Is Your Boyfriend Not Listening To You When You Vent?

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Answers So Far..

  • Someone asked:
    on April 26, 2024 8:36 am
    My ex boyfriend broke up with me about 9 months ago, there was no explanation for it he just told me he did not love me anymore and wanted to be with someone else. But two things were always confusing to me and everyone who knows of the situation: he says I haven’t done anything bad to influence his decision, and he has gone over to someone who has a child (I know he wanted a child like crazyy). In May I found out I suffer from PCOS (Polycystic ovary syndrome) and in July out of the blue He did this. Even though i have generally moved on and for the most part it was a hidden blessing, I spiritually am having a hard time with him, because as someone who believes in this type of thing it does make sense Certain situations that have been happening with me (and him). With time everyone has eventually found out that he did not break up with me by his own free will, which has made some people talk about it again saying that maybe there’s people influencing him and that they don’t want him happy. But the issue is I am Someone who is open to give out second chances to everyone if I believe it is possible, but in his case I’m not so sure. I’m not expecting him to come back to me but people constantly talk about that possibility and it makes me confused. I don’t know what to do…
    • SLC replied:
      on April 27, 2024 9:23 am
      hi angel, i personally don’t think you should give him a second chance if there was a possibility to. I know you said there may have been influencing factors that made him break up with you, but no one who actually wants to be with you would just leave you like that and then on top of that be with someone else. He’s a grown man (over 18) i’m assuming and is in control of his choices at the end of the day. He chose to walk away from the relationship. Of course i don’t know the full situation, there could be so many different factors, however i think that you should let bygones be bygones. Like you said, it was a hidden blessing in disguise. I’m happy that you’re in a place of moving on and i just feel like you should continue on that journey.
  • Someone asked:
    on April 23, 2024 8:25 pm
    What do you do if you have ppl that try to bring you down with them
    • SLC replied:
      on April 24, 2024 10:52 pm
      Umm LEAVE THEM ALONE! You cannot surround yourself with people who don’t want more for themselves. People will drag you down with them if you let them. If you want more for yourself, you have to be brave enough to separate yourself from those who are okay with being mediocre for the rest of their lives. There’s nothing wrong with saying “I’m better than this” and moving forward. Plain & simple.
  • Someone asked:
    on April 23, 2024 2:02 pm
    Gym or pilates girly?
    • SLC replied:
      on April 24, 2024 11:07 pm
      i’m definetly more of a gym girly. weight lifting is my go to right now (trynna get this booty right😜), but i’ve dabbled in a few pilates classes. I say they’re both good/beneficial for you, it just depends on what your fitness goal is. Shit do both if you can! One thing i’ll say though is don’t think pilates is all dainty and cute lmao i be leaving there SWEATING AND SORE!
  • Someone asked:
    on April 23, 2024 8:47 am
    I had a friend sometime last year who i Considered to be super close to me stop engaging in the things i posted. It starter last summer i noticed she no longer was watching my IG stories or liking my posts but would watch and like mutuals she met through me. Anyway, sometime at the beginning of this year she started an argument with me out of nowhere and we havent talked since. I’m wondering now if this person has always been a secret hater or a friend that turned into one.
    • SLC replied:
      on April 24, 2024 10:17 pm
      Honestly girl it’s hard to say, the friend to secret hater trope is real big these days. It’s hard to know who was ever really genuine. If you guys can’t bounce back from a simple argument then tbh there’s no need for the friendship. Maybe she did have secret animosity towards you and used that argument as a way to end the friendship. Who knows. All I do know though is that you don’t need people like that in your life. We do not have time for unsupportive people in our lives🗣️. Do not surround yourself with energies that vibrate lower than yours. As I always say some people are meant in our lives for a reason or just a season. Clearly she was just for the season and that’s okay. You don’t want people with ulterior motives in your life anyways.
  • Someone asked:
    on April 22, 2024 1:31 pm
    How can i stop stressing so much? I be out having fun and im still Thinking about everything and all of my problems, which ruins the Moment for me
    • SLC replied:
      on April 24, 2024 9:32 pm
      You have to learn to live in the moment. You’re either stressing about something that’s gonna happen in the future or something that’s already happened in the past. In either of those instances you aren’t being present & that’s why you’re unable to enjoy yourself. I can’t sit here and say oh try not to stress because that’s not realistic, but what I can say is that you need to implement ways to reduce your stress; especially when you’re out trying to enjoy the present moment. 1st tip I’ll give you is to put whatever you’re stressing about into perspective by using the 5 by 5 rule. Ask yourself if it’s something that’s gonna matter in 5 years from now, if not then the rule states don’t spend more than 5 minutes being upset about it. 2nd tip I’ll give you is to start saying stress relieving affirmations, use them when you’re out and feel the stressful thoughts creeping up on you. 1. I am in control of this moment 2. I am calm 3. I am safe 4. I choose peace 5. I am free from stress 6. I invite peace into my life 7. In this present moment, I am in control of my thoughts & actions 8. I choose calm energy right now 9. I will not stress over things I cannot control 10. I am enjoying this moment. The 3rd tip id give you is to try and implement meditation, I personally don’t mediate as much anymore but when I was dealing with a lot of racing thoughts/anxiety I use to implement meditation almost daily. There’s a bunch of guided apps/guided YouTube videos you can use as well. I’d even recommend listening to ones that have stress relieving affirmations included in them. All in all, the problem is that you’re not living in your present moment and you need to train your mind to focus on the now. Whatever happened in the past you cannot change and whatever is going to happen in the future you cannot control because you aren’t there yet. Enjoy the moments in front of you, it’s all we have. You will always have problems. Learn to enjoy life while solving them.
  • Someone asked:
    on April 15, 2024 4:03 pm
    How can i elevate?
    • SLC replied:
      on April 16, 2024 7:11 pm
      its all about how much you truly want it. You have to hold yourself accountable to your growth & goals. You can sit and say how much you wanna elevate all day long but if you aren’t taking those necessary actions.. guess what? Nothing will be elevating. You gotta make that vision board, you gotta do the research/work, you gotta wake up early, you gotta incorporate self care, you gotta do that extra set in the gym, you gotta constantly remind yourself how much you want this change. Discipline is the name of the game. No one has a gun to your head and no one is gonna force you to do what you need to do. So with that being said you gotta take charge of your own life. YOU have to make life happen for you. Sitting and waiting will do nothing for you but let another year pass where you’re in the same position. Get out that comfort zone, push yourself to be better everyday even if its 1%. Have that ambition, have that discipline, have that ‘glo’d up’ version of you in your head and do what needs to be done!!
  • Someone asked:
    on April 15, 2024 2:46 pm
    Hey What are some signs that you arent meant to be with someone
    • SLC replied:
      on April 16, 2024 7:00 pm
      whew the list could be endless but these are some telltale signs that you shouldn’t be with someoneone.. 1. lose sense of self or you’re a watered down version of yourself 2. you feel empty in the relationship while making sure they feel full 3. you’re anxious or unsettled around them 4.you keep having to convince yourself why you should be with them 5.consistent arguing/disagreements 6. constantly giving more than you’re receiving 7. you’re not happy around them 8.the red flags outdo the green flags 9.they drain you 10.you don’t see a positive (or any) future with them
  • Someone asked:
    on April 14, 2024 9:24 am
    Hey girl love your page so much i had a question .. Am i in the wrong if i dont want my friends friend to come on a group trip im planning? Tbh she rubs me the wrong way sometimes but my friend is so adamant on her coming idk what to do
    • SLC replied:
      on April 16, 2024 7:33 pm
      hi angel thank you, i appreciate you💞 in terms of your question, no i don’t think you’re in the wrong especially if its a trip you’re planning. At the end of the day no one wants to feel uncomfortable around someone who they gotta be around 24/7 on a trip. You just need to tell your friend straight up, sorry girl but you don’t want her friend coming and explain to her why. Since it is your trip she has to respect that. Not everyone meshes well together so if you think that this girl coming will negatively impact the trip for you, then don’t invite her. If your friend ever plans a next trip and that same girl is going, then that will be your choice on if you want to attend or not. However for now, being as this is a trip you’re planning, her friend does not need to come.
  • Someone asked:
    on April 11, 2024 2:38 pm
    what are some affirmation I can say as a young woman rebuilding my confidence and feeling sometimes i am unlovable?
    • SLC replied:
      on April 12, 2024 1:57 pm
      1.I exude confidence & poise 2. I respect and stand up for myself 3. The universe always works in my favour 4. Everything good and divine comes to me 5. I am a very blessed girl 6. I am my own muse 7. What’s meant for me will never pass me 8. I have a purpose in this world 9. I allow myself to live a life of luxury 10. I allow myself experience beautiful things 11. I am worthy of selfless love 12. I protect my time, because I know it’s nonrefundable 13. I do not feel guilty when I reject offers that do not benefit me 14. I am working towards becoming my highest self every day 15. I love every part of my life 16. I always get the best outcome 17. I am mentally, physically and emotionally healthy 18. My mind is always clear and at peace 19. I love how I look at feel everyday 20. I really am the full package. body, face, personality, I got it all.
  • Someone asked:
    on April 4, 2024 10:48 am
    I came to yall months ago about advice with a man having a baby on me and we had only been Together for about 3months and i ended uo staying w him while the baby was growing & i went through every obstacle it was w her and he decided before the baby turn one which was about a week ago and he got an DNA Test done jan.23 and it came back 0% that his was not the father. But im so happy i didnt take yall advice on leaving him. I’m here to say watch them craxy exes they will do and say anything to try get you to leave a man especially when he wont even leave you
    • SLC replied:
      on April 4, 2024 2:46 pm
      hey mammas, i definitely remember your situation. I do know though that i didn’t just say to leave him, i had said to weigh out your options. I stated that realistically it would’ve made sense for you to cut your losses now if you don’t wanna deal with the mess since you and him were early on in your relationship, but I ALSO said you have to decide whether or not he’s worth it. Clearly you decided he was and it worked out in your favour! Nonetheless that’s a crazy situation and I’m happy you guys got your answers. Some exes really do be trifling. He better but a ring on it now 😂 because you are loyal asf! Wishing y’all all the best xoxo
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