but there will definitely be signs if something isn’t right. I think because he was a multi-millionaire you ignored any potential signs that would show you okay this guy is a player and not serious. No matter who someone is, or what they have, you cannot let that blind you from who they truly are/how they treat you. Do not be a pick me for any of these dudes because they still won’t pick you. Men know who to play with. If they see that you’ll do whatever they say/take disrespect, thats exactly what they’ll do… disrespect you. So for next time, please set some boundaries and honour your standards. No one will try to play you once they know you’re not one to play with. xoxoxo
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