Is Your Boyfriend Not Listening To You When You Vent?

Are Your Girls Tired Of Giving You Advice About The Same Guy Every Other Week? 

Do You Need Advice On Things That You Just Don’t Want To Share With Your Family & Friends?

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Answers So Far..

  • Someone asked:
    on January 26, 2025 11:47 pm
    Hey girl how do i become a more high value feminine woman ? I’m at the age where i just want to bask in my Femininity and power
    • SLC replied:
      on January 28, 2025 1:19 am
      1. Know your worth a high value woman knows that she is the prize. Never settle for less. Know what you want and don’t be afraid to demand it. Maintain high standards for yourself and set healthy boundaries. Learn to say no. Be kind but still direct. It’s all about respecting yourself. 2. Knowledge is power the more you know, the better. Whether its reading more books, listening to podcasts, taking new courses, trying new things; constantly work on self-improving. 3. Embrace your femininity connect more with your feminine side. its okay to feel your feelings. it’s okay to be soft. welcome the energies of grace, empathy, charm, softness, warm etc. 4. Be confident carry yourself with confidence. A high value woman believes in herself and what she has to offer to the world. confidence is key. keep that self-esteem high. you’re 1 of 1. 5.Put yourself firstThis is your life and you need to take responsibility for it, if that means putting your needs before others than so be it. You can’t pour from an empty cup. prioritize self-care: your psychical, mental and emotional well-being should be your top priorities.
  • Someone asked:
    on January 26, 2025 1:05 pm
    What are some red flags in a guy? I wanna see if the man im talking to has some😩
    • SLC replied:
      on January 28, 2025 1:37 am
      if you gotta ask he might already have some lmao….. but anyhow some red flags you should watch out for are: arrogance, cheap, can’t communicate/express himself, ignores your boundaries, overly-protective/controlling (we love a protective man but if he’s telling you where you can and can’t go or how to dress or who you can speak to.. issa no), moves too fast (beware of lovebombing), and spends most of his time on you (if a man has no friends i’m looking at him sideways idc.)There are many more but those are my major ones, beware girl🚩
  • Someone asked:
    on January 23, 2025 6:49 am
    Hi girl I want to know How to communicate with new people who can help me in my career. Like where i work i see lots of Government Officials Who can help with my career path, but i always do not know how to spark up conVersations with them that they will like me and my intellect.
    • SLC replied:
      on January 28, 2025 12:44 am
      it really comes down to how bad you want the opportunity! you gotta fake it till you make it girl. Practice exuding confidents, not just in how you speak but your whole aura. you need to walk in the room like you belong there; from having a fixed posture to having your head held high , down to your smile, exude confidence. You should practice some speaking points beforehand as well, it could be simple points from hows your day to more career specific points introducing yourself/what you do. Make a list that way you’ll know beforehand which speaking points you can use. Practice speaking to yourself in the mirror or to a friend/family that way you’re more comfortable when the time comes to actually speak to these Officials. When it comes time to actually sparking up a conversation with them, you have to feel the fear and do it anyways. Again it could start off simple with a hello or how are you. The more you do that, the more they’ll recognize you and whenever you feel you’re ready, start positioning the conversations career wise. Key tips – make sure you’re actively listening (people love talking about themselves), be charming- show them your personality and why you got hired in the first place, and be knowledgeable/engaging – the more you know the more you’ll be able to speak on certain things. Believe in yourself girl, you’re already near the table, now you just need to put yourself in the position to get a seat at the table!
  • Someone asked:
    on January 22, 2025 6:39 pm
    How do i move forward from my ex cheating on me? I keep on thinking About what he did to me. I have been trying to focus on myself but i do find myself dwelling on the situation and what the other girl has on me
    • SLC replied:
      on January 28, 2025 12:32 am
      it’s normal to still have those thoughts lingering, again it was betrayal and betrayal isn’t something anyone would just get over easily. Know that there are gonna be days where it’s constantly on your mind all you’ll be going through all the ‘whys’ and ‘what if’s’, but also know that there will be days where you’ll look back on the situation and it won’t even phase you anymore. I think the best way to move forward other than focusing on yourself (practising more self-love, prioritizing self-care, doing things that make you feel good) which i always promote, is looking at the situation from a different perspective. I know how hurt you must feel knowing that he cheated, but aren’t you glad that you’re no longer with someone who would do that to you? Isn’t it a good thing that your time, loyalty, energy and love is no longer being wasted on someone who didn’t deserve it? You aren’t the one who lost anything, he did. That other girl could’ve been Beyoncé for all i care, nothing justifies cheating and he will forever be the one in the wrong in this situation. You have to constantly remind yourself that you’re above this situation and more importantly that you’re above him. The more you look at this from a ‘thank you God for showing me this persons true colours’ perspective, the more better off you’ll be. fuck him, respectfully. You are and forever will be the prize. He didn’t see it, but someone else will. The most important thing is that you see it yourself.
  • Someone asked:
    on January 19, 2025 7:56 pm
    Hey girl! How do one deal with Breakup after a long term Relationship. I was in a Relationship for 6years, since i was 16, now we broke up january 5, things ended badly btw us, i reached out to him after a week of the Breakup, he Agreed for us to meet , later in the Evening he sent a text that he Doesn’t want to see me again. Wah should i do 😓, i really want to see him, i need to talk to him, i miss him , i really Can’t stop Thinking about him. I had to go work as an Hairstylist in a salon to Distract myself, but it Isn’t helping.
    • SLC replied:
      on January 21, 2025 1:58 am
      hi baby, firstly him not wanting to see you should be all the sign you need to show you that it’s time to move on. You should never force communication, if its not mutual then you need to let it go. You gotta respect his boundaries and it’s time for you to set up your own. I know you two were together for a long time but it’s common for young couples to outgrow each other. I don’t know what caused the break up but you never know how much of a blessing in disguise certain situations can be. This is your time to fully focus on you. i tell girls this all the time when they as for break up advice, the best way to get over a break up is by loving on yourself extra hard. You were 16 when you got into this relationship and im not saying this is true for you but when we’re that young, we’re easily influenced; there’s probably so many things that you have not experienced outside of your relationship FOR YOU. It’s time to do embrace those things. Relearn yourself as a young single woman. Think about what you want (minus your ex) and indulge in it full force. Indulge in you! I think you working in the salon is a great start, distracting yourself is good. The more you’re focused on you, the less your focus will be on your break up. Know that you are stronger than you know. It’s going to be a journey, break ups always are, but with time + focus on yourself, you’ll slowly start to heal. Rooting for you💞
  • Someone asked:
    on January 18, 2025 8:00 pm
    Who knows maybe staying quiet and pretending like nothing happened these last 2-3 years for you will make me go crazy and believe that. It’s Clear to me that you don’t care about me and never did. Maybe it’ll Ease up your guilt or like you owe me something because i’m a “good girl”. Maybe switch it up a bit use another tactic. Fuck another girl so you’ll be that guy who fucks not loves someone. Or Try Making Me Feel Insecure So I’ll Chase You. Women respect men that have self respect. What’s worse a man that’s a player or a man that wants you to be his mother and hides behind pretends he’s a good guy? They both act like they’re Better and entitled. maybe actually being a real man wouldn’t need you to try and play so many games so your ego don’t get hurt.
    • SLC replied:
      on January 19, 2025 3:42 am
      okay girl, i’m all for the girlies using this page to vent but at the rate you’re sending these, it is starting to turn into spam. It’s not even the constant messages that bother me, its more-so your wellbeing that has me concerned. I know you’re hurting from what this man has done to you and trust me i can read your pain, but this is not the proper way to heal. You’re constantly focused on him rather than moving on for yourself and its not healthy anymore. You need to let this man go. All the energy you’re putting into to sending these posts about him or to him through this page is energy that you’re wasting. That energy could be poured into you doing literally anything else to better yourself. Healing is a process i know but there are so many ways for you to make this healing journey faster. Sitting around complaining, venting, mopping, about him 24/7 is not going to help you. If it’s a situation that can be dangerous than you need to let someone else know and get help. I need you to focus on you and your happiness now. You’ve let this man take so much from you and its time to take it back. The second your mind goes onto him i want you to focus on something else. The more you do this, the less control this pain has on you. Do things for you, do things that make you happy. You were whole before him and you’re still whole after him. Don’t let him break you. I pray you start taking the steps to healing from this relationship💞
  • Someone asked:
    on January 17, 2025 6:26 pm
    Hi girly💕! So recently I have started texting this guy who lives in another country. Funny thing is that two months prior that I started learning that country’s language and I even thought about moving there after uni. We have been texting for almost a month now and we really clicked. We are so similar and I don’t know I just haven’t met someone like him yet(and I have talked to A LOT of guys). Things are progressing and both of us think this could become something serious. We have made plans to meet in the summer. I have never did long distance stuff and I just want your advice on how to know he’s not playing me. I am very quick to spot a player and this guy seems very genuine but somewhere in my mind there is always this though that maybe he’s playing me because of my old experiences with men.
    • SLC replied:
      on January 19, 2025 3:29 am
      hi boo, i think that you should just trust your intuition for now, things are still fresh and cute and so i don’t think you need to immediately go into the ‘he’s probably playing me’ rabbit hole. Obviously if you see certain red flags pop up then make a note of them and move accordingly but for now i’d say to just enjoy where it’s at. Don’t put what men in the past have done to you on him. Be slightly cautious ofc but have fun! I will say that if you two do decide to make it serious that you set up boundaries that way the relationship is being respected even with the distance.Long distance is hard but if the persons worth it, no amount of distance can get in between that.
  • Someone asked:
    on January 9, 2025 6:10 pm
    Hey girl! Huge fan of your work by the way. I have planned this year on keeping all my self care tasks on my phone to set out reminders. But I don’t know which app is best. I tried a few but you can’t do anything on them without paying a subscription (and unfortunately right now I can’t afford big expenses). I would love to know if by chance you or anybody knows of any reminder/self care apps that can use to set out reminders for to keep myself more organised. Thanks!!✨️❤️
    • SLC replied:
      on January 9, 2025 9:29 pm
      aww thanks boo i appreciate it💞 i’d recommend notion.. she is that girl! my whole life from managing my ig pages, to my business, to my to-do lists are planned out on notion, i couldn’t recommend it enough. i love it too because its so customizable and caters to more than one thing that you need. There is a pay subscription if you want more space or extra stuff but i use it for free and it gets the job done. If you need tips on all the ways to utilize it just search it up on youtube. definite game changer. i hope your year is all organized & you get everything you need done✨
  • Someone asked:
    on January 4, 2025 12:38 pm
    Heyyy🙃happy new year dear, hope you are doing good I’m a 20 Year old and I have been through military training and while I was there on my graduation day I met a guy that is of a different tribe, our tribes oppose each other but we rolled and have been in a relationship for a year now. He wants kids and I love kids but I voiced out that I don’t wanna have kids without changing my lifestyle to be suitable for my babies because I can’t repeat my cycle. I really don’t know how to go about this matter because we still did not meet each other’s family, I want to have a child when I know I’m emotional, spiritually, mentally, financially and physically ready for it. I don’t want to loose my person but he has been speaking about wanting to be a father and a husband. I just have fear of the unknown, repeating traumatic cycle’s and unstableness. Please help me🥺
    • SLC replied:
      on January 6, 2025 8:41 pm
      happy new year love! awe i feel what you’re going through, i too wanna have kids when i know im 100% ready and im not willingly to budge on that for anyone. Tbh you just have to let your partner know how you feel honestly because it’s not just about your lifestyle changing, but it’s also about childhood trauma you have too. I think if you’re open and honest with him he should be understanding. Let him know that there would be no benefit in you being a mother when you’re not ready for it. Also i think you two need to set up a visit with one anothers family too before anything gets too serious. Remember that this is your body so that means it’s your rules. Continue to work through your traumas while growing into the woman that will be ready for those next steps.
  • Someone asked:
    on January 4, 2025 7:29 am
    Hi sissy! I just want to ask if am i the only one who’s kinda stress out when picking a outfit? Or planning outfit for an event or trips? 😭 like the details stress me out omygosh thank uu
    • SLC replied:
      on January 6, 2025 8:34 pm
      hi boo, omg girl ofc you aren’t the only one😭 i’m the same way because i wanna make sure my outfits E-A-T everytime i step out. trust me its normal, what i’ve learned to do is make a list of all my outfits (worn or not) and then a last of individual clothing garments (pants, dresses, tops) and then that way its easier for me to put full outfits together because i can envision them through my list. Its soo much harder when you don’t know all the different options you even have in your closet so this helps me a lot.
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